backfighter!!!

Maybe you would like to check on them personally? 'Coz backfighting could easily be solved by open communication. Ask them what's wrong and try to express your opinions as patient as you can. Don't start an argument 'coz it will only aggravate the problem. Besides, nothing can't be solved since the conflict is within your family members - no matter what happens, they're still your family. Take it easy - remember the child inside your tummy. :)

I would say if you can't change the people around you, change the people around you! You seem to be a kind soul that likes to help everyone around you. I see this because I am the same type of person. However, and it takes people like us a long time to see this; you have to realize being this way means that there are people that will take your kindness for weakness. The sad truth is, you cannot help everyone, whether they are family or not. The best advice I can give you is to call these people on it. You don't have to go off or start fighting, remember your condition, but, you can firmly and assertively tell these people that you don't like what they are doing or saying behind your back. Then, if it continues, refuse to help these people in the future. As long as you continue to help them with money and buying things for them, they are going to continue to treat you the same way. Remember, you teach people how to treat you. So you have to stand up and teach them that you can't be run over any longer. Otherwise, the same thing will continue to happen to you. If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.