Is my ex fiance worth to have a second chance after telling that he has an ADD?
By kolen26
@kolen26 (12)
Philippines
April 10, 2009 9:33am CST
ADD means Attention Deficit Disorder.If a person has ADD he cannot pay attention to only one thing. The problem is he is taking medicines for it, which make him worst. He neglects me all the time, doesn't listen at me if he doesn't like to listen. This is a problem for me, and if I'll marry him I doubt if we will be happy. But, he ask for another chance. I do love him but, I'm still doubtful to tie myself to him. I know that it's not his fault to be like this. What will I do?
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2 responses
@Niah1976 (739)
• Paranaque, Philippines
10 Apr 09
Try to think about it because getting married is such a serious thing. If you have doubts then maybe you don't really love the guy. Marriage should bring happiness to your life not misery. Besides, think if he will be capable of being a good father as well as being a husband. But I personally suggest that don't rush into things. Just enjoy life. Ask GOd's guidance always.
Good luck to you!!!
@JasminGrady22 (17)
• United States
14 Feb 12
Getting married is a VERY big step to take. This is something that has to be taken slowly, especially if your fiance has ADD. To deal with someone who has this disorder, you have to have A LOT of patience. If not, then maybe this relationship is not a healthy one for you.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
10 Apr 09
You have a very good question. ADD is a disorder which really holds some controversy with some people. Some feel that people or children need medication for it and some think that medicating might make matters worse.
I know how it feels to experience someone or some people that have been diagnosed with this disorder.
This situation of ADD or ADHD has different ways of affecting different people in my opinion.
I know that children can be afflicted with it which makes them not able to focus properly and it also comes with not being able to sit still and the like therefore promoting medicating them.
As children grow to become adults they still might be afflicted with the ADD however they might settle down a little more but are still faced with not being able to focus on one thing and in your case that can be quite frustrating.
If you are an organized person in your life you are going to be confronted a lot more with this frustration when it comes to dealing with someone that isn't organized.
If you have the patience and tolerance for this kind of thing then it makes you a better person. I just wish you much luck. If you really love this person then it is important to accept them and help them work through their problems. Emotional support can be very important to people with ADD.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Thank you so much for best response. I truly speak from the heart and personal experience. It can be a very frustrating thing to deal with ADD.
I know that you are concerned with this. As far as violent tendencies of the disorder I haven't really ever come across anything like that in my life with the people afflicted with it.
It is probably something that you will have to look into with a professional or another person with the experiences. Just try to remain patient and let things progress naturally.
