Why do we worry so much about age?

@chulce (1537)
United States
April 13, 2009 6:47am CST
I am curious, why so many people worry about age? No matter what happens the numbers will change. I have seen people, women in particular, get very angry that it is their birthday and they are getting older. Are we as people that vain? Age is a state of being. It is just a number, yes, we all feel that our bodies are aging and changing, but we started aging and changing from infant stage on through. As the saying goes; "You are only as old as you feel." Some days I feel like I am an aged woman in need of just sitting, while other times, I feel I'm younger than my teenage sons. It's all about perspective. If you worry about your age? Why do so? It is only a number.
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• India
13 Apr 09
well i think that u r absolutely right , i also think that womens get angry when they find them self older , i think it is because they care more about their face than wht is inside them . i dont care about how old i m i , wht i care about is the inside person , who should always remain a good and innocent person, like he was in his childhood.
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@chulce (1537)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Thank you for your response. It is so amazing, in my shop, I have a lot of women that come in and better than half of them focus on their age, far to much. One little lady is over 87 and just loves life, when it is her birthday, she gets so excited. I hope that when I reach her age, I am just as excited as she is.
@gaaara (19)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Apr 09
i don't worry about my age. their is no need to worry about its obvious that u cant do anything about u getting older. womans have a differnt sense of mind they think that more about their beauty then themselves. enjoy!!
@chulce (1537)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Good point, no sense in worrying just get off your butt and do something. Make a difference in your life and the lives of others around you. They will be more thankful to you for doing something rather than not doing something.
@skyla26 (284)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
worrying your age means that you are not ready for getting old person that the sadly news but getting old persons must be thankful or you must be happy and proud because that's the next chapter of of your life and the previous chapter of your life was completed or finish you are graduated already.
@chulce (1537)
• United States
16 Apr 09
You make a valid point. Maybe that is the problem, people just aren't ready to age. They aren't ready for the next step of experiences that await them. It is amazing how those darn numbers can change ones outlook on life. I hope and pray that the many who do have issues with their age, grow to understand that we all age, we all face the same path, however, it is what we do on those paths that make all the difference. Should we all find our destinies and live happy lives, that is all that we can hope for, to be happy and to love what we are doing.
• India
13 Apr 09
that is correct friend.now a days noy only so many members are bothering about their age
@chulce (1537)
• United States
16 Apr 09
You know with all of us whizzing through our days, staring at the clocks and wondering where that time went, I think we each need to stop and relax, instead of looking at the numbers, find ways to not look at them. A good example would be to take up a new hobby, find new books that might interest each of us, make new friends, get more involved with our communities to make them better places for the next generations to come.
@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
13 Apr 09
Well for me, i am still young so i have not first hand experience of "getting older with age". But if i were to reach my twenties, i guess i would still be me, it wouldn't really bother me that much but i guess being of 20+, at that age i might have to act my age don't you think? I don't think i have ever seen anyone who's 30+ and act like she's 15...It would simply be weird. So i guess people just feel like they're leaving behind their youth, the days where they could freely do crazy and whacky things...even if age is just a number..^_^
@chulce (1537)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Thanks for your response, only time will tell, if you keep a positive attitude, you will go far, my friend. Good luck in your adventure that we call life. There are lots of things to do, many things to try and many things to just see.
@hxstar (510)
• China
13 Apr 09
Well,I don't worry about my age.I think one's age means nothing.It is what you can do that matters and worrying about age is just a waste of time.So,stop worry about your age and do more!
@chulce (1537)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I am so glad to hear that there are so many here on Mylot that don't focus on their age, it is such a wonderful change. Maybe I just live in a weird town. HA!
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
13 Apr 09
Time Marches On. Our age reminds us that we may or may not have accomplished our personal goals. Each time a birthday occurs, we take note of our past. Questions then arise. Have we gotten things done?? Will we be able to accomplish what we desire to do?? Then the shoulda woulda's occur. We should have done this or that. We could have done this or that. We have to try harder to get things done before we die. Life is short. The footprints of our actions will determine if we will be remembered by our society and loved ones.
@chulce (1537)
• United States
16 Apr 09
You make an excellent point. Thank you. You are right, it isn't about the numbers per say, it is about how we view what we have accomplished. I think by taking the time to focus on what we have already accomplished in our lives, it would make things a bit easier for all of us. I think our stress levels wouldn't be so high.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
i think if women get angry with their age the age will show more on their face. if they shrug it off their shoulders then it wont really make them feel it and it does not show it on their faces. my wife is three years older than me but they find me older than my wife. she is always proud of her age and she just happy for another year everytime her birthday arrives. age is wisdom that is what she always say.
@chulce (1537)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Good point. Maybe women shouldn't get angry, rather do something about it. Find a way to make a difference in your life. Find a way to express yourself in other ways that would reflect the positives of your knowledge. Volunteer to mentor teenagers, volunteer to help others learn to read, don't get mad about age, show your wisdom and how far you have come in your own learning capacities.
@vhic0826 (27)
• China
14 Apr 09
I also worry about my age but not that serious. I just worry because I still have many things to accomplish in my life. When I knew that I am getting older but I haven't accomplish my goal yet, it is making me worry about it. It has also something to do with our features physically. When fine lines started to appear on my face, it bothers me. However, I have the positive thing about this. I just don't think that I am getting old. I try to feel young. I make myself happy with the nice people around me. The best thing to do is make our life useful and never waste our time for us not to regret if we will be worned out because of our old age.
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
they say life is a paradox. many people don't want to get old but they want to live longer. but as for me, i don't worry about my age. in fact, when i do get a little older or when my birthday comes i'm grateful because another year has come and it means that i've been able to live that long. you're right. we can't change the way things are, from infancy to old age. it's up to us on how we look at our age.
• China
14 Apr 09
That's a good question I guess.I will have my 23 years old birthday next month.I am still young but not as young as before.I worte a note on my mobile phone as follows,SEIZE the life,to remind me that I am aging and changing everyday.Sometimes I really get confused and feel stressful especially frustrated when I have spent too much time on meaningless and nonsensical things.
• China
14 Apr 09
it`s ok for me,i don`t much care about my age,well,some women must be too sensitive.you know,woman often like that.not other reasons,i mean from the past,woman always keep their ages as a secret.so until now,they keep it also.
@mhil84 (182)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
I think we should just be physical and mentally prepared, we all gonna go into this stage and its very normal. Maybe there are some things we can delay or prevent aging early like for example, take time to meditate and completely relax. This reduces stress levels, calms body and mind whilst boosting body and mind function at the same time. relaxation can boost healthy cell-growth and endorphine production, both aiding the natural healthy lifestyle. Don't be afraid to follow your dreams, and if you hate your life, feel strong enough to change it, anything is possible you create your own happiness from inside. Friends are life's way of making us feel accepted, comfortable and extremely content. Studies also show that people with a close circle of friends and are in a good, loving relationship, live longer than those that don't. All these things can promote great health, and combining all is very hard but struggle many of us don't achieve. A balance between health and love is the secret to longevity and everlasting youth, if you can do it.
• New Zealand
14 Apr 09
Its because the media affects women more than men. If a 40 year old women sees a hot 20 year old girl in a magazine before her birthday, she would obviously be worried.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
13 Apr 09
Hi there, I'm a woman and I don't worry about my age...at least not much. There is no point in it as there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop that clock except maybe die. right? Besides, worrying just creates stress and wrinkles and why push it? I'll admit that I've had my moments. Usually that happens when I'm over-tired and then I feel older. For the most part, I just try to go with it and be myself and myself on the inside has not changed a whole lot over the years. The key is to not try real hard to be way younger than you are. We all have seen the 60 yr old that tries to dress like an 18 yr old. That never works.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
14 Apr 09
Getting older doesn't bother me at all, I have earned each and every gray hair that is trying to pop out on my head! I think that a lot of people are very vain, and at least part of it coems from the way society as a whole acts. I may tease my husband about wanting to have cosmetic surgery, but he and I both know that I don't really want to go there. I have my days when I feel old, very old, and I have those days where I feel like a kid again. To be, getting older is a blessing, and one thing that we don't have to pay for!
@twinklee (894)
• India
13 Apr 09
its the secret number that everyone hold close to their chest.....don wanna let open to others...ageing is an natural phenomena....i opine that you can be better as the time grows.....one thing that isnt gonna change is your mind......so you feeling the age is the direct reflection of it.....if you posess a very strong mind you will be charismatic & younger as ever.......
@zedlav23 (458)
• Philippines
13 Apr 09
Very interesting subject and quite timely. In a few days from now, i'll be celebrating my 30th birthday. I don't know if i have to worry about it but I don't think it should be any cause for worry. I have a happy family, blessed with 2 kids, a good job, and I don't think age would be of any concern. It's just a matter of accepting what comes to man naturally. Although its a sign of another day going closer to the grave. I'm pretty much ready for that because i'm eternally secured and heaven bound with my savior Jesus Christ.
• China
14 Apr 09
Yes,I agree with you,that just is a number.But,when I grow up year by year,the number becames biger and biger.you know, the average age of the current people is between 60 and 80,so that's the problem. the number remind us the truth: the time left is litter and litter. women are not just care about the number,but also the happy or sad time left in her rest life.
• Malta
13 Apr 09
Usually with age, come also problems. The body is not "new" anymore and it's easier to feel tired after a certain age. On the other hand, some attitudes come by because of social behaviour. Some women are upset that their age is showing on the face and in their wrinkles because probably they are not just afraid to feel old physically but maybe to be rejected for a younger woman (something that is done quite often by men!)