contact your friends
By abanerji
@abanerji (1026)
India
April 12, 2009 2:21am CST
hi myLoter!!
we are so buzy in life that we don't get an opportunity to contact our friends often. sometimes we even forget to write emails to them. i do forget to get in touch with some of my friends. many a times, my friends also get mad at me. we are very good friends so the affection never reduces.
some peolpe have left contact with me because i was not in regular touch with them.
have you ever faced such a situation...?
what according to you should be the frequency of getting in touch with freinds through mails and calls...?
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16 responses
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
14 Apr 09
I do make it a point to keep in touch with my good friends. Even if we are very busy, we'll always make it a point to at least celebrate each other's birthday. True friendship lasts and no matter how long I have not met my friends, we still have each other in thoughts.
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@bloodcakelover (420)
• Malaysia
13 Apr 09
yes it is true..it also happens to me most of the times. i usually been busy and i forget to contact my friend and i sometimes have to cancel our weekly reunion. i feel terrible sometimes,but they always understand me. That is why whenever i got the chance i will call them through phone and chat for a long period. and send email to ask about them. I love my friend very much.
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@gxyywhyzy (450)
• China
13 Apr 09
I never faced this situation.Most of my friends are so busy that they have no time to contact with me.the same to me.we all know each other.so we often understand our own situation.
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@noquite0325 (473)
• China
13 Apr 09
for me,i really don`t love to use phone to contact,cos writing messages is totally troubled me.so the computer is ok,i`d love to talking with my friends on net and always leave some messages.once i open my laptop,i would check out my emails or other sites.
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@TannerSite (698)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Ok, here is what I think... These are the kind of discussions we need more of here at mylot, anyway.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
15 Apr 09
Hello abanerji,
I lost contact with all my friends from school. Right now, I only have two best friends whom I knew since my university days. I am very bad at keeping in touch with others and that, I have to admit. Recently, a friend of mine from a boarding school managed to get hold of me So, we have been talking to each other for almost everyday - and yes, it is online...
@MAHESH2008 (844)
• India
12 Apr 09
Yes i happens to me also . Even if we send a mail o some of friends mostly it would be forwarded message from others. This may jus because o whom we would like to be in contact we can make call from cell phones and talk to them when ever it is needed. so we did not take enough pain o write a letter or mail to friends until and unlees we need that to be done as a last option.
@maeras (107)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Apr 09
I have really close friends and I try to get in touch with them once in a while...just to see what's new and how are they doing. Since I'm working quite far, I usually send them emails of chat with them if they happen to be online. I just notice that no matter how close you are to a person, distance will always affect the relationship... you won't know every detail about that close friend as you wish to be...maybe because there are also less shared moments to talk about.
@udaykarthik (152)
• India
12 Apr 09
If you can daily once.
A mail is enough to let them know that you are with them.
And call them weekly once.
To make them sure thats its you.
And meet them once a month.
This will let them know how well you are doing.
@udaykarthik (152)
• India
12 Apr 09
I am talking about all friends in common and no one in particular.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
12 Apr 09
Hi sis! congrats for reaching 200 posts.
Well, how often you should be in contact with your friend is a relative thing. You know your friend and your friend know you better than any body else does. Just have that in your mind act accordingly.
Some friends are there who expect calls or mail at a regular interval. Just do this much for them to keep your friendship alive and kicking.
for me there is no such things. So do my friends. This is just flicker of the moment. If felt sent a mail or made a call if not, not.
@puneetchhokra (214)
• India
12 Apr 09
You are right that in this busy time we forget our friends those who are very importnt in this life.But situations and time sometime doesn't alow us to even call them.So what to do even we have mobiles we can call them but even not a single second....But we have to call them or be in contact with them.It will really a need of life.
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 09
Hi abanerji
I truely understand your situation of losing friend. We are all busy with our lives and I have faced this kind of situation at times. I have a friend who is very sensitive. She gets hurt when I do not answer her call and the reason I do not answer her call is only when I am working. I tried explaining to her many times but she still insist me to answer her calls and even say I am just creating some excuses. After trying many times to exlain to her, I finally gave up and I started giving her calls when ever I am free. I cant affort to lose her as a friend. Some friends may understand you but some may not. Its just a give and take policy
Regards
Thanusha
@abanerji (1026)
• India
13 Apr 09
hi thanusha 85!
oh yes! same has been a case with me.. my school friend who is now married would get angry if i am unable to keep in touch... every time it is not possible but it is more difficult to explain such things to them. for me feelings are more important than keeping regular touch. but i think for many keeping in touch is very important.
@leoliu39 (540)
• China
12 Apr 09
this is really a problem for morden persons.i frequently contacted with friends before, but recently coz busy life, i can't even get an opportunity to contact our friends often. hope life less stress, less busy, and more spare time and more friendship in my life!
@kusanag1 (50)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 09
i am allwais call my friend but she busy and i must wait to call she busy or not