He loves me so much but he doesn't care about me!

Hello arwenrey, I think, we are in the same boat! Unfortunately for me, my case is not as bad as you. My husband is not a romantic type of person, he loves me in his own way and sometimes, I do feel wonder whether he really loves me like he said. He is not caring most of the times too. If he sees me struggling with the son, he just doesn't really care. I do everything for him as I don't want to hurt him or see him feeling sad because of me. But he doesn't feel the same. For him, it is questionable why I can get hurt over a small matter to him but not to me!

i think some people would have the same situation like you dear friend if you really love him ,you should talk to him honestly about what you really want him to do ,adn i think it will be fine

True love is selfless not selfish. I thought if you rerally love someone, you want their happiness ober your own. It sounds like you really love him but he isn'yt acting like he loves you the same way. you have to tell him how you feel. If you can't talk to him face to face, write him a letter. I bet he thinks you are as happy as he is.You have to give him a chance to change. now if he hears how miserable yo are and he doesn't change, then it is time to go and do the things you want to do. Good luck.

It is a shame that your life with your husband is not working out very well for you and making you so unhappy. It is always sad to hear when people or one person is not happy in a relationship. I wish you all the best and good luck in the future.

in my opinion, each person has his own way to express his love to you which may not match your expectation. so you will feel disappointed and miserable. you say you have made so much sacrifice in your love so i think he must have some unique appoints attracting you deeply.none of us was born perfectly,so try to appreciate his advantages and ignore some defects.then your life will become more colourful and less painful.

He loves you, but he don't know how to love you. I once played such role in the relationship with my boyfriend. He pointed out that he doesn't like that I don't care about him. He wants me to pay more atention to him to feel his joy and sorrow, to feel his feel. He wants me to give him comfort when he is tired. We talked a lot and quarreled a lot. And once a time I doubted that whether I truely loves him since I was not giving what he want. At last, luckily, I find out that the answer is that I do love him, but I do need to learn about how to love a person to maintain the relationship. There is a Chinese saying: It is not difficult to fall in love but hard to live along with each other. Now we get through that difficult time. If you do feel unbearable, talk to him, because your life needs change. You can first tell him that you want him to buy flowers for you, or to help you in the cleaning for you are a little bit tired. Telling him what you want bit by bit, and in a gentle way. I believ you two will get through the difficult time too.

First of all i could not relate to what you are saying. He loves you but do not care for you. It may be he is not a person who can understand you deep inside. May be he has not tried it hard. but i do not understand when he loves you, why you are living all life in sacrifice? May be there are something more than it missing. better talk with him

Wow, in my experiences, if someone says they love you, then they will do what they can to make you happy and feel loved, and to me, it seems as though your husband does love you but doesnt understand what REAL love is. Love is two sided, and in order to get love, you need to give love. Yes, love can be selfish, but this is to the extream. And, I think that if you can not talk to him about how you feel, that is a HUGE red flag that something is wrong. You need to talk to him and possably try to get some outside help, or you will end up leaving him.

Hi! Your situation is really hard, but why do you marry him? Anyway you just pray that GOd shows you the way!!! And I know He will! But if youll be honest with him maaybe hell understand,

hi there!!!First of all arwenrey,thank god that you have a husband who loves you very much.As you said he is loving and sweet,that means you are very lucky.The main problem with your husband is that he is not serious about future.See you too love him very much,no doubt about it otherwise you wouldn't have made so many sacrifices when he is enjoying his life without caring you. This frustration is making you feel that you don't love him but it isn't true.You try hard and make him realise that you need caring and wants him to be responsible.Don't keep this pain in your heart because it doesn't do any good to anyone..let him know exactly how you feel whenever he is being careless.I am sure that very soon he will realise these things very genuinely. All the best!!!!!

try to talk to your husband about it talk about what inside in your heart if he didn't listen or care about what you feel i think you should be love your self than him. cause you said he is not responsible and lazy. set yourself free and move on. God Bless!!!!

I'm sorry dear...but your husband seems to be like a very selfish man...I'm sorry you have to live under such pressure every day...Have you tried telling him that you're unhappy and him living with you right now is the same as living with an empty shell? Your heart no longer years for him and you should try to find some way to get out of there...Good luck...

Hello, I couldn't let the opportunity pass to leave a comment on your post because I have something in common with you. I am in a relationship that is completely wonderful for him, but for me, not so much. Everyday is a struggle just to keep from breaking down. I know that relationships are not perfect but you should at least be happy with that person, right? How can you say you love someone with all of your heart when they're in such pain and you can't even notice that something is wrong. In this journey called life I have come to realize that most relationships are one-sided. And if you're the one always ending up on the sorry side then it's no fun at all. Even the best relationships will still require some hard work at times. Especially for us women. We have to try to make them understand when their minds are void of understanding. But since you are married I'm sure you don't want to just give up. Try communication. It will be hard but if it works it will be worth it.

Hi arwenrey, I think u are lucky to have someone who loves u so much, there are many who would love to have this opportunity. All u have to do is talk to him, I am sure he is not aware of the way feel, talk to him that might help. What is most important is that he loves u, he will listen. I am in a similar situation, my bf don't clean after himself, and when i do he sayes i like to work, he likes spending most of his free time with his friends and says that he comes to me every night is that not enough, so we all have our own to deal with is how we deal with it that matters. communication, most times it help, talk to him.

What that man loves is what you give him. True love means that what you care most about is the welfare of the one you love.

Don`t be afraid of frustration about that.you know, man always less sensitive than woman,so they can`t notice some small changes,just like your feeling.it is very common in the society,perhaps you would talk to him about your feeling,but careful of your tone.or maybe a trip would help you to get rid of these boring things. don`t be too careful about this,woman need more patience in that family isuues,smile everyday ;)

I was confused about what you mean that your husband is lazy, I guess you mean that he is not responsible for the things married people should do like your personal affection needs and wants and you want to be please. I think all you have to do is give some time to talk with your husband about your inner feelings and exchange ideas and let him know that you love him but there are certain things that you want him to do as his responsibility. Find some ways to make you more romantic and engage into more excitements just like before. Just do it before your relationships turns to sour.

if you husband is only lazy in the housework,you could take some means to let him become diligent.he could change himself for you because he loves you

It sounds like your husband is comfortable in your relationship and your not. He probably is taking you for granted. I have been there before. I was that husband! I loved my wife, I thought everything was ok. I took her for granted. I got LAZY with our marraige. I didn't do any maintenance on our relationship. I went through the motions but I didn't go out of my way to make her happy. What I needed was a wake up call! My wife still loved me. But she wasn't IN Love with me anymore. She started telling me she wasn't happy anymore. I didn't listen. She started telling me she was going to leave for awhile. I didn't listen. Finally after about 3 months of me not listenening, guess what? She left. Now I was listening! Lots of guys get lazy in their relationships. We don't listen, we get hardheaded. For 6 weeks I worked to get her back. I was listening to everything she was saying. Now I have her back and I listen. I continually work at maintaining our relationship. I had to earn her love back and now I have to maintaine it. It sounds like your husband needs some tough love from you. There was a reason you married him. So don't give up on him yet. Just start showing him some tough love. Send me a friend request if my answer makes any sense.

Oh!God!I hope u lead a happy life,my friend