Womans can accept failure better than man? Is it so?
By thanusha85
@thanusha85 (532)
Malaysia
6 responses
@saffrondreams (596)
• Canada
15 Apr 09
Eh...I'm always skeptical of essentialist explanations for gendered behavior.
Personally, I think it's because of social conditioning. Men are pushed a lot harder to be successful than women, because if she doesn't make it to the top, she can always marry someone who did and become a housewife. So they have the option to take it easy way, whereas men don't.
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 09
Hi, I agree with you that the expectation on womans are not high but nowadays woman are not the type who gives up and get themselves settle with a guy who is succesfull. We strive for success without giving up. Maybe you can take a look at the post sent by someone after you. I guess that explanation goes along better. Dont you think so? And from what you have written I can guess so you should be a male
Regards
Thanusha
@saffrondreams (596)
• Canada
16 Apr 09
Hmm...nope, I'm female but I've been told that I think more like a guy and get mistaken for such often online. :P
But where does that "ego" come from? Is it innate, or is it socially conditioned? From my observations, I think that a lot of these differences that we think are innate are taught. I think in a lot of ways, boys are encouraged to be individualistic, and to have pride in themselves and their own achievements whereas girls are taught not to have an ego, to take care of other people before thinking about their own accomplishments. I know this is true for me because I myself have a huge ego, and I'm constantly told to think about other people, be humble whereas my male relatives and friends are encouraged to achieve.
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 09
Yes I agree with you, we girls are tought to be soft and always consider others and that why we do not have much ego and there are some girls are egoistic as well. It depends on the way the person is nutured actually. You are very knowledgable and I appreciate your opinion alot. Thanks
Regards
Thanusha
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
18 Apr 09
I don't know but yes they are the one who can publicly show their tears and thus they can accept their fault and get the guilt away from them by crying, which we men can't afford to do!
Once we accept a fault then it is very difficult for us to get out of the guilt!
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 09
Hi
Accepting fault and apologizing or sheding tears is not wrong. Its not a way we use to move on its a indication that show we truely realize and regret over something that has gone wrong.
Thanusha
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@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
I am not so sure about this topic but I think there are several factors that could affect every individuals acceptance of failure. I just observe that status in life affects a man and a woman's ability to cope up faster with failures. Some rich people may have hard time accepting them. Some poor may have easier and shorter time to accept facts of failure. In my case I think I can accept failure more than my husband maybe because he has been far better than me. I do not deny that fact and I do not envy him but I am proud of him. That is why when I fail I know that he is there to catch and comfort me. When he feels down or he failed at something I also comfort him but then I notice that he sometimes hide his real emotion. I know that I am more sensitive than him and has softer heart but I do not know how can I handle failure without his comforting words. But I know someone, a woman who is having difficulty accepting failures and moving on. Maybe the best advice to other women like me that I could give is that never give up. We may have suffered a lot and we may have failed but then we are the ones who have the strongest courage to continue and pursue life despite trials. I can say that because I am a mom and we all know moms are mostly strong.
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 09
Hi Yori
First of all I am very impressed with your reply and I am happy for you to have such a supportive husband. There is a saying that says in every mans success there is a women as a reason but in your case you are there for your husband and your husband is there for you. one in a thausand couples would be intimate in such was and you both are very lucky. I agree with all the point that your have given on your reply. I admire your last sentence, moms are strong. Yes you are absolutely correct, moms are strong!
Thanusha
@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
Thanks for choosing me as the best response. All I can say is that I answered from the heart and thought really hard about your topic. I also agree with what you said that in every mans success there is a women as a reason. I wish I could be strong until I die because I want my son to see me like this. I wish you all the best and may you be strong too in all the challenges that life may bring. Take care!
@neerajpandey_13 (1765)
• India
18 Apr 09
No, it is not true. Woman can't face failure bravely. Woman are less motivated then man. Due to that woman always need company. Generally woman also feel more stress then man as well.
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 09
Hi neerajpandey
Woman at the time of failure may feel depress but dunt you think they are easier to wake up and move on in life?
Thanusha
@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Women do not have that easy way out, in fact many women are the head of household in earnings, nothing wrong with that. There are many men who have become the home makers while the wife is working. As far as who can accept failure better, that depends on the person, not gender, it has to do with the way we were raised, our beliefs in who we are as an individual. Gender has nothing to do with who can or who can't handle what better. It is the education of life that dictates that.
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 09
Hi, Thanks alot for the opinion. Well what you say is also true. It depends on the personal individual actually. Thanks alot again for sharing this point of view
Regards
Thanusha
@temptjess (48)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Yes actually because we dont have this thing called an ego. If we lose at something we turn around and think, ok no problem try again. If they lose at something their ego and pride is damaged and it takes them a while to come back around.
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 09
Hi tempjess
This seem to really fit to the question. I do agree with you expanation. Womans strive to success and mans cannot take failure because of the ego attitude they have. But mans out there forgive me if you are not. I would like to say NOT ALL MANS ARE LIKE THAT.
Regards
Thanusha