What would you do........

Hi there crivas, One thing experience has left me, do not try to convince your significant other to believe what you think. Instead, do whatever you need to do, either get that thing or not, but have her/him know your true feelings towards that opportunity, don't try to be pushy, just let that person know, that's it. I've been in the situation before and it is frustrating when your partner without blinking just doesn't want to even cooperate by listening at least. It is just not worth it, do not depend on somebody else if they do not want to even hear what you have to say.

Not only have I been there, but having been married for only just under 3 years now, we still hit rocky patches. The key to a successful relationship is communication. That being said, if your partner refuses to even listen to you, the only thing you can do is explain your point of view, let them know how important this is to you, and that while you wish they would be on board with you, you are doing/buying this thing with or without their support. If you are not married, then it is much easier to do things without the support of the other. In my rocky patches with my significant other, once he realizes how important something is to me, he usually opens up more to discussions about it. Conflict is a very hard thing for me, so I have a problem with walking away from him if he raises his voice or if I can't think of how to respond. So sit down and think about all of the reasons why you need to do this. Write them down if you need to. Then go to your partner and tell them how you feel. If you are married or engaged to be married, then explain that a marriage is a partnership and that is why you want to discuss this with them, but that you plan on doing it regardless of their willingness to participate. I have found on more than one occasion that, when I wanted to do something and my husband wanted no part of it, if I told him I was doing it anyway, even though he disapproved, he will sometimes change his mind and want to do it with me.

That is a really hard question to answer when I don't know the object of your problem. But I can say that in a relationship, for it to work, there has to be comunication and decissions need to be made together, especially when it is something important, like this sounds. What would I do, talk to him about how it makes you feel when he makes decissions without your input. Don't get angry and yell. Don't accuse him of anything. Say it in a manner where all you are doing is telling him how it affected you and how he made you feel. Like tell him how much it hurt you that he made this decission without your input. The problem with a lot of relationships today isn't so much that people don't communicate but it is how they communicate. No accusing, just explaining how it made you feel. Good luck my friend.

That is not a good thing for a relationship when two people can't discuss things together and try to come to an understanding. We are not always going to agree in our partnerships but each person needs a chance to get their point across. Too much of this in a relationship where one person won't be open minded for discussion is going to lead to more problems for you. I don't like that behavior at all out of a partner. It is a give and take and you have to accept each other for your opinions. Talking things out and keeping the communication open between two people is paramount in having a relationship survive. I would say to hang in there for a while and try to keep talking. If your partner keeps up with this and doesn't ever give in and just wants things their way then you could be headed for a problem. Keep your discretion in your dealings. Take care.

First of all I would tell my partner that this is a relationship that the two of you have built and that when your partner wants to discuss something with you that you listen and then discuss it, so in respect to you your partner should do the same for you. Your partner should listen to you even if your partner does not agree. The two of you should then sit down an go over the Pro's and Con's of this opportunity, and at that time you should express your feelings as you have done in this discussion. It is not fair to either one of your for either of your to ever refuse to discuss something. Your partner at least owes you their reason why they do not want to discuss it. If it was me I would approach my husband and tell him that his refusal to talk to me about this opportunity has really hurt me and I thought that this marriage was a partnership. I would appreciate it if you would at least just listen to me and help me write the Pro's and Con's of this opportunity down before making a decision. I would like for you to hear my reasons I think this is a once in a lifetime opportunity, and then I would like you hear your reasons why you think we should not take advantage of the opportunity. Good luck....

Relationships mut be mutual, not forced, if not there is no true love

i would've talked to my girlfriend and told her that it was really important to me that she listen because if something is important to you, it should be important to your partner. and also who doesn't love a good deal? try to convince them by pointing out the good things about what you are looking at but also remember to consider your partner's rebuttles. i think overall, you should always discuss before making an important decision and respect each other's points / opinions. may i ask what it was that you wanted?

Hi, i think you need to talk it over again, lay the advantages and disadvantages to the thing you wanted to purchase, for me i think he may have some important reasons why he refused to, asking him the reasons would make you comfortable why he doesn't, well its just a matter of not understanding the thing, it might also be not a priority or something else.

Well no one in good relation would jerk it off without reflecting upon any proposal you would put because only for that you are partners ore else you could do being all alone as well. It could be so that you for one or the their reason forgot or overlooked to exp[lain the whole deal and this might have hurt the persona of your friend. So as there is still time try to explain to her in such a manner that tells every detail and if still the opportunity slips off your hand be sure you are not in a goo=d position in your relationship.

i think it is better to approach things as you would had it been family. i definitely would talk to a sibling plain outright of the importance of acquiring such property. i don't think a relationship with a partner is that much different from a relationship with a sibling. they're both family and they would always be there for you no matter what. at least, a sibling always would.

i would have to let go. relationships are not by force and should be mutual