Do you find that parenting is a very stressful job?
By myfb2009
@myfb2009 (8296)
Malaysia
April 15, 2009 10:00am CST
When l was single, l never thought that parenting is a very stressful job. Since from the born of my son, my life had been in the fast-lane road. I hardly have free time on my own. I had to devote majority time to my son. Especially now, he's an active toddler, lm having the worse dilemma of my life. I found out that, now l hardly have time to online as well. If l can online for 2-3 hours a day, is already consider as my lucky day. Since most of the time, l don't have the chance to online at all. Can share with me, how's your parenting experience?
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10 responses
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
16 Jun 09
Being a parents i think its a responsibility matters to do. Don't put your self and get buried for that stressful job. It is not actually a stressfully things to do you know. The problem is, maybe you are not getting used to fell the experience of beong a parents. You still could have your free time online when your son are sleeping. Just turn your activity clock myfb2009.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
16 Jun 09
Thanks for your wonderful advice. I admit that, at first, i really not familiar with a parent responsibility. Well, it's really a very tough and stressful job, that i ever handle in my life. As time passed by, now i slowly familiar with my new schedule. And yes, i still can online and do mylotting whenever my son is asleep...
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
15 Jun 09
welcome to parneting.. lol. having to find things to keep him busy is the thing. like i know my grandsons, neices and nephews love watch show for kids, they will sit for hours in front of the tv.
but enjoy it now, because one day your song will be 13, then 18, then 20 and all grown up with his own family
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
16 Jun 09
Glad to receive some great tips on how to handle parenting problems successfully. Yes, i do felt enjoyed eventhough sometimes, i am very tired to handle all those requests from my toddler. Now, my son is in the learning process, so he tends to demand quite a lot of things. I don't approve all his requests. It depends on how important is that request. And, seems like he understand most of the time, why i can't approve some of his request..Yes, i can't wait to see how is my son in another 10 years and so on.....
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
12 Jun 09
We have two kids and my wife take care of them and i find time to be with them on only sundays and even though she never say a word on this till now and she enjoys all the things that kids do and what i think parenting is not a stressful but a tough jod to do for this one should be more patience with the kids and with their activities.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 09
Yes, it's quite tough job. My husband also said that to me when he was at home with my son on saturdays and sundays. He even told me, it's more tough than his job in the office. Well, it's right when our children started to make many request.It's hard to want to please to their's every request...
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
17 Apr 09
It is the most important job in the world! It's a shock to the system when you have been used to plenty of time for yourself and a tidy house! My little one is seven and I'm trying to work from home which is not too bad while she's at school, but when she comes home it is a struggle to finish my work for the day.
It's school holidays here in Australia at the moment and as you can imagine here I am attempting to work with a child that needs to be entertained, it's near on impossible!
When you have kids planning your days is futile and having a clean house is a thing of the past so don't fight it and relish the joyful moments because there are a lot of those too!
@chastity7 (104)
• United States
5 May 09
parenting is always stressful, for both parents, but I think it's worse for the mom. I used to be a stay at home mom, and I did all the housework, and took care of the kids. After all, my husband was out making a living all day right? well now I am a full-time employed mom, and most of the housework and child care is still left up to me. I take my oldest to school at 6:30 every morning, drive my younger two to daycare over 30 miles away, then drive myself to work, work all day, go pick up littler two, pick up older daughter, go home, do homework, housework, dinner, bath books, bed and if there is time left in the day I take a shower or brush my hair. but that's life. Mothering is always hard. I told my husband the other day, we both were sick, he spent the entire Saturday on the couch complaining and in pain, ect. and of course I was up, taking care of the kids, and I told him, I don't have time to be sick. he knows he can chill on the couch, nap, be sick, whatever, and I will take care of the kids no matter how sick I am because I have to. I don't have anyone to take over for me, if I'm sick I'm still Mom. that's the way it is. I just try to squeeze in a little me time here and there for my own sanity. I took off the other day to "run errands" and sat in my car for like 15 minutes, just listening to the peace and quiet. then when I got home I was more relaxed and ready to get back to being a mom. It is tough, but hang in there, because it is so worth it. :) :)
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
6 May 09
Yes, parenting is a very tough job. Especially for mothers. Motherhood is more tougher than fatherhood when you had to struggle between your job and doing house job, as well. I ever been through this type of situation before, so i understand how you feel at this moment..That's why, people said Mother's love is great...
@kelz784 (974)
• Australia
15 Apr 09
Well about a year ago I went from having no kids, a quiet,clean house and no stress to having my nine year old stepson living with me. It's definitely more stressful and it's important to get some me time or I feel like I'm going insane. There are good moments too though. :)
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
yeah parenting is very hard job actually. ive just realized it also now, that im having two kids and fully a mother to them, i mean im a plain mom, im just doing some business also, but of course being a singlemother is a tough job either. its hard to explain things to them especially to my eldest son, he is now 14 years of age, and hes kinda hardheaded boy, but im trying to practice my patience for him. hehehhee
@dlr297 (5409)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Yes when you decide to become a parent it is a full time job. I had 8 children and it was very stressful at times, but it was also very rewarding. right now my kids are 36 to 18 (My baby turned 18 today). At times it will seam like you do not have any time for yourself, but as time goes on you will discover that you will work it out. and for now because your child is so young you will be glad later on that you did spend all this time with him. so for now forget about your free time, and enjoy every moment that you can with your son, because he will grow up, and that time will be gone., and just be happy with what little time you have for yourself now.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 09
Thanks for sharing about your parenting experiences..Wow, you did a great job, able to take good care of all your 8 children. Im sure your children would be very proud, to have a wonderful mum around. Yeah, l guess that's what l should do now. Being a devoted mum for this moment..
@jennajen26 (79)
• Canada
15 Apr 09
having children will definately take all your time and energy! unless you have a lot of help.. i never did, so i can tire pretty easily.
your life will never be the same again, you are no longer able to concentrate on just yourself anymore, you have so many more other responsibilities.
you just have to remember that you need attention too. you need breaks! and time to yourself!
if you do not get enough breaks, or help, you may find yourself stressed out beyond words, and not having enough energy for ANYTHING.
so please, get a babysitter from time to time :) and go have some fun!