He did not recognize me...

You are being very unfair to the person that obviously was less than an intimate connection. I remember people because I remember the face but I am frequently at a loss as to who the person is because they are not in the uniform or clothes I a used to seeing them in, or they are not in the place I am used to seeing them. I suppose I sometimes have a puzzled look as I rack my brains to figure out where I saw this person. To be fair if they do not immediately recognize you and you know who they are you should say something like "You don't remember me do you, my name is Allis Chalmers and we went to Tractor University ten years ago. You were in my plowing a straight row class." After 10 years you probably look a lot different, you don't think so because you have seen the gradual changes day by day and you think you pretty well look the same. I did that to my former next door neigbour just yesterday. Hi I said and for a few seconds she had that puzzled look. I had grown a bushy goatee this winter and I had my toque on and I looked different. It had been four years since they move out but I ran into her from time to time, however this time is seems to be most part of a year since we met.

Hi aseretdd, I've been in the same situation last year. I met two college dormmates at the elevator of the building I work at and we rode in the same elevator. I gave a smile to the two of them but they just gave puzzled looks. I was so embarrassed that I think my face went red lol... I guess since it's been like 9 years since we've last seen each other though I don't think I've changed much, they had forgotten me lol. The woman is a fellow unit mate at a college dorm and the guy is a dormmate in a different building (we call unit). But we always meet up during dorm activities and monthly meetings and we all belong to the same engineering department in college hahaha... weird but yeah, I didn't get upset that they didn't recognize me. Just totally embarrassed . Luckily, both of them got off first from the elevator and I got off the next 3 floors up....

i will just shrug it off. sometimes there are people with poor memories. sometimes there are poeple who remembers a face but is having a hrad to to remember who is that person or where did we met. i am a singer and meet a lot of people during work and sometimes it is not easy to search in my memory list () who are who and when is when.

Hi aseretdd, I may approach and call his name that if he has no wife or girl with him..LOL! I will not be upset, I will just think that maybe I am more pretty now,,,hehehehe and that he can't recognize me anymore! Joke! It happened to me several times, I meet several friends from high school and I can't even recall their names and most of the time, a lot of changes of physical appearance!

Hi aseretdd - I would try not to be upset. I probably would have felt bad too, like you did, initially. But, I have found through the years that when you see someone you know but out of context sometimes it is hard to recognize them. What I'm trying to explain to you is, you used to ONLY see this person at your college. Even though you recognized him it might have been more difficult for him to realize who he was seeing when he saw you. Now, if he had had a chance to try to put the pieces together a little longer, he might have realized it was you. Remember, you had your daughter with you too! I bet you didn't even have a daughter back in college, right?! He might be sitting at home right now thinking "Oh yeah! Now I remember that girl was from college! I can't believe I didn't recognize her at first." Well, just a thought. :) Jill

I guess I would have to call him by his name and then tell him where we met. I just hope he would recognize me afterwards... :)

I would be extremely embarrassed to put it mildly and that also in front of my son. You know how children are…they make you feel so worthless sometimes. However, I know this can happen and so I never give anybody a big smile…at the most it’s a half-smile as I am really testing if the other person recognizes me or not. If the recognition is mutual then of course out comes the big smile.

this happens to me all the time-i still remember people from kindergarten. i'm kind of bummed if they don't remember,but people just forget sometimes after awhile.

Hello aseretdd, I won't get upset if my old schoolmates or university colleagues didn't recognize me at all. In fact, I will be happier I guess I always try to hide myself whenever I see them and I just don't know why. Maybe I changed a lot ...

It's nice to be remembered, but you've both moved on and it's just hard to remember everybody you knew 10 years ago. If I were in your situation I'd just shrug it off.

I think I would have had the same reaction as you did - I would have been amused that I wasn't recognized. I am quite sure that I changed a lot in the past 10 years - from how I look to my attitude. I think I kinda like it when people from my past don't recognize me instantly - I like changing and I like knowing that I DID change :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!

Ten years ago and a male you should have told him who you were,He is probably scratching his head .thinking there was something familiar about her.We all change and thats life.Next time tell him you remember him from school and say how are you doing.xxx

it seems liek your finding it hard to shrug it off, you should have spoken to him i would have. The best thing to do now is forget about it unless you see him agen then go speak to him. occupie yourself to forget about it.

that happens.many of classmates can't recognize me now because I look different

I would definitely shrug it off, or say, "Hey you don't remember me, huh?" and then proceed to tell him who I was. Then if he acted weird I'd shrug it off, lol. I would not get angry.

Well...the truth about me is that it's hard for me to really make friends, so if I run into someone I'd lost contact with and they didn't recognize me, my feelings would probably be hurt, but I'd be able to let it go.

I will feel a little embarrass of course but then just shrug it off. So next time you see someone you think/sure you know but thought he may not recognize you, don't just greet like old friend. Just ask casual questions first like "Do you know what the time is?" - don't ask this while wearing a wrist watch though. Then ask something like "You look familiar, did you go to this school?" If he said yes, then proceed more. If no, then just apologize and stated he/she look like a friend of yours (sound like a pick up line...) Anyway, that trick work for me.

Oh,I feel low.