Do you hug family members?

United States
April 11, 2009 7:36pm CST
I seriously don't think I have hugged my mother since I was like 12 or maybe even younger. I certainly never hugged my father. I see lot of families that are very emotional and do a lot of hugging. Is your family that way? I used to work with an Italian guy and his family was very emotional. I didn't understand why they hugged so much. He even hugged his friends. He tried to hug me one time and I was like ... "what the f*** are you doing?" Someone told me to relax. He was Italian. I took it as an Italian/Mediterranean thing. I don't know. Perhaps I'm the one with the weird family. lol
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@qinqinoen (127)
• China
20 Apr 09
Maybe i often kissed and huged my parents when i was young. But i seldom hug my family members since i begin to go to school just as you said.I think my family memebers are very conservative.My parents especially my father never hug me since i am about 12 years old.But my father love me very much.When i go to other places to continue my college study and post graduate study,my mother often calls me to ask me whether i have enough money or how about my life,but my father seldom express his love by words or intimate deeds such kiss and hug.I can feel much dumb solicitude he gives to me.I have a roommate who is a mongolia girl of about 26years old.She said she always hug her father when his father whenever he come home till now.Maybe it is because it is a habit of her family or the charactors of her family members.
• China
13 Apr 09
I am not hug my father and mother but I and my sister hug each other. I think hug is a very good way to express your emotion. A hug come comfort people very well. A hug can show our kindness.
• India
12 Apr 09
It is always so sweet to hug persons in our family and tell them how much we love them..But in our family,we dont have that habit..Maybe we are not used to it..It is ofcourse a good habit good way of expressing....
@dany2391 (128)
• Romania
12 Apr 09
I think I hugged my mother a few years ago when it was my birthday.Mostly I hug people who I don't see for a long time.Sometimes the other members of my by family,but they just kiss on the cheeks.A little affection is not bad.This leaves me thinking.I should hug my mother more often not only from five to five years.It all depends of how well you get along with your family.This reminds me of the movie "The Godfather".They kissed and hugged almost every time they met.Loving people I guess.
• China
12 Apr 09
I've never hugged my family or my friends. And I don't see people around me doing this very often. Maybe that's because Chinese is a introverted nation. No Chinese are really huggers.:) But that doesn't mean we don't love each other or we are not close with each other. Sure there are lots of ways other than hugging to express our love. I think your family is just the same. So don't worry about the not hugging thing. ;p
• Canada
12 Apr 09
We're huggers in our family! Most of that being because there are SO many little ones in our family. My son will be 2 in June and has been going to a great daycare with a bunch of girls that are older then him for nearly a year now. They are big into giving him hugs and kisses. So now he gives everybody hugs and kisses.
@fiazio (734)
• India
12 Apr 09
No family members, so happily that is not an issue....hated that aunt lipstick thing growing up. But, I do hug my g/f's sister and mom.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
12 Apr 09
I guess it depends on a couple things. 1) if I haven't seen them for some time and 2) which family member it is. For example, if I haven't seen my mother in several months or more, I will give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek. I was taught to do this with other family members such as aunts and uncles as well. It's the way I was raised. However, I don't do this with my sister. We're not close at all (her choice). The last time we saw each other (almost 9 years ago) she didn't even speak to me, so why even attempt to hug her? She obviously didn't want one and I'm not going to push anyone for a hug! LOL
@orderfox (231)
• China
12 Apr 09
In our country, we almost do not embrace. Lovers or family members unless they are met. However, this situation is not limited to the situation long time.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
12 Apr 09
I like to hug my family members. But my grandmother is not used to my emotional hug. She feel embrassed. That's disturbed me a lot. And sometimes I need a hug from my family members and friends when I am depressed. But this is rarely realized.
@skyla26 (284)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
hugging my family members telling them that they are the most important person in my life because i can't live without them and im nothing without them and im not born without them. and making them feel that i really really love them.
• China
12 Apr 09
I couldn't agree more!
@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
12 Apr 09
Haha, trust me you're not weird. I can't even REMEMBER when's the last time i hugged my mother much less my friends...lol It's just weird for me to hug them just to show that they're loved. I think they already know with the little acts i do for them. My friends, i only hug them when it's been a long time that i've seen them, so that's pretty understandable yea? ^_^
• Australia
12 Apr 09
My immediate family never hugged or kissed (lol you know a peck on the cheek) since my brother and I were very very little. It is only in the last year or so (im 22) that my brother and I have moved out of home, that SOMETIMES on the rare occasion we hug hello and maybe good bye when I go to see them. Other than that, when my immediate family and I go to see relatives we have to hug and kiss on the cheek hello and goodbye. My boyfriends family are very big on the hug hello and goodbye, and the "I love you". Even my boyfriends mum says that she loves me.... its very weird and im still trying to get used to it. My immediate family dont ever say "i love you". We always write "love from.." in a card, but never actually say it... So no, im not much of a hugger... I even find it a bit awkward when friends hug me hello/goodbye, unless they are a really close friend.
@bdayboy09 (153)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
I love hugging everyone in the family once in a while. It's not bad, 'coz it shows how strong you ties are. Your bonds with each other can be seen in such manifestations. :) Hugging is best when you are very emotional. Trust me, 'coz one time I was like near to crying when my mother hugged me. Then my tears poured out. :) It's very comforting and warm. I think it's one of the best non-verbal communication cues.
• United States
12 Apr 09
In my family we are big on hugging and showing affection to one another. We are close, and I think that is one thing that helps us to stay that way. My in-laws are huggers too. I love them, so the hugging isn't an uncomfortable thing for us. I's black and my husband is white, so I can't even say that it is a cultural thing. I guess it just depends on the family. Happy MyLotting
@dmrone (746)
• United States
12 Apr 09
My family and i have all hugged as far back as i can remember. We hug just before saying we will see each other later, we hug when we see each other. It has been something that we have always done. We have never really given it much thought, we just do it.
@vzihan (145)
• China
12 Apr 09
Hi,blue,it is just all right and maybe your family has your own way to express your emotion.Different people have defferent habit and methods to express this feeling.In my country,we barely hug someone else,even our closest family memebers.I guess it is because that we are a implicit and mild nation,and we are not good at this kind of outgoing behavior,but we have our own way.
@yinmm007 (605)
• China
12 Apr 09
I never hug my family numbers but i want to have a try.Hug can express some emotion instead of words.Sometimes it's more impressive than speech.We can use hug to tell our friends we miss them or "all is understood,and no words are necessary".
@scarrg (48)
• United States
12 Apr 09
I don't hug my family members often and I don't think it's a big problem. I do not think it will have a large impact on your relationship however it is good not to be shy to hug. It could mean you suppress your emotions or you might just not be too extroverted.