what's your birth position in your family? any special treatment?

my husband and i decided to have an only child because that is what we can afford. yes, sometimes i would look at my child playing alone and pity him and think twice about giving him a sibling but i would resort to the thought that assurance of a future is better than beating loneliness. each of us is bound to experience loneliness anyway in one form or another in our lives. your parents only wanted you to have the best

I partially agree. There are other ways to ensure a child's future without them being an only child. My parents actually tried to have more children and couldn't. So, they didn't intend for me to be an only child... it just happened. It just depends on the parents and their way of thinking. There is no right or wrong in this situation.

i also have an only child and almost always gets what he wants. i guess it's natural for a lot of people to say that an only child is spoiled because you always give a child what he wants. because you can. it's not bad. as long as the child knows that you got it for him because you had an extra money to spend. my child at 3 knows what he wants and tells us then says aloud that we'll buy the moment we had an extra money. that's what i always tell him and that's what he now knows. i know it's unfair that people brand onlies as spoiled. they shouldn't. it's almost as though one is saying that a child that comes from a large family is deprived. that's not done and it shouldn't be done, right?