Making better choices help us live better....

I fully agree. We cannot live in fear. Fear deprives us of life, of living. Fear makes us prisoners. What is going to happen, will happen. If there is anything we can do to stop something bad from happening, we typically do rise to the challenge but it's useless to fear the unknown! "Choose your battles" is a phrase I live by. The word "battles" in that statement means "fears" as well. If you cannot do anything about something, why worry? It's going to happen however we live our lives. It's better to have lived our lives with happiness and intention than to cower in fear. I made that conscious decision years ago. Having lived through the "cold war" by doing what I could to make my life and the lives of those aroud me a little bit better, even if it was only by smiling at someone, has kept me sane and I can honestly say that, should I die tomorrow from terrorism, murder, or disease, I have had a pretty good life, all in all. I have done the best I could with the time I've had. I can die a happy person with very few regrets. John Goekler, in my opinion, definitely knows what he's talking about!

Hi mimpi, you are so right my dear friend! We are our own worst enemies! That is what I have always been told! We create our fears and sometimes our own miseries! There are some things that only we have control over if we let ourselves! If we change our way of thinking and believing we can change our lives! We can help ourselves live longer and be stronger and healthier just by changing our way of thinking! We actually have control over these things and the power to change them in most cases! Think about it!

He is mainly right, 80% of things we worry about never happen and if they do we have to deal with them so why worry before, just in case, lol? I do not worry unless I really have to and if I have done all I can about a problem I forget about it. I try to give to charity when I can and sometimes when I can't really afford to. I eat natural foods and try to be a good person, if I mess up I learn from it and forgive myself. I do not fuss about material things and how they look, if it still works that will do, Most importantly I try to do something each day that makes me happy because that is what life is about.

Ok, here is what I think... These are the kind of discussions we need more of here at mylot, anyway.

Hi! Mimpi! Great words by Great John Goekler!Thanks for bringing these beautiful and meaningful words to our knowledge. I really liked it and I also feel that it is 'we' who has 'secure' us before any outside agency does it for us. If we fail to take care of ourselves, we just cannot fight the outside world. It is true that we need to face the ever growing challanges, traumas and agonies in our life with an iron hand. If we are not strong in our hearts of heart and if we cannot make us understand the realities of life, then no one can safeguard us. Our positive thinking drive us to face the adverse situation and we must be strong in our thinking and should have good amount of self control on ourselves.

I like the way this guy thinks! I believe there is more to life than fear and hiding..you have to live. We have to take some things in our own hands. We can't control everything but we should what we can when it comes to our futures and happiness.

he is right mimpi,we can become our own enemy by the negative attitudes.all have their own struggles and problems,it is how we choose to fight it determines our courage and our will to live.

Yes i agree with you on this point, once i heard some one say that 'what we are is not what we are capable of but what are is what road we choose to take'. There are people who have fast analytical powers and these people can do many things and the thing he choose to do matters. The way we view the world might not be the way the world's view for us but what we do and show the world matters the most.

It is the day and age of fear everything and most people realy don't you know. The goverment how ever does. They make us go oh no we are going to be in danger of this group or that group of people. And Yes we can make better choises as we al know. I anser the phone every day to the choises I made and try to fig. out how to pay them. But yes I do agreee. You have a great day

Hi mimpi. Life is a matter of perception and choice. It is not to be feared, although fear is a natural human emotion. We all crave security and a guarantee of a peaceful life but the first lesson is that there are no guarantees in life. The majority of it is out of our control and yet here we are, everyday attempting to hold on to natural course of events. When are we going to get it? It cannot be done, it cannot be pre designed by us, we can only learn to manage it and that means that we may not have any command over outside events and people but we can sure have the power to decide how we deal with them and that has to start with the knowledge that we can handle whatever life throws at us. I agree let us make the conscious decision today to live with integrity, compassion and joy. Life is like a game of cards. The hand that is dealt you is determinism; the way you play it is free will. (Jawaharlal Nehru)

I agree with you absolutely.The article makes me remind those days when I chose the university I would go .That was a bad memory.I can just say that I didn't think my future in advance so carefully that when many choices faced me ,I didn't know which I like best.At last,I chose a university I had never heard before.I came here just accidently.So now,I often feel puzzled.I don't know what my future will be like.But I have to say,I have lost one chance to make a better choice,however,what I can choose now is to do my work wholeheartedly.

making worse choice can lead us to a wrong way ,and better choice give us hope and really great . i often try to reduce my worse choice and sometimes it is not easy for me /

making better choices is really important for us to realize . i think it is our ablility to make a good choice and we should use our own sense to judge things correctly :)

so in other words , optimism is the key to a better living

it is true. Actually our perspective about life makes us life different to us. But all these things like terrorist attacks etc are happening when w least expect it. it is making us scared. If we think, what is to happen will happen, then its ok.

This is very timely and we needed inspirations like this one. I believe John Goekler has come up with such wonderful wisdom in such a conviction that he holds and adhere from. Sometimes, we failed to look up the things that we already possess and reject those things which are not really there. A good one !

thanx for telling how we should view our life , earlier i used to be an angry and arrogant boy , but now i take life in a positive attitude. actually now i really feel happy , and this is only because of one of my friend who totally made me a saint from a devil . well so now i take life in a very happy way .for we have only 1 life to spend so we should spend it happily.

Yes he is right. If we think negative than we willdo negative and if we do negative stuffs then we are dangerous people. It is all in our mind.

Yeah,I can not agree more.Life is short,we should make better choice to help us live better.His suggestions are wise.I like the second tip particularly.I will try to follow the suggestions . Thanks for sharling.