how to be friends with your kids
By rocketsky
@rocketsky (1013)
China
April 10, 2009 3:30am CST
every single parents love their kids so mcuh ,but how could they sometimes communicate better with them ?I think that si bery serious quistion concerning every single one of parents on earth ,no mattetr where you are ,no matter what you do ,you should pay attention to this problom .
kids today were born in a new era ,they accepted new kind of culture that we always considered unappropriate and unacceptable ,we should find good ways to tell our kids to go in the wrong way and not go to the negative part .
but I do think ,we should sometimes make friends with them more often ,and support some of their good hobbies ,we can not object all of their actions ,that will truly make them get bored of us and deemed us to be their enemies ,not their friends.
dont be a foolish parens ,be a good one ,get stared ,now !
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21 responses
@dineshkumargn (152)
• India
10 Apr 09
even a foolish parents not love their kids... so much of communicate better than serous concerning every single of parents.... in child r not addict to others people activites...
@rocketsky (1013)
• China
10 Apr 09
all parents love their kids but they always choose the wrong way to do :)
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
You hit the nail right on the head. True enough, a lot of thing are going on and many things can influence our children in so many ways. The most important thing is to always let them feel that we are there. Treat them not only as your children but as your friend as well. By doing so, you will surely have a great and healthy relationship and they will be open to you always. Discipline when needed and provide love and care not money. Some parents thought that giving their children all the money that they want is enough, but I would rather say that money without love and care will eventually not make you a good parent.
@dineshkumargn (152)
• India
10 Apr 09
some parents not good relationship with child...these r problem create in child...
@dineshkumargn (152)
• India
10 Apr 09
actins can take good for child ... food activites to health child give to her parents... these actvities r not proper in family...
@dineshkumargn (152)
• India
10 Apr 09
parents are good friends too the child hood days.....we are communicate with child...problem r recover only parents... those people are create good friend...
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
In order to your kids' friend, you have to start your training early...not when it's too late. Sometimes we take for granted our being good parents that we become alarmed only when it's already too late. Start your discipline program (self-control) as early as 6 months old, and you will note that it would a breeze being their friend since you started them young....so to be their friends, let's all be conscious about spending quality time with our kids as early as possible...
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
10 Apr 09
well i used to tell my kids, i can be their friend if they need to talk to someone, i will listen with an open mind, and take thier feelings in conseration, but we often need to be parents more then freinds.
parents who tries to be friends with thier kids often fail to see what need to be dealt with. as long my kids did what they were suppose to do, i was good, but when the time came when i needed to be a parnets i was.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
10 Apr 09
I agree with that. We need to stop dominating our children and dictating terms to them , instead try to understand them and be there when they need us. It is very important when they grow up to give them space and freedom to make their own decisions, and trust them. Even if we feel that they are doing something wrong, we need to talk it over and try to make them realise this without antagonising them...I have 3 grown children and i am having excellent relationship with all of them most of time they treat me like one of their friends teasing me and sharing every little thing..
@dany2391 (128)
• Romania
10 Apr 09
Parents have to think more about their children's feelings.Sometimes the kids are right and the parents are wrong.Not many times,but it happens.
My point is that in a family everyone's opinion matters even a 5 year old's.In order to become friends with your kids you have to really listen to their problems and have open talks with them to be able to earn their trust
@charlenmendoza (922)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
I don't have kid but my sister have a son who is 14 years old. She and her son are like siblings. They talk like friends, they talk anything, girls, going out, his goals in life. They talk about his father who left them and my sister about her boyfriend and all the guys that courted her. But he still know that my sister is his mother and he knows his boundaries as a son.
@mhil84 (182)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
For me to be closer or friend with the kids is to have a special time to spend with them to talk, it maybe hard at start cause most of the children/ kids at younger age tend to focus on other things but yeah, having quality time spend with them will help bond your relationship with them strongly and eventually it will help build trust among your kids, in this way you'll be able you guide him/her much better to be a good person.
@suprajason (3)
• United States
10 Apr 09
it is a good idea to be friends with your kids while maintaining the respectable parent position. if you get to close as "friends" they will just see you as a friend and not an authority figure. just watch that. because then they will be more prone to not listen to what youre saying as parents and blow you off as friends. just be careful where you draw the line
@narayan2006 (2954)
• India
10 Apr 09
Kids are pure,simple,innocent and divine in nature in which ever circumstances and surroundings they are born.They are free from all dirty complexities of life; they do not feel any differences in terms of language,caste,creed,race,religion and other man made customs and conventions. The only thing that attract them most are natural love and affection. Loving words are the only powerful language that draws kids closer to you. One need to unconditionally accept the manner in which they move,act,play and behave. Pour as much love as you can to your kids after removing all kinds of pre-conceived adulthood notions and conditions from your mind. Be innocent,natural and acceptable to your kids,in all kinds of transactions.Thanks.
@worldbestwriter2008 (1633)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
hehehe, of course gotta talk to them everyday treat them as close friends like telling them a story..listen to their problems..and a good communication..that was the task of my cousins parents..i would like to give an example from my cousin because i don't experience them from my family of my own. i am afraid with my parents my cousins parents have been good to their kids, they tell stories before sleep and when they have a fun walk their parents would tell a story about the history of that place, things and other elements then they encourage their kids to tell them their little secrets and on the other hand they told also their past..my cousins parents sometimes called their bestfriend in life.
@neerajpandey_13 (1765)
• India
10 Apr 09
In these days kids are not kids. They are more then Kids. Understanding themselves is very typical job. Even they are very cunning in nature as well.
@Informer (802)
• India
10 Apr 09
Hi Friend,
I think to be a friend of your kid you just need to listen them. When they come from school they have a lot to say, listen that and if you get anything wrong, just guid your kid about that. Just try to listen your kids thinking and tell him/her your just with calmness..
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
10 Apr 09
It is something that I want to do with my kids later on in life. I have old my eldest many time. I have said to him that even though I will always be his mother, I don't want to be mother to him for the rest of his life. I want to be his friend.
