I need help with my husband!

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I want to apologize to my friends here at myLot I have not been around much because I have been busy with my hubby. About 4 weeks ago my husband got stomach cramps when he went to the bathroom at work and came home "sick" the next day he did not go to work. Then he went to work the following day and the same thing happened so he came home. Well in a matter of two weeks he only worked one day and went into work three days and came home with "Said stomach pains" the stomach pains are only there when he has a bowel movement and are over when the BM is over. Now since then he has been worked up by the doctor with a CT scan, and abdominal Sonogram and they found a hernia that is filled with fat and it is 2cm in size. That is all they found. So we to a surgeon and an gastroenterologist. He is scheduled for a colonoscopy on the 22 of this month. In the mean time he has not gone back to work. I cannot make him go back to work. I did get some money out of my retirement fund and paid off most of our bills except a few. I can pay off a few more but I have been holding off because I am afraid my hubby will not get disability for a stomach ache when he has a BM. Now I have called my husband's work to see if something has happened or if he was falling behind. His boss says my hubby is doing fine. At work and that he does such a good job at his work. Now my hubby works two jobs and he has been going in to his part time second job and been doing fine. That is another reason I do not think disability will pay him anything. I told my hubby that I took money out of my retirement and I am trying to pay off enough bills so he could quite his part time job. He said he would rather quit his full time job which makes the house payment. I was so upset I walked away and started crying. When I told him he if he quite his full time job he we could not make our house payment he said "SO" We did talk about it later he says he is not going to quit his full time job but guess what he still has not gone back to work. As far as work goes they think he is sick. Now how is he acting at home you may ask? He is sitting in front of the TV and watching TV. He is not helping around the house, he is not participating in anything I do. He is eating fine and making dishes and what not doing a thing around here. He does ask me to go with him not matter where he goes. I have enough money stored away for three months of house payments if we do not spend any extra money and if nothing goes wrong. Now you will not believe what happened to our pool pump and motor I think it has gone out. It is making such a racket and not pumping. I got an estimate today and it could cost us 1000 dollars to fix it. Now in CA we have to go to a dual speed pump that is a lower RPMs and runs a longer time but pulls less electricity. The trouble is you have to change the timer to a special digital one also. In the long run it pays for its self but not now! It was like pulling teeth for my hubby to fill out the paper work for the doctor to send to disability department. I went and put all the papers in a large envelope and added a personal letter to the doctor and explained to him what is going on. This is new behavior for my husband so I am thinking it is major depression and he needs help. What does it sound like to you my friend? Has anyone else gone though this with there hubbies? This is new behavior for him he is a workaholic before his. I am afraid for your home and our life as we know it.