is there really a black sheep in your family?

let me introduce myself..baaa,baaa,black sheep i;m that sheep..and my elders are the sheep sheers..i grew up in a catholic italian family im the 4th of 9 kids and the only one with a weight issue growing up my aunt and grandmother on my fathers side hated me because of my weight and i looked like my mother..these are my fathers side..my grandmother actually told me at 10yrs old that she hated my guts and wished that i never was born..my mothers mom passed away when she was 8y old..ive never fit into my family so im that black sheep..to this day my eldest sister and her family and my older brother are welcomed and even sent boxes of clothes,food,money..my son has never been welcome either because i had him outta wedlock..so for me family closeness i dont have..and it really hurts..i just recentaly connected with my two adult nephews one is talking to me and hes not blood hes my brothers step-son..my blood nephew hates me but get this..he;s never met me..and im judged..how family can be so cruel..so ill never get to know him hes blocked me out totally...ok getting off soap box now..

I will try your questions one by one. 1.0 Is this really true? Yes, definitely it is. I have a lot of families who has at least one black sheep in the family. In my own family, I am glad we don't have one. 2.0 Why does this happen? According to my research, the main cause is jealousy. However, this does not mean that the child is evil. Sometimes, it is the parent who motivate their child to be a black sheep. Incidentally, here is my recent post entitled How to Avoid Having a Black Sheep in the Family - http://fatherblogger.com/2009/04/01/how-to-avoid-having-a-black-sheep-in-the-family/ As I have written there, I gave emphasis on parents having an open communication with their children, giving them equal opportunities, no comparison, and treat them with high respect. I even gave the film The Good Son starring Macaulay Culkin as an example of how evil a child can be if he is extremely jealous. To sum them up, I think parents should be sensitive enough to the feelings of their children and spend quality time with them.

Well since we are only two children in the family and my older sister seems to be the good girl in the family then I guess I am the black sheep in the family. But I really think I am not since I grew up pretty normal and finished my schooling in time and I think I have never given my parents that much headache when I was in their care. I really think that is the common belief in families that are large or have many children. There comes someone that feels a bit different or got neglected by their parents somehow while growing. But for small families like us I guess that doesn't happen since we are both given the attention that we require from our parents.

Hi there! Black sheep is an english idiom which describes a disreputable member of a group, especially within one's family. The term has been given negative implications, implying waywardness. In my opinion I think some families do have black sheep found among their children. I think it's part of the realities in the society. It's part of family problems. In my relatives there is one member of the family considered a black sheep. Gambling has been his problems and he began stealing from his own family. He is my uncle, my father's brother but I never considered him a black sheep. I just heard the term from his brothers and sisters. Ciao!