did you ever lost anything? or anyone just because of money?
@totallyundecided (3190)
Philippines
April 12, 2009 7:52am CST
this afternoon, i had a surprised visit with our landlady. she jsut came back from her holy week vacation but she was not happy at all.
you see, they have lots of apartment here. quite a lot that you can say money is never a problem to them.
but i was surprised to hear that all 6 of them are not in good terms because of the partition of properties. it's a long story but just to summarize it up, each of them wants the bigger share than the other. except for our landlady of course because she's not the type who's after money. she's a very good person but her siblings are so... i don't know hot to describe them but they will do anything even to the expense of their family relationship just to have property.
sometimes, i think how they can sleep at night knowing they have this kind of feud. i've had my fair shares of story too. just because of money, i lost one of my closest friend because she chose the money instead of me.
how about you guys, did you have your experience too? like you're being used, lost a friendship or a thing or a relationship with a family member because of money?
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15 responses
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
I lost a girlfriend because of money. I was reduced to a fubu which sucks big time. We would chat after she went overseas earning a lot then she would say what will i feed her,etc. I felt so insulted that i called her a b!atch. Back then when she was here, it was us against the world then she dropped me like a hot potato.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
sorry to her that, mod. but you'll find your princess soon. one that will not measure you for your PESOnality. lol. peace, too. lol
@cjforeverknight (427)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Yes, this has happened to me too & with family. A few years back my dad got upset with me because I could not lend him money for his taxes, which I did not have the money he thought I had & my oldest brother even got upset with me for they all thought I had a lot of money in my savings which I did not I was barely getting by myself. My dad & both my brothers make more money than I do & my dads new wife had wiped his savings account bare which he said he had almost 6,000.00 saved for his taxes & hard times. So why get mad at me for not having money when his new wife had cleaned out his account & left him to live with another woman & then after 6 months called to beg him to pick her up which he did & was never angry with her.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
wow. that's surprising. but you'll never one person until they do a 360 degree change. lol.
i just hope you and you family will able to patch things up. may sound easy to say but i know turning these words into actions is the hardest one.
i've witnessed a lot of relationships, even my own, being ripped just because of money. it's sad really that most of us are enslaved with the thought that money is really what we need.
opinion may vary on this one but it's just the way it is. lol
@cjforeverknight (427)
• United States
12 Apr 09
I am not a selfish person & if I had plenty of money I would be more than happy to share with all my family because I am that kind of a person.
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Apr 09
I never let money come between me and people I care about. I figure, if I lent it.....then it's gone and there's no point in worrying about when or if I'll get it back. I wouldn't have given it if I couldn't have afforded to in the first place.
But I have had people (relatives especially) think that I owe them, for one reason or another and our relationship has suffered because of it. Like you, I don't know how they can sleep at night knowing the stress they cause over a 'debt' or a share of something they feel entitled to, even when they're not really entitled to it at all. Money is the root of all evil, and those that focus on it are sad people indeed. I'll take the attitude of your landlady over her siblings any day. She's sounds like a sweetheart and I hope her family don't cause her too much more grief.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
she is, indeed, one of the people who has a pure heart. never bias and will always do what she thinks is right.
she never ever come in between with her sister because her sister, who happens to be my neighbour is tapping on our electricity and our landlady is even the one who suggested the idea that we should report this to the electric company. lol
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
14 Apr 09
Well thanks for BR! That was a surprise.
I like your landlady...............be kind to her. Sounds like you're a good friend to her, and people are never too old to have friends.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
12 Apr 09
i know what u are saying. greed can ruin anything & is a very serious problem. i have had experience in my family w/it. to be honest i still am & it's very heartbreaking.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
it is and it doesn't give you a peace of mind at all.
i even have small feuds with my parents and friends and some people just because of money. but i think it's understandable sometimes that it really is the basic need to survive these days.
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@rocketsky (1013)
• China
13 Apr 09
I always have a bad memory and always forget to take something to my office .
sometimes I have gotten on the bus ,and then I found that I forgot to take my books:)
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
that's okay, rock. it happens to me too. but not with books. mostly, with newly purchased video cds.
@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
13 Apr 09
Yea, currently there's a dispute in my family between my mum and my aunt...about money what else...People get so worked up and sensitive when it comes to money issues, i can't possibly agree more to that statement. Even now, things are so awkward between my mum and aunt even though they've "kinda" cleared things up...ohwells..=\
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
don't worry, mira. i am ure they will get there. at least, they have made peace.
@feathers26 (865)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
i have heard a lot of stories regarding this
topic. some people chose money over friendship
and family,some choose friends and family over
money.
@Rikza1 (295)
• Finland
13 Apr 09
I've lost one my friends just because of money..I loaned him 20€ and I never really got paid back. After 6 months of asking my money back he pays me 0.5€ back..That really hurt and after that I've only borrowed money to one of my friends, who I am 100% sure I can trust. I also almost lost my best friend because of money, It was partially my fault. I still don't know what happened then. I haven't really talked much about it. He was staying for the night at our house, and we were having fun, and the next morning after my friend leaves I look for my wallet and can't find it, and after a long time of searching for it I find it in a place I would never place it to, and find that all 120€ are gone I had in it...I still don't know if my friend took it or had I lost it before somewhere...but I know that every time he comes now I keep a close eye on my wallet..
People are greedy and it hurts..
@worldbestwriter2008 (1633)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
i have even lost friend, due to this so called money..my close friend in high school..the risk there because i trust her so much and she just fooled..i hate it when she didn't pays me in returns i really hate her now..she fooled me at once..look i'm her close friend how come she did this to me..although i missed our friendship..but i don't trust her now..
@gracetreyes (529)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
Truly love of money is the root of all evil.it is so sad yet so true.
@eselmaro (208)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
It happened to me once last year and now we both living in our own. I gave him so many chances and even trust that person but in return he betrayed me. I hate that thing so much and I don't think we still need to continue our friendship or whatever ties we have. We both grew in the same department in our company and until I still can't imagine he made that to me. I guess he really needs of money for his boys and for everything he wants that's why he got my money too.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
12 Apr 09
My husband and I lost out closest friends because we came in to money and they felt at a disadvantage. I was shocked because I didn't feel the friendship was that shallow.
