I have a very serious question? Do you think something is wrong with my boyfrien
By cuteandnice
@cuteandnice (2)
United States
April 9, 2009 5:54pm CST
I was living with my boyfriend for 9 months at first he seem sweet. I new he had a bad temper but it never really botheered me anyway. The first 4 months he was okay but then it's like he turned into a manic over night. The first time that we ever had a huge argument was over s3x, he said that maybe I was doing it with someone else because I was doing it with him, then he jumped on me and choked me. That same night as I was trying to tell him that I am not fooling around with anyone but him, it's like he kept trying to argue with me and didn't want to hear what I was saying. One of his ex girlfriends told me that he is bipolar but I didn't really believe her. This guy gets mad for stupid things and then if he not yelling he is crying and if he is not crying he is laughing. Do you guys think that he has a mental problem. I think he does but I don't know if it's bipolar or not.
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
10 Apr 09
Stay a way from him. If he starts to come over to you leave. don't go out by your self for awhile. Yes he is not a safe man. If he is bipolar thatis a if he still can hurt or even kill you. I left right after one of my ex's choked me until I passed out. This is how scared I was I took one suitcase I quit my job and took a bus to a different state. Got a job and got married so there is my story. But stay far away don't go back to him.
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@friend4u_0417 (75)
• United States
10 Apr 09
Yeah I'd say he's bipolar. I have a friend and her mother is the same way and she went to the doctor and they say she has the symptoms of being bipolar. So I think he should go to the doctor and get checked before he ends up doing something bad.
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@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
9 Apr 09
I'd say this guy is messed up, and you'll be doing yourself a favor by ending it right now. He's only going to get worse the longer you let it go. No one should be saying things like that to you or attacking you physically in any way. Cut your losses and get out while you still can. You'll find someone a whole lot better if you give yourself the chance.
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@makeupartisteileen (653)
• Singapore
10 Apr 09
yes you should bring him to check up.since his ex girl friend have the same feel as you why you waiting for? I'm not say him crazy.but at list bring him yo check up. but normally if he got mantel problem he won't accept it .ans won't accept to go any check up. you need to be really careful when you talk to him about such thing.
talk to him nicely ,i might due to stress .
i got a classmate before have mentally problem ..anyone can't talk to him accept me ... you must catch the correct way.
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@cuteandnice (2)
• United States
10 Apr 09
I leaf him, but he won't let me go. I saw him today and he was crying saying that I have his heart and all of that crap. I like him but I don't like his ways, so I know it would never work, he curses in front of my child and then he turns around and say "oh excuse my language". He told me he would go crazy if he saw he with someone else, my mom told me that I should get a restraining order on him, I don't want to do all of that, all I want is for him to leave me alone and move on with his life, but he keep saying he don't want to be with anyone else but me. I think he is a nut.
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@cieldz (709)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 09
o my god that he said bad words in front of ur kid...
thats really so not gentle...
i agree with others that u should leave him even he begged or cried in front of u, please do not risk ur future, and ur kid's future too....
thats an emotional abuse, and maybe he can do worse than that....
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
10 Apr 09
I find it terribly scary.Are yur parents staying somewhere clsoe? are his parents there somewhere close?Even if that fellow harms you physically then there would be no one who is aware of it.Better leave him.He is not your husband.Don't get matters intensify further and cause trauma .Good luck.leave him
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
10 Apr 09
and yet is happens alot... more than you or anyone can imagine.
@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
10 Apr 09
You're not a psychologist (I'm assuming) so I wouldn't jump to the bipolar conclusion, and especially don't mention it to him because he's likely to be offended by the idea! If he is acting like this, however, you need to get rid of him and get rid of him fast. There's jealousy, and insanity, and his comments about you sleeping with someone else go beyond just mere jealousy!
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
Your boyfriend really is scary! About being sweet and such when you guys first met, everyone is like that! We tried our best and do anything to please the ones we love. Plus, we are so blind by love to notice anything. You need to take him to a doctor or talk about this to him or leave him(which I don't think will be easy)
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@spicysweetie21 (2573)
• United States
10 Apr 09
Yes He definitely sounds like he has some mental problems that he needs to sort out and it doesn't seem like it is safe for you to be with him. His choking you is physical abuse and more than likely it will happen again. I don't know you but the fact that you are concerned about him still means that you have a good heart and you deserve better than that, my advice is to leave him because it seems like it would be the best thing for both of you. Good luck and I hope things work out well.
@angelbelle578 (1635)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
Yes i also think he has a problem. Maybe he need to consult a psychiatrist before he get worst. You'll be the one to suffer if thats the case.
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
2 May 09
I think that the ex girlfriend could be right it sounds like there is a possiblity your bf might have bi polar! With Bi Polar people can go into manic states...I think that when he is seeming ok talk to him about it...sounds like he needs help!
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
10 Apr 09
Hi, cuteandnice! Welcome to myLot! I think that someting is wrong with him, he has wierd mood swings. And he is abusive as well! You should leave him alone, he is dangerous to you. I believe that he needs some anger management classes as well. He is jealous and paranoid. Leave him alone before he actually hurst you! He needs psychological help!
Take care of yourself!
Take care of yourself! @mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
10 Apr 09
Oh he is crazy, sounds a little scary actually. Have you ever asked him about this issue?
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@Jenniferp (210)
• United States
10 Apr 09
BEWARE and bail...that is my advice and yes, I think that something is wrong with him. If a guy chokes you, it is a sure sign that he is violent and many times, this will escalate and get worse. You have to protect yourself and you cannot let someone treat you that way. You said that you was living with him, I really hope that you are somewhere else. Good luck.
@gudluck01 (15)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
i think something's wrong to your boyfriend do you give enough attention to him?
@feathers26 (865)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
i think your boyfriend needs a psychiatrist
you can help him by bringing him to a psychiatrist.
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
10 Apr 09
This sounds like trouble, really.
Whatever it is that this guy has, once he puts a hand on a woman or anybody for that matter I would not consider it safe to be around.
Believe me, I consider myself bad tempered at sometimes but I would just take it outside to myself and take a deep breath or two, but never, never take it on my girl or anybody that has nothing to do with it.
Please, consider that, seriously, physical abuse no matter how little it was or how seldomly it has happened, it is not ok.
@vsganesh87 (842)
• India
10 Apr 09
Try to get him to a personal counsellor or psychiatrist for counselling.
It might solve your problem . We can authentically say what he is.
@smartjack (520)
• India
10 Apr 09
y don't you leave him once and for all, because if this is the case for 9 months than what will happen if u marry him? y do u want to mess up with your life with a person who cannot trust u and catches your throat for silly reasons?
@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
10 Apr 09
My dear....This is really serious...You should get him to a doctor..He needs help...If you let this go on, who knows what he might do to you next, if not try to choke you which seems to me as trying to kill and so you should really get professional help and fast! Don't waste any time...But i'm making a judgement here based on the things you've stated so if you really think that it's not just because he's a jerk then go seek a doctor's help...=\ Good luck....
@txgrl21 (819)
• United States
10 Apr 09
You should definately leave him right away before it's gets worse and he tries to harm you again. Did something happen to him in the past that would make him react that way? The reason I ask is because my husband has alot of temper issues as well but it's because he had such a bad childhood. Once I got him to go to a counselor it got better because he was able to talk about his feelings with someone who he could feel completly free to talk about his issues with. Another thing that really helps is going to church. There he can meet someone who he can trust and talk about his feelings to. If he does have that bipolar thing and you should probably ask a doctor.
