How do you show your sympathy to a grieving friend?
By psyche49f
@psyche49f (2502)
Philippines
April 9, 2009 8:04am CST
Death is inevitable; when a friend loses a loved one, we sympathise with the family. Usually, a hug to a friend is enough to express my sympathy, coupled with prayers. No fuss, no lengthy conversation is necessary. Sometimes, talking helps, if it's initiated by the one concerned. However, if my friend prefers to remain silent, then it's good to respect it. But the more important point is that we know the pain that goes with the loss, and it's never easy. Words are not enough, and yet that's the reality of living and losing. I guess there are also other ways of expressing our sympathies to a friend. Please share, so we will all learn from the experience.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
9 Apr 09
my dad passed away in early february and i found out that a lot of people dont know what to say. they seem to be very uncomfortable around you, in fact, some people act down right weird.
a card is a nice gesture, my mom got over 50 of them! i got about 20 or so and you are right about the hugs too. just being there to listen is a good thing too.
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@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
I'm sorry about the loss...it must be too painful beyond words. It's good to know that you have each other, and friends to give comfort amidst your grief...a caring and supportive community is essential to ease the pain of losing a loved one.
@celticeagle (166976)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Apr 09
Respect is very important. I think if you have a good relationship with your friend you know if they need to talk or not. There are different degrees of sarrow and a good friend who understands this is priceless. There will be anger and denial and all sorts of feelings. Be available but not smothering. Be open to the different moods and facets. Being quiet and just being available I think is most important.
