Will you leave the person you love for something?
By rikkabren
@rikkabren (238)
Philippines
April 12, 2009 9:33pm CST
Are you willing to lose your love one in order to achieve something? Just like, dropping a relationship for career, money or family?
Does anybody here have an experience of this? What did you do? Do you have any regrets for doing so?
Thanks for your replies!
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19 responses
@cassandradab (400)
• South Korea
13 Apr 09
i've done that, i have a boyfriend for almost 5 years he was in australia to work, we have a long distance relationship. but i met my husband i gave up our relationship.i dont regret at all.i am very happy now and contented. i found my partner better than my ex.
@rikkabren (238)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
It is nice knowing that you found your happiness. Losing someone is very hard, but I am glad you are able to find your husband.
Goodluck!
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
13 Apr 09
I haven't done something so brave like that yet. I might think of achieve my business success in order to lay down my love for while. Because sometimes I think that I have to focus on building my business instead of spend too much time to build my love affair.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
13 Apr 09
Hello Clorrissa,
Rikkabren is not talking about temporarily leaving your partner , its permanent.Would you do that?
@shiwangipeswani (613)
• India
13 Apr 09
Hello freind
no i never had any such experiece but stilll i can say that if ever iam in such a condition i will never leave the one whome i love for anything,as for me all that matters is the family and love.
@hlldelight (152)
• China
13 Apr 09
I have given up my friends and family for love I mean I stay in a completly new city for love.
But I not sure now weather I will marry him.
BECAUSE,He don't earn enough money for a regular expending. I could not find a good job. I am afraid of that when we have kid how could we possible bring up them. So I may leave him for money.
@am021606 (11)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
i kinda experienced choosing family over my guy.. in a good manner for that matter..or if there is so called thing like that.. the story goes when my mother asked me to break up with him.. why? because she's leaving me alone here in the philippines while the rest of my family leave the country. my mom wants me to do it not because she wants me to be sad or the likes. she just wanted an assurance from me that study first. and i said yes to her. but on the other hand, i explained the situation to my boyfriend, without lies. as in, in all honesty. even the exact words my mom told me, i told him.if that was possible for me.i really did. and so, my guy understands that.we broke up in a good way. and what do you know? we're together again. that's how much i love him. and honesty did the part very well.
@sapphire_b (231)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
In my thoughts, my love ones are my inspiration and my strength in life...having good career may last for a moment without them but having them may lead to a more achieving life. Just like job...you job will not take care of you when you are sick...your love ones will... Have a nice day everyone!
@handsomeitaliano (1050)
• United States
13 Apr 09
No way whatsoever, Jose! lol... seriously, no though. I have never had to do that in the past either, thank God. Me and my family (what's left of it anyway) are all involved in money together and that's the way it should be.
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
why not?!if its for the best.anyways if he's really meant to be mine then we will meet again in the future or in the next life and there we have the chance to continue our love..i believe in the magic of love if he's really the one for you, even if you left him for something, love will make a way..
happy mylotting
@gmkk1986 (471)
• India
13 Apr 09
I belive in love and all other elements like career, money or family are the products of this. We generally experience with our problems and all we solve depends on the situation we face and react accordingly.
The first imp should goes to love and remaining will be secondary. Losing love and trying to retrive it back is very big pain. I have an exeperince with same kind of situation. Due to my studies I was just neglected my love when a girl showed an interest to me. She was not proposed but I came to know that she was showed an interest on me.
Later I felt very bad by losing her in my life. I suggest u one thing to realize that love make any thing possible. dont try to neglect or giving priority to this. ist should be always first for ever.
@russvy (22)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
In my opinion, It depends on the person if that person is a career oriented person he/she might choose his/her career but I think he cannot live only with his/her career without his/her love one. For me I would rather choose my love one than my career because for me career can wait. There are a lot of professionals that are very succesfull but with there love ones. I am not favor to those people that choose their career over their love ones. But as I've said earlier it's depend on the person on how he/she thinks in life.
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
I dumped my ex-boyfriend five years ago because he cannot understand my obligations to my parents. He was always questioning me why we cannot go on a date because I have to accompany my parents. It really pissed me off so I just let him go.
@signum (545)
• Australia
13 Apr 09
Oh absolutely not. I could not imagine life without my man, and I'd never put myself through the heartache of having to move away from him. It's bad enough when he goes interstate for a few days to visit his family lol. I miss him a lot and that's when I know he's coming back lol. We try to organize the interstate trips so that for most of them I can go with him :-)
@joycemiranda (131)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
well i didn't experience it because i'm satisfied with my condition.
those people who will do this, are those who entered in a relationship wherein their motives are not right, forced, and maybe just playing.
losing someone you love in exchange of something i think is not fair with the other party.
you can still achieve your dreams, attend to your family if they are the hindrance while keeping intact with the relationship.
one thing we can do maybe is that before entering into a relationship, we need to have our own priorities and fulfill them first.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
13 Apr 09
You first have to study his/her mind before taking any decision.If she/he is truly in love with you then you should feel ashamed of just thinking so to ditch him/her.If you have love with you, you can acheive anything.OK agreed that you ditch him/her to acheive something but if you dont get love what will you do?Its LOVE first then MONEY.You can earn money if you stay fit but you cant get back your love if you ditch him/her.
@angkat14 (25)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
It all depends on the priority. :)
If you're still young and you need to leave the person you love just so you'll be able to go to a good university to earn your degree, then by all means, do so.
We actually separated 3 years ago when he's been assigned to a different country. We figured that it was a wise move for his career and well, though he was thinking of staying just for me, I figured out that I don't want to be the only person to stop him from leaving and fulfilling his dreams, so I had to urge him to go.
We maintained being friends and well, only time can tell if we'll be able to get back together in the future.