Why are parents today are so over-protective?

You know, I've never had any complaints about being "too protective". My older children now live with their father who is very strict, and I've not had any complaints. In fact, they rather like the fact that they have set rules, etc. Not that they didn't have them with me, but that they still have them with him. I have two little ones from my current marriage and I can tell you I'm very protective of them. They were both miracle babies, and that makes them even more watched over because of that. Being over protective or watching out for our children is one way we show our love for our children. If we didn't love our children we'd let them do anything. I think we've all had your perspective though at one point or another, and then it changes once we have children. The same will occur to you. Right now you'll complain about how your parents worry too much, do this too much, etc. Then, one day, you'll have children and all that will change. You'll be doing the same thing your parents are doing now, and smile thinking "Wow, I am the same". It's a sweet thing too because you suddenly understand your parents, and realize how much they love you. Don't take them for granted, don't be too hard on them, because soon they will move on in their journey and you'll be without them here on earth. Namaste-Anora

Some parents are so over protective that they wouldn't let their kids get engaged before graduating school. Some parents wouldn't let their kids get jobs and have phone time or cell phones or even computers. You should be thankful that you have some freedoms other kids have it worse off then you.

well my daughter used to ask me the samething, now she's 24 when she goes out and dont come home she calls to let me know. she told me once. dad it used to bug me so bad, but now i see it as you just really care and love me.. be glad they care about you.. because you become a parnet you will do the samething, yeah it's a pain but they love you. so many other parnets just dont no more

its not that over-protective, we do just love u so much as our son/daughter, we dont want u to get harm, we dont want u to ruin ur life, all we want is ur good life ahead of u, thats the role being a mother or a parents

well look at all the things that could happen now a days. they want the best if they acually care. i know my parents let me do whatever i wanted, but they still asked the stupid questions which i hated. o well that is their job, i mean they are our parents and we are their responsibility until we are of legal age, and still then they have some what control on us. but not as much.

What to say, parents are like that only, you should accept this facts, they are protective because they love you, but everything over is never good. So, if you are really bothered by their over protective nature then you should discuss you situation with them and hopefully they will understand. Every thing can be resolve by good discussion. So, good luck.

Parents are worried stiff about criminality even on your children. They just don't feel safe in today's world. One has to be careful whom to trust as there were cases of child abuses by priests, grandparents, uncles , cousins, family friends etc. So being vigilant is something needed in today's world.

I'm not sure how old you are...your profile says 21 but your speech here sounds more like 15-17 year old. Regardless though, your parents are protective b/c your their child. They love you and want you to be safe not to mention they want you to make good choices in life. When your older and have children of your own, you'll find out. Be happy that your parents care about you, some kids would give anything to have a parent that loves them that much. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

My parents are really over protective. They wouldn't even let me go to a friend's house without knowing all their info first. It's frustrating. I'm almost 18!

i agree with you dear.these days parents are being a bit too overprotective........ like you my sis is engaged,but my parents seem to think that something wrong may happen and all.i hope they try and think a bit positively...... its going to better for all...

I know how you feel because I was also raised in a very overprotective environment. They've been like that since I was a kid and I must admit it's annoying. They set rules for me, wouldn't allow me to late night parties, sleepover with friends, and anything you could think of for sure that they wouldn't allow. I even envied my friends' parents who are not strict like them. Sometimes I wondered if they experienced my current age. But, you know what? Even though they're very overprotective, we have to understand them. I know it's annoying when being treated that way but we have to remind ourselves that it's their nature on why they are like that. What you have to do is try to be a good daughter to them. Don't tell them to change their overprotective attitude because it doesn't work, believe me. If you want to change them, start it with yourself first. That's always been a rule. Do things whatever you think is right and don't mind personally whatever they say. I'm not saying this in a negative manner. Always voice out your opinion on how they treated you and if they listen then that's good but don't expect them to change overnight and if they don't, at least you've tried. Also, try not to disappoint them and if you did, explain it. Don't take all things (esp. your hatred and their overprotectiveness) personally.

Your parent's are being over protective because they love you and don't want anything to happen to you! There are so many crazy things happening today it's scary being a parent. I'm a parent of a 8 yr old and i'm very overprotective. I dont trust anyone with my son, I just feel like he's my life and & it's my job to protect him the best way I can. you cant possibly no that feeling unless your a parent. But embrace your parents even tough they might be alittle strict or over protective it's only because they love you!

Yes all parents are like that. I think they are over-protective because they don't want you to overcome the problems they had or they're just afraid you might get injured. What I know for sure is that you will find out why they're so over-protective when you'll have a kid. When you will have a baby, you will know because you will be over-protective also. I think God made us this way. It isn't a thing that the parents do on purpose, is in our nature.

I think that they are so protective because they have gone thorough so many problems before that they rather you not go over the same problem again. The fact is that while some mistakes or problems are better not gone through again. There are just times where children have to try taking responsibilities even though they are heading in a wrong direction. Only by making mistakes that they will learn more. Parents just sometimes forget how they have come though all those troubles to make them the way the are now. It is sometimes sad for me to see that parents are getting too protective on their children making them like so fragile that when they are suddenly put into the society, they fail to face the pressure and is not capable of dealing with all the troubles arise day after day.

I do not know how to be protected by parents because I never live with them. I was raised by my great grandmother in the province. I never experienced being with my parents for a long time. The longest would be a year but then I was still closest to my great grandmother. Anyway if I am being protected to much my tendency is to rebel. I have realized that some of the things I did when I was still in my teenage years were result of the strictness of my relatives who supported my studies in college. I think parents should give their kids freedom but once that freedom was abused then they should be strict to their kids. Also communication is very important. Parents should always explain to kids the importance of trust and that they should not let their parents trust be broken.

There are a lot of aaccidents that are happening outside. I really understand those parents for being so protective of their children.

no parents hope to see their kids suffer from life and most of them want to llove their kids as best as they can . we should change our way of loving ,real love is to teach them them how to be independent :)

In our parents' eyes, we will always look like a baby. You can't blame them for being overprotective They always want to protect you and doing all the best they can. That's why we as their children won't understand why they won't give us so much freedom and never seem to let go. You're engaged now, soon to be married and soon to be a parent too. Once you become a parent, you'll understand really well why. For the time being, just try to cope with it.

With everything going on in the world I can understand why parents can be over-protective. There are murders, rapes, kidnappings and other horrible incidents involving kids. I had parents like this and it is really hard, the best thing is to slowly ease them into it. Prove to them you are responsible and can look after yourself.

Haha, i guess it's natural for them to be that way...My parents are over protective too...They always think if i don't do as they say, something bad is gonna happen, But in your case, you're engaged! I think they should try to cut you some slack...Maybe bcz you're engaged and all, it'll be their last chance to be over protective of you...lol. ^_^