Do you think you can be in love with two people?

United States
April 11, 2009 10:22pm CST
Do you think it is possible for a person to be in love with two people at once? Or do you that this is something else? Personally I don't think that you can be "IN LOVE" with two people. I think loving people in different ways is possible but not being "IN LOVE". I think if you are "IN LOVE" with a person you would do NOTHING to hurt them therefore you would only be "IN LOVE" with them. What do you think?
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@larish (2234)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
I believe that there are different degrees of LOVE. But being romantically involve with 2 persons are not my thing. I don't believe that one can love (romantically) two person at the same time. I find it illogical, love should also involve faithfulness and loyalty. I definitely agree with you that you wouldn't hurt the one you love. So, it's really a big NO for me.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
Woohooo larish!!! I totally agree and always hope someone can see if from my point of you. I do realize LOTS of people don't and do think it's possible but I just can't see it. I know that when I am IN LOVE I am give 150% to that relationship and don't even look at other people in a romantic way.
• United States
12 Apr 09
once again you rock!!!
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
Honestly, I have other friends who have been with this kind of situation and I really don't understand them. I am glad that we have the same stand on this issue. thank you so much, prncesfrmheaven. happy myloting.
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• China
12 Apr 09
I must be thinking a while about your question,in love with two people?maybe two different way is better.For me,i could put someone stay in my heart and with other guy together.That means someone is my love,and other one is my like one.If i can`t with the one i love,this way seems good for me.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
That is one way to think about it, but wouldn't you want to wait for the one you love rather than just being with the one that you like?
• United States
13 Apr 09
Well I wish you good luck, but don't settle for the one you like. Follow your heart. If you are IN LOVE with someone then that is who you need to be with.
• China
13 Apr 09
I`ve tried but things seemed not easy to go .in fact,i don`t know how to give up totally of that guy.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Yes you an it is not impossible, I was at one time. Happy Easter to you!
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
13 Apr 09
sorry for Mistakes I just noticed it.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
Happy Easter to you too!
@leeloo (1492)
• Portugal
13 Apr 09
I think it is possible but at sometimes being in love is not enough. I believe love is infinite, someone may love various people in various ways, an example is to say which of your parents do you love more or which of your children do you love more. So loving multiple people to the same extent is natural. The problem with finding a life partner means that you have to find someone, I apologize in advance for the cliché, that completes you. You may love someone deeply who understands you, knows you better then you do yourself is everything you wish for but have no chemistry and however painful it is the dream of being together can never come true, then you may have someone you have absolutely nothing in common with but as they say, another cliché, you get the thunderbolt and the attraction is intense, in this way you love two people, one who is your soul and another which is your love. This though is not exactly what you asked. It is possible to love more than one person equally the 'in love' comes with a choice, you choose one person to be yours and hope that they choose you, the problem is when someone can't choose and is not honest about it and ends up hurting everyone. Love is emotion and nothing emotional is easy.
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• United States
13 Apr 09
Yea leeloo this is true emotional stuff is never easy. The whole thing of being in love with 2 people for me is that inevitably someone will get hurt.
@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
12 Apr 09
Well, i too don't think that it is really possible to be in love with two people at once, it's either you stop loving the one you've been loving or it's the other way round. Like you, i believe that there are different ways to love people, but they can never be of the same type of love...I guess it's quite complicated to understand the realms of love, after all, you know it better than anyone else how you're feeling..But you'll always have a stronger feeling for the one you love most. =]
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• United States
12 Apr 09
Good Good Good!!! That's my whole point. There are so many different types of love, love we feel for a friend, parent, pet, etc... But to honestly Be IN LOVE with someone I just feel that whoever that person is becomes your everything. They are the one that takes your breath away. You think of them when you aren't with them. You can't wait to hear their voice on the phone. Etc... That is the IN LOVE that I mean. I have no doubt that a person can think they love 2 people but if they honestly think about it there is probably one of those people that does something for them that the other one doesn't. Thank you for your post!
@rj1578 (27)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 09
I agree with you Mira. Love is sweet but complicated.
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@kusanag1 (50)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 09
yes she can and i belef it can be love with two people , i trus
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
13 Apr 09
No It isn't true Love when you are inlove with two people. Welcome to Mylot!
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• United States
12 Apr 09
I still don't think it's true love!
@bdayboy09 (153)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
There are definitely a lot of things to consider before declaring that you're in love with two people. For one, the degree. Maybe your love for one of them isn't that deep compared to the other (e.g. like a sister or a close friend only) In other words, it may be just infatuation and nothing else. Another is the situation. Yes, you can love two people as long as you're not committed to either one of them. However, one cannot stay long in this kind of situation, thus needing an urgent decision soon. Lastly, check your own thinking. Think carefully about what you are feeling at that moment. Who would you like to spend the rest of your life with? Who do you want to marry and have children with in the future? All these will depend on your preferences.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
I remember once my stepmom asked me this question and I think I will post it as a topic just to see what kind of response I get. It's 10, 20, 50 years from now...you are in a boat in the middle of the ocean....who is with you? For most people I would think this would be the person that you are IN LOVE with. This is the person that you want to be with for the rest of your life.
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
12 Apr 09
i don't think you can be in love with two people at the same time. you can love two people but i don't think you can actually be in love with them both at the same time. there are different levels of love. wanting to be with two people can sometimes be easy.. but to love them in the same way. can't be..
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• United States
12 Apr 09
Thank you sameroad! Loving 2 people understandable. Being in love with them I don't think that it's really honest true being in love if it's 2 people.
@dany2391 (128)
• Romania
12 Apr 09
Love is a complicated thing and not many people truly understand it.I think that two people falling in love is not a very common thing.Not all couples are in love and not all married couples either.There are many things that influence people to start relationships and love isn't always one of them.So you can't go falling in love with everyone you meet.It has to be someone very special.Is is possible bout very unlikely.
• United States
12 Apr 09
Thank you dany! Love is definitely complicated and you are so right obviously Everyone has different ways of thinking of love or being in love. Not everyone marries for love this is true, but it is also a little sad. I would want to think that if I was going to be with someone for the rest of my life that they were the one I was in love with and that was in love with me. I wouldn't want to spend my life with someone who was in love with someone else. That wouldn't be fair to either one of us.
@roxyoo7 (246)
• India
12 Apr 09
Well for me LOve is vast term.SO its not about two or four or how much.You can love a lot of persons for different reasons.But being cmmited to some one is a diferent thing!
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• United States
12 Apr 09
Thank you Roxy! Love is a vast term and there are different meanings. That is why I hope that everyone strives to find the "ONE" that special person that fulfills everything for them.
@rj1578 (27)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 09
You can love 2 people at once but you can't be 'IN LOVE' with both at the same time.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
Exactly what I keep saying! Thank you!
@bebem75 (13)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
i think you can. but the passion between the two is different.the love for the other person may be greater than the other one. in one way or another.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
Again, no one has convince me yet that it's possible to be IN LOVE with 2 people. I KNOW that you can love them but honestly be IN LOVE with them. I doubt it.
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
12 Apr 09
I do believe that a person can be in love with 2 people but in diferente ways. There will always be one that they love more, but i do think thta it is possible.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
Thanks for your comment!
• United States
12 Apr 09
i definitely think you could. Just watch the all the reality shows. I think their definitely more than one person for you, the trick is to find the one that you connect with the most.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
OK. I am going to assume that this comment comes from what happened this last time on The Bachelor. He was not IN LOVE with Melissa. I think maybe he had a connection with her and did enjoy spending time with her but there was no way he was IN LOVE with her. If you Love some one, and I mean truly, madly, deeply love them, you don't want to ever do anything to hurt them. I think he had feelings for both and just ended up choosing the wrong girl because he wasn't sure. But this is a conversation for a whole other blog. LOL
@signum (545)
• Australia
12 Apr 09
Prncesfrmheaven, I totally agree with you. It's easy to love two people in different ways, but to be IN love with them is a whole different story. I could have a crush on one man, and be in love with another, but definitely not be in love with both at the same time. That wouldn't be real love in my opinion, just infatuation.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
I think we can crush on lots of people at one time but if you are IN love with someone everything you do is about that person.
@michfroi (413)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
I do believe that people can be loved one person at a time. If the person felt that he is in love with two person at once, maybe its just a mistaken feelings, maybe he's really with one of them and he really likes the other one. Love and Likes differ a lot. Love is for long term while likes last for short period of time.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
Good response! I think a lot of people don't understand the difference between love and being IN love. It's so not the same thing.
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
i think being in love means it's only cope to one person you make you feel happy but if we says you inlove to 2 person its possible cause theres a possible that one of them mostly important to you.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
I don't think that this would make that love though. Not the kind of love that lasts forever.
@qinqinoen (127)
• China
12 Apr 09
I think it is possible for a person to be in love with two people not at he same time in his or her life.If you fall in love with a person and decide to married to him or her it is very important to be loyal.If you fall in love another people it is a big trouble and you should try to find a suitable way to solve the problem.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
Thank you for your comment! I agree that if you are with someone and you fall in love with someone else this is going to just hurt a lot of people in the process. It's not worth breaking people's hearts or ending up alone to put yourself in that type of situation.
• India
12 Apr 09
yes of course,love has no limit,it can be done to anyone with whom u feel confidence & trust bt the true love canot be shared it is restricted to only one person in life ...
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• United States
12 Apr 09
I agree that love has no limit but I still don't think you have convinced me that it's possible to be IN LOVE with two people at once.
• China
12 Apr 09
If you really in love with one person ,you can't in love with the other person at all.We all know falling in love with someone is a fine feeling,which means you eyes ,ears are foucs on what he oe she is doing and saying.We can't have some extra energy to care much about some other men,even your family sometimes .If not ,that can't be in true love.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
I agree with you. I don't think being IN LOVE with 2 people is possible. You may think you are but I think over all you realize that you may like being with one of them but the other one is the one you want to be with forever.