Myth about being perfect to be loved...

Philippines
April 15, 2009 1:16pm CST
Do you remeber this.. "I wish I was perfect for him to love me" or "what shall I do for him to love me?" uumm...so you want to be "Perfect" for a guy just to love you the way you love him? TO women out there thinking that you should be perfect for that guy to love you, propose to you...for you to have that ring... If you are waiting for a ring... that special ring? Hmm well this is just what I think.. you don't need to be perfect for him to give you that. I was reading this book. It's making me feel better than the couple of weeks. If he is not the guy for you.. then just go! Go look for THE ONE! Don't MAKE him THE ONE... Right? I mean.. you don't have to put that much effort for him to love you... If he loves you..he loves you.. If he don't want to..then he will not... Myloters? What do you say about this? I am open to any opinions or any feed backs
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MysD
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
15 Apr 09
Brilliant thoughts shikimurei! If two people were meant to be together then no changes will be encessary. If this or that is not right then the situation as a whole is not right and it is best to be out of it and moving on, however hard it may seem at the time. No-one should change for another or expect another to change for us!
MysD
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
15 Apr 09
Yes you are definately addicted! Take your time if you do not have topics for discussion and try responding on all the other discussions available. I find that useful for the new users both for seeing what happens here and to make friends. I don't start many either and thank you for the compliment too! As long as you are enjoyng yourself that is all that matters! Oh and if you ever do sign off, sleep well
shikimurei
@shikimurei (284)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
hehehe! I could not help but sleep after this post.. :)
shikimurei
@shikimurei (284)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Yep! you should not change who you are and should not expect. Thank you for replying and the complement! I have been pondering a lot about what to post here. I was inspired to think of more sensible discussions because of you... I saw some of your discussions and post. :) It's actually 12 midnight here now but am addicted! ahahaha!
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nushrat
@nushrat (13)
• United States
15 Apr 09
I totally agree with you. If you can't be yourself with him, if you have to change yourself just to get his attention, then it's not really worth it. If he loves you, you'll be the most perfect woman in his eyes despite any and all imperfections. And that's the love that makes living worthwhile.
shikimurei
@shikimurei (284)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Yeah! I mean think of the time when you were madly in love? He did not have to be perfect and for you HE is the perfect!
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ljames8585
@ljames8585 (129)
• Canada
15 Apr 09
I completely agree if you have to change yourself is it really worth it?
shikimurei
@shikimurei (284)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Yeah.. Like If you get into the relationship with him and if he does not really love you and just leave you in the end... the ride is not worth it. Thank you for replying.. Happy myloting!
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maezee
@maezee (41988)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Exactly. Good post. I totally agree. A lot of girls blame THEMSELVES for their break-up and become insecure as a result. This is how a lot of people develop eating disorders & a generally sense of self-loathing, and it's just not RIGHT! Nobody's perfect to begin with - and the person who's right for us is going to LOVE us - ALL of us - even our flaws.
shikimurei
@shikimurei (284)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Yes Maezee... I hope some of those girls read this post and go on with their lives. Thank you for your reply ;) Girl power!
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