If we love our friends, then is it necessary....

Hello sanuanu, you are too quick to select the BR. Ok do not worry that is your business. On the topic I must add that, not necessarily friends, any body you become familiar and well squinted a lot of formality collapse and you no longer have to be so formal all the while. This is more contextual in our saily life. Here at mylot salutation, or addressing or greeting at the beginning of a discussion does not demand that you do so and when you do not do so none I guess turns out to be rude to remind you 'hey why did not you address me". This is personal etiquette. when I address you surely you feel the closeness and intimacy and that lead to stronger bonding. ( This is my personal view and you can disapprove hundred times) Most of the time I do address and I am trying to make it a habit. For I know none dislikes if I say a "hi" or "hello". I hope I could make my points clear.

Hello friend, I never believed in such things and I do not like showing my love for my friends all the time. My friends understand that it is my nature and hence they do not expect me to do such things. Some people might feel offended but I am sure if they are your real friends they would eventually understand that it is in one's nature and hence they would learn to live with it.

Hi sanuanu, I like to say HI to all my friends, for it is simple and brief. It doesn’t matter friends here at mylot, or the ones in real life. I couldn’t help saying Hi when come across any friend. I even say HI to my elders, but in a more polite and respectful way When seeing those happy go lucky friends or colleagues, or loving kids, I would like to say Hi...ai...ai.., n an elongated voice. Yeah, I do notice that a couple of friends here like to type a “hug” in the post to show their sincere, and hospitable gesture toward good friends. And we have friends like to use xoxo, whereas some like to say God bless you, and many other sweet greeting words as well. Happy posting and have a wonderful day.

DO you lose anything if you use the words which you have put above?Hahaha nothing right?Then why dont you use the words like Hi , Hello......When you type so much every single day it really doesn't matter to put a prefix like hi & hello to it. Dont worry you are not alone in this ,I am just like you.

I do not think so. you must simply chose your words more carfuly. differnt words means differnt things to differnt people. jsut explress yourself in a manner you feel conformable with.

You should always show respect to everyone at all times. If someone is truly your friend and you have love for them as such it is not difficult to show it. Different people show affection in different ways and different relationships have different levels of intimacy. If someone is merely an acquaintance or an associate there is no need to display affection only polite greeting. How much affection you display when greeting a friend will have a lot to do with how often you see them. You may only say hello to someone you meet daily but embrace someone else you see infrequently when you are happy to meet up with them again.

not everybody requires those words but then everyone is different.you get to know a person after some time and if you feel that the person requires constant re-inforcement,then you should such words to keep your friendship alive.

'Friend' is a very big word sanu. I find its use here on myLot is very inappropriate. I have a list of users on my 'friend list' but some are only usernames and certainly noi Friends. Those who are Friends know that they are and know what to expect from me just because they ARE my Friends. When I interact with them on here I know what they expect from me and I know what they will say to me. As for the other users who are interacting with me on here, well they will receive usually a 'Hi' and in time we might grow closer and then they will not expect anything. I'm sure you know by now too sanu It's all very individual just the same as we are individuals offline too

Hi! On a forum such as this, those things aren't necessary, and not using them is not a demonstration of anything. Here, the discussion is what matters. The exception is if you have very close friends among the myLot population. In that case, you're probably in touch with them outside of myLot anyway.

Hey there! I also don't use those too often. I only use those only to respond to them when they use that to greet me for the day. Usually when I came across my friends I just smile at them and ask them where are they headed to.

yeah,, you've got a point, i think it depends to the people on how they show their own gratitude, or the way of showing love or so whatever... people here came from different places around the world, different attitudes, perception and culture so for me it's not that necessary,,,

Hi sanuanu! I think you should be yourself when your answering and if those greeting are not who you are..don't worry about them. I like you just the same and really enjoy your responses. I haven't thought one time about the greetings. I always say hi but that's just me. Most people realize that just by your participation in their discussions that you are their friend. You don't require anything to be my friend.

Hello again! It's not very necessary at all to use such words, but why not use it. Someone may not be expecting such words, but when they get such words from you, then this effects psycologically and feels like oh! this person is really caring...Though it is not compulsory to use such words, but it is always very very nice to use such words. Some words can make people happy and if you can make others happy with the little effort, then why not do it... I may not be expecting these words. Not really. But if I saw these words for me, I feel atleast happier than to not get net...I hope you understand.... Happy mylotting...

no i do not think its necessary at all. on my lot or on any site like this, you really do not know the person that well. the friend may or may not like to put those kinds of expressions in their messages, discussions, etc. everybody is different, and some people put those expressions in there and some do not.

You don't have to show your courtesy in a very detailed way. You can show it everytime by just saying "hi" or "hello". It can go a long way. If you can't say these, then you can just look by the eye and raise your head or wave using your hand. It won't hurt if you just show some recognition, 'coz it's very awkward for people not to greet someone they know from the crowd. I know the feeling, that's why I know what to do in this situation.

This is an interesting discussion sanuanu because I have often wondered the same thing. I respond to each discussion and different things affect whether I greet the MyLotter concerned or not or how intimate my words are going to be; my mood, the person and the topic of the discussion. I just do instinctively whatever I feel like doing in each circumstance; for example it felt appropriate in this response to mention your name as it brings me closer to you because you have written something I particularly relate to. There have been times when I have sent someone love or hugs because I felt we both needed them but I don't necessarily do it every time. I think you have to go by whatever feels right at that moment; to do certain things automatically loses their meaning, I think.

I don't think such words could show any gratitude, these are just a words that could just mean nothing. I believe the best way to show your gratitude is through your act, such as try to responses as many as your friends discussions. I don't believe in words, I need prove and in mylot is by responded your friends discussions. BR.b

Well, if you don't like what their words usage, you just reply them with a warning flat out. You just tell them what you just post just "offended me" somehow, and I don't really like it. Can you not doing it anymore. That is all.

No, i don't think that by not using those type of responses, it means that you're taking yor friends for granted..You're not okay ^_^ I think they value what you haveto say more, your advices and encouragements...These are the things that will make your friends appreciate you even more ^_^ So spend more thought on what you have to say and speak from your heart if you want to show the love...^_^

if we love someone then it is not necessary that they also love or respect us......it is not necessary by using some words u express your love if he or she is your friend then he /she will understand that you like her/him so its not necessary