Will you invite your ex-BF/GF to attend you wedding party?
By vivianchen
@vivianchen (2646)
China
April 9, 2009 8:53am CST
Will you invite your ex-boyfriend/Girlfriend, Ex-wife/Husband to attend you wedding party? I start this dicussion because one of my good friends got invitaion from her ex-boyfriend, he invited she to attend his wedding party, although he and she became friends after they borke up, she still felt a little upset.
So i start thinking if i get married, will i invite my ex-bf? We are friends now, he even say that i must invite him if i ever get married, now i don't know if i should invite him, please share you opinions!
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13 responses
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
thats very funny discussion,and you know what in my wedding day i never knew he would come to my wedding though i knew i invite his family to go in my wedding..it was very ackward seeing him while i celebrate my moments...he was very serious at that time cause he was my last bf when i decided to get married...ackward for me cause i knew he still love me so...and he felt bad about our break up...now he accept that i was totaly out of his life..but still remains as friends...heheheh!very funny...
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Jul 09
Well, i am not sure will that work out for me or not. I don't want to hurt someone's feeling, that makes me feel i am a bad people. So i will rather not to invite any related one.
@sheralqadri (153)
• Singapore
21 Apr 09
i'm gettin married in less than a month and i have invited 2 of my ex bfs to come to the reception. i'm still friends with both of them although the 2nd ex is someone whom i will always have love for. in fact he knows my fiance from high school. but they don't get along. i know my fiance would want me to be happy and allow me to invite whoever i wanna but i know he feels uncomfy bout it. but i can't NOT have this guy at the weddin' coz he means so much to me, as a friend. you see, we were friends before we got together. his friendship means so much to me. he said he will be there but whether or not he really rocks up, is anyone's guess.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
22 Apr 09
Well, Sheralqadri, first of all, congratulations that you are getting married! I am sorry to say but i think you are a little selfish. Because what about your fiance invite his ex gf which means a lot to him? How will you feel then? I mean even you know they are just frinds now, but your fiance still have love for? It just so complicated feeling. Anyway, it's up to you. If you think that's going to be okay, then go ahead and invite them.
@sheralqadri (153)
• Singapore
22 Apr 09
to be honest, i have already tolf my fiance that he can invite ex gfs if he want. but he said no coz he don't agree on "bein' friends after you break up" thingo. perhaps i am bein' selfish but at the same time, i also have this question, "why must i destroy friendships, just coz i'm gettin' married?"
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@sophie_dfuss (2365)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
For me it is not polite to invite your ex-bf or ex-gf to your wedding day.
Even if your friend has become friend with her ex-gf its still not ethical to do that kind of thing. Whats the purpose of it?
I think her ex-bf has not really moved on from his past relationship and looks like that he wants to show off to his ex-gf that he is going to get married to a better woman. Thats my thought of it but I am not sure if thats his reason as well.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
20 Apr 09
Hi Sophie, i think it's kind of complicated. What about if those two frineds who used to be bf/gf became a really good budy, and they know each other's new lover? I think that will be okay. But not many as i know can get into that relationship,so it really depends on people thinks.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
18 Apr 09
If he was just a boy friend then it will be okay to invite.But if you had a love affair and got broke up,then how it is possible to invite him?How will you introduce him to your hubby?The position will be very awkward.Better avoid it.Cheers!
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
18 Apr 09
Hi Srganesh,
When i said EX, meaning you guys been together, then you borken up,bu you become friends, but you have your own lover again and he have his own, will you invite him to come over. But i think you are right about you don't know how to introduce to your new family. So i think i will just avoid that. Cheers!
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
19 Apr 09
That's right. But i don't think that will work out because if the ex and the fiance never know each other's existence, how will you going to introduce them to each other, will that be embarrass?
@ButterflyEs (209)
• Canada
18 Apr 09
I would definitely invite my ex-boyfriends to my wedding. Especially the father of my kids. We have become great friends after we broke up and having a child together allowed us to stay focused on our daughter's happiness. Thus, it made us friends that can share pretty much everything, even though the relationship didn't work out. So yes, I would invite my ex-boyfriends, because I would love to share my happiness with them and if I am invited to their weddings, I would be more than glad to attend it to be a part of that wonderful occasion.
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@vivianchen (2646)
• China
19 Apr 09
Hi ButterflyEs, Thanks for responding my dicussion. I am glad that you and your ex have a such great friendship after broke up. Because most of the people i know, after they broke up with each other, they don't want to see each other ever again, they become stranger to each other, so invite each other to other's wedding party seems to be a joke to them. So, i should say you are the special one.
@ButterflyEs (209)
• Canada
19 Apr 09
It is true that not everybody is able to become friends after a break-up; but I believe it might still be a possibility if the separation was something that was decided mutually. Have a nice one Vivianchen :)
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
9 Apr 09
If he and I are still friends I would. My best friend invited her ex to her wedding because they are still friends. There is one ex who I am very good friends with still but I know it would be painful for him to see me get married, but I would want him there. So I am not sure.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
10 Apr 09
It's complicated feeling, i understand that. I am not sure if i will invite my EX for that.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
15 Apr 09
If i got a wedding party invitation from my EX, i will accept it first, i will congratulated him, then i will see if i want to attend the party or not. Most probably, i will not go.
@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
for me, personally i wont invite my exboyfriend to my wedding. it is my act of respect to both my groom/husband and to my exboyfriend. i dont want to put them in situation where other guests will ask them what they feel about seeing each other on that day.. my exboyfriend may be offended by the fuzz and buzz hell hear from other guest if he is seen in the wedding. even though they are friends they may feel uneasy with each other that day because other people dont understand them.
happy mylotting!
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
13 Apr 09
Hello Mizstress,
You are a considerate girl, i thought of that, and i think me and my ex is good frined not, will be be offended? I have no idea. So thank you for lighting me up on that. Thank you and have a nice day!
@haiershen (1080)
• China
22 Jul 09
good discussion, it is very different to give my comment, because i have no ex-bf, i know, if we break up,i will not keep in touch with each other,except who got a woundful friends, if not, i will not to invite him to attend my wedding party, even if we are still better friend. good luck and have a nice day!
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
I will invite him to my wedding, definitely (either I have good or bad intention, I'll still invite him!) If I'm the one being invited by my ex, I'll go too. I want to show him I don't care less. My brother did the same for her ex-fiancee. He invited her to his wedding but she didn't show up though.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
10 Apr 09
I don't think i will ever attend the wedding of my Ex-BF, actually he did not invite me, i got to know he got married from one of my friends. I think that's good for both of us.
