How do you break up with your boyfriend/ girlfriend?
By nympha687
@nympha687 (940)
United States
April 11, 2009 9:22am CST
I know this is the most difficult to do since we don't want to hurt the person we've loved for some time. But in case the passion runs dry, how do you tell him/her?
6 responses
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
14 Apr 09
breaking up is a very difficult task because it involves a lot of emotions and it means closing one chapter of life and starting new one. I have never broken up from my side but i have been kicked a few time and it did hurt so i would never put someone in the position i was in unless it is very important to do so. But i feel if you think you cant breath in the relationship and made your mind to break , then telling quite clearly is the best option. Tell him you dont feel same for him or infact dont want to be with him anymore.. just dont use words like i know you are a very good guy and would make some girl very lucky because these words hurt more as they look nothing but like you give a farewell to an employee whom you have fired. Just tell him it is over
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
17 Apr 09
That would really hurt. I wish people could invent a code that would mean the same thing.
@Devashish (13)
• India
13 May 09
i would say just i don't wanna talk to you....and never try to contact to contact me that's it....
@AntiNumerical (9)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Just be honest. That's the most important thing in dealing with a breakup. If you don't feel the same about them as you did back when you first started dating TELL THEM they might even feel the same way. Don't be rude or mean about it otherwise you'll both end up getting hurt but try to word things in a way you'd want to hear it. Who knows? Maybe you'll both get out alive and be good friends =p
@opalina143 (1240)
• Morristown, New Jersey
11 Apr 09
I disagree. NEVER be honest. NEVER tell someone you fell out of love with them or that they aren't right for you or good enough for you.
Instead, turn it on yourself. Say "You know, I have too many personal issues right now. I just don't think I can be in this relationship and give you the time, attention and commitment you deserve."
"It's not you, its me. I just need some time to sort out things on my own or where my life is going."
"I don't think I'm good enough for you. You will find a person someday who is better for you than I am"
I used these lines when breaking up with a guy who proposed to me. In truth, I felt he was getting way too serious and I was not in love with him, and could not imagine being married to him. I wasn't going to tell him I didn't love and never had loved him!!
I think the breakup went as well as could be expected. A year later I found out that he was married to someone else, so he recovered, it seems.
Sometimes honesty is not the best policy if it will hurt someone.
@khasime (15)
• Philippines
2 May 09
Being honest is the most important thing that you could do. If you would not tell the real reason, you would left that person hanging. It would just not only lead to desperation but also keeping the person hoping that it would still work out despite of all the reasons that you said. There are also words that should be left unsaid to save from all that heart aches. But being honest with the main reason could make that person understand and accept it.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
15 Apr 09
I would tell him things aren't working out and be honest with him by telling him the feelings aren't there anymore. I would tell him I would take a step back and see how things pan out in my life and maybe attempt the relationship again later, but for the time being we wouldn't work.
@rhilovesnathan (39)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I say to be honest. If you lost your love for someone tell them that the feelings were lost. And that you dont think that you are right for each other. Let the person down easy though. and be nice. Dont lie. Thats never the way to get out of a relationship
@nuthilokesh (27)
• India
20 Apr 09
when we got irritated and getting frustation between us then we leave by handshaking and we would never contact each other..
@Albert1989 (372)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 10
I believe it ain't easy. I had a similar experience where my ex girlfriend and i after 4 years eventually broke up. We planned to get married but it did not work cos there were restrictions from her side and from my side as well.
At a point of time we felt we can't afford to lose each other, so we decided to continue our relationship no matter what. But with the time prolonging and possibilities that we get married are diminishing she could not feel secured and she could not make me feel secured.
In that period of time, she broke up with me maybe 3 times but we managed to make it back.
Finally, at a point of time it was as they say the needle that broke the whatever's back. We made our final break up. I don't deny i do still love and miss her.
Wish her good luck wherever she may go.
