what do you do when the end is in sight?

It is always hard to let someone go when you love them. What you need to do is figure out what makes you crazy happy, not satisfied, but truly happy. If this man is not making you feel special or bettering your life in any way, you should let him go. Sometimes God allows things to happen that hurt us to prepare us for something great. The time you invested in your relationship will not go to waste. Maybe it was meant to be a learning experience, or maybe you weren't ready for what God has planned for your life. Seize the moment, move forward, and embrace all that God has in store for you. I know you will find love again when the time is right, and you will finally feel complete. Keep us updated!

you have many responses so if you don't reas this than... ok. I have been through an oddly familiar event. She was with him for 5 years when the problems really started. It's been 7 now. all that time i was there listening to both sides. in the end i told them both that i have heard both parties. FIRST don't be silent, if you are unhappy you simply wouldn't be in the right not to say anything, no matter how complex you convince youself the situation might be. SECOND you must sit down in a place you are both comfortable and at relative ease and discuss things. If kepping tones low or interupting eachother is an issue than talk of that first in a low even tone. THIRD if it helps say that you will hear his side first, if not then speak your mind say what you are thinking and feeling. Down to your most useless thoughts on the subject and WHY you think them. FOURTH do not use a third party. There is no such thing as an unbiased party that is a family member or friend. The only unbiased party is a stranger, whom i think it would be difficult to disclose sensitive information. FIFTH and final if you both come to realize from this talk or series of talks that you are both unhappy, then become friends and go your seperate ways. Please trust my experience in such matters

I guess you sit down and think of the things most important to you and if you can salvage what is lacking. I am not judging, but are the things that are upsetting you, really something that should? Are they petty? There are so many things in our lives to worry about, and you just have to pass off the little things.

The first thing to do is get your own ducks in order so that you are prepared. Then it's time for the straight talk, set out goals and make sure you know what is going on in his mind. Often men are oblivious to the effect their actions have on others. Blessings

The best thing to do my dear friend dloveli is to talk to him once for all. Don't use a high pich but talk to him calmly as if you are telling me to discuss the matter in seriousness and maturity.You both cannot let the 5 years go just like this. A talk with him will make everything okay. Tell him all your feeling and what you want in your relationship.

Don't give up yet. Just give the relationship another year. I have been hearing from my elders that a relationship becomes shaky on the 3rd year,s 5th year and every 5th year after (10th, 15th, 20th, etc.) I personally think that it is just a challenge for you. It is best that you stick for the meantime before deciding to let go. And always remember that there is no perfect relationship. Hope this helps.

In every relationship there is the danger of getting to comfortable and not work on your relationship anymore. It just flows by, day by day, and before you know it you are getting into a drag. Talking to him is all you can do and if I were you I would give him a wake-up call. He might not even see that if this doesn't change there might be a breaking up as a result. A good thing is to realize that breaking up doesn't allways have to be a negative thing. If something ends it's also the beginning of something new. Just make sure that there is no negative energy around the house for too long a time because children will notive it and it can really put emotional pressure on them without you knowing.

I am extremely lucky in that I managed to marry my first love, and we're doing OK, but I have seen my fair share of relationships in my family, of my friends etc. hit the skids. I think one of the reasons why my husband and I are so successful in our relationship is that we are able to talk about absolutely anything. Have you and your man considered relationship councelling? My husband and I were always on a good footing, but we had some obstacles in our relationship, due to our respective crazy lives, that would throw most couples for a loop, so we decided that marriage councelling would be a good idea for us. Sure enough, it was!!

this comes to mind Jump his bones he he he he

Do you love him? Do you want the relationship to end? Do you want to be happy? A relationship is the responsibility of BOTH the people in it. One person cannot be at fault. We are each 100% responsible for ourselves (including our happiness) and 50% each responsible for the relationship. I see too many people lame the other person when the relationship goes bad and that's not fair. You need to talk and see if you can figure out what each of you needs to do to improve things between you.

do what makes you happy.you shouldn,t have to ask for money from him he should help you automatic he live there just like you.maybe he do need a wake up call.you seem like a good woman.people don,t miss what they have until it,s gone.maybe the wake up call will help him appreciate you more.good luck i hope you can work it out 5 years is a longtime with one person.he shouldn,t let outside people affect your relationship like the neighbor.

Ok first of all, don't call up the TV show "Cheaters" on his behind, lol. Just kidding but STILL don't even try that. Because some people have done so only to find out that they were wrong and the person they called on wasn't cheating at all. So that aside, sit him down and have a long and honest talk with him, like someone else said, don't use any high pitch tones, remain friendly.

I think you should talk to him and express you worries to him.If he works alone and always comes home when work is finished.It could be he is just plain depressed and fed up why don't you go out dancing for the night.Have some fun together.It could be his neibour that is dragging him down.Start relying on him for money ect.Maybe he does not feel you need him anymore ,Men like to feel in charge ,let him think he is.Make up a problem and get him to fix it,praise him like crazy and tell him you love him and see what happens.I do hope things work out for you.xxxx

Change is inevitable for everyone, it's just how we deal with it. Do we persevere and believe that the goodness is still there...? Or do we crumble in negativity, feeling afraid that it won't work out that we didn't realise that we are the ones that holds the answer to it. Yea, relationships tends to get couples to become complacent with each other especially the long ones and usually when they live together...Because both of you have been around each other almost everyday, it is normal to feel.....comfortable around each oher.. Don't believe the part of you that says it just won't work, because you'll find that what you have back then is still in you guys..Spend more time together, have romantic dinners together..Don sweet things for him no matter how childish it is...Communicate more with each other...And i hope you both will rediscover the love that you both once felt sure and passionate about..Good luck, with love, mira.

Best would be to first decide whether you really want to walk out on him or not. For many of us, our relationships just become a habit with us and we are uncertain of a future without our old partner and since this is an important decision, don’t be hasty. Secondly, if you have decided to leave, then sit with him for one last mature talk. After all, its best to listen to his side too so that you don’t suffer from any guilt pangs. Tell me clearly about your expectations and how he is falling short of them and also set a time frame for this to work out…beyond which you would be walking out on him.

It's tough to give advice to someone when you don't really know them. But I would weight all the issues and discuss them with him......or look at the whole situation. It sounds to me like you are being put on the back burner and maybe he doesn't even realize he is doing it....if he is spending his time with the neighbor are you feeling ignored? Bring it to his attention before you do anything drastic!

Hello,dloveli.im sorry to hear that.5 yrs ago,that man may be wants to do everything for you,but now it all different.you both remmenber the wonderful time you have,and he wants to leave you just beacause he is unhappy.I think you can give him some time and space,distance produce beauty.If he still really loves you,he will come back to your side,so ,my friend ,give him some space