When is it ok to say no to a friend?
By shirley183
@shirley183 (252)
China
April 9, 2009 11:59pm CST
Friend is so important in you life,but how do you treat them?well,i have a close friend.we're clssmate.And we spend lots of time together,she is charming,popular and often forgets things,compare to she,i'm quiet.Lately i can't stand she.She always ask me to do things for she and i did help.but when i ask she,she said she's so busy that no time to help me.Honestly,helping she is taking up more and more of my time,and i start feel like she really takes advantage of me.
so if you were me ,what would you do?give me some advice,thanks in advance.
4 responses
@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
a friend is a friend when that friend is willing to understand your flaws and limitations.
we should also understand that your friend is also busy. me too, i am guilty about this. and as to your part, i don't think she is your true friend.
if you feel that she is taking advantage of you, then you have the choice. you can say to her how you feel and forgive her.
@maiyhenzkee (682)
• United States
10 Apr 09
I believe that we could actually feel when a friend is just being friendly or being a friendly "user". You would see in her actions, the way she talks to you whenever she needs something and whenever you're the one who needs help.
In your case, how long have you been friends with her? Cause you can actually talk to her regarding how you feel about what she's doing, but make sure that you're not gonna sound like you're blaming her, explain to her that it's just her actions that makes you uncomfortable being with her, and not really her as a person.
If you're really friends, she's gonna understand it and will be willing to change her attitudes.
Me and my friends sometimes get into conflicts but we make sure we talk about it, we've been friends for a decade so it's really not that hard anymore to open up with them.
Try to weigh the situations, if you can say it to her that's gonna help a lot.
Goodluck shirley! =)
