What are the consequences of loving a married man?
By applebeez
@applebeez (22)
United States
April 15, 2009 5:37pm CST
Some people believe in the myth that "love is blind and lovers can't see what pretty follies they themselves commit. There are woman or vice versa who fell in love with a married man/woman. Though they know how immoral and despicable it is. But there are reasons why some still get involved to someone with responsibility. It maybe because he/she is his/her first love, or some other reasons. Whatever the case is,if you are in love with someone who is married you are unfortunate so run as fast as your legs can carry.
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11 responses
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 09
It's a relationship that I would try to avoid at all cost. Men is another thing but we woman shouldn't betray one another. Do not take someone that already belong to someone else. What would we feel if someone do the same thing to us? Won't we be crush as well?
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@applebeez (22)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Hi there prinzcy,
Nice one, the golden rule is "Do not do unto others what you don't want others do unto you"
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
What can you get from loving a married man? well, my answer is....
Adultery!!! yea because it is against the law of God to cling to a married man or woman. Ladies and gentleman, beware of committing adultery by loving or being involved with a married person. In the eyes of the law of the land and the law of God it is a sin.
@applebeez (22)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Right, that is a violation against the 8 capital sin.
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@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
You could never be fully happy if you are in love with
a married man. He is married so the love you had with him
has no future. It will be like a torture for both of you.
So relationship of this type should be avoided at all cost.
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@apples99 (6556)
• United States
16 Apr 09
There can be serious consequences when it comes to dating and loving someone who's married, number one you risk bodily harm, becuse the other party involved maybe really hurt and angry that there husband or wife is seeing someone else, and that person might become irrational and do something to retaliate and that might lead to someone being physically harmed, you see and hear about bad things happening to people involved in love triangles all the time, and lets not forget that dating a married person hurts everyone involved especially if theres children involved, and I just would not want to be the other woman to someone who may never leave there spouse why put yourself through all the heart brake over someone who is not really yours to begin with its just not worth it to me, in my opinion.
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@daneg33 (1128)
• Canada
15 Apr 09
Well, it only leads to heart break and disaster for all involved. If you are in a marriage and you are looking outside of it for whatever reason, maybe you need to ask yourself why. Also, you need to think about your spouse's feelings and how it would feel if you were in their shoes. The person who is interested in someone who is married should give their head a shake. Marriage is supposed to be a committed relationship. The only time someone who is married should be pursing someone else is if they are no longer married or become separated. The "sneaking around" devastates people. It's just not worth it.
@applebeez (22)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I pretty much agree,to continue down the path ahead is to walk willingly into a dark swamp composed of depression, heartbreaks and futility
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@Jennlk84 (4205)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Just as a total side note, Applebeez - your nickname just made me hungry for my favorite salad at my favorite restaurant - Applebees! haha Anyways, getting involved with a married man or woman is nothing but trouble and it's morally WRONG. I don't care if you fall in love or not - that person has made a commitment to someone else. Seeing things like this happen break my heart. Because then the other person always ends up hurt when they find out that their husband or wife has been cheating on them with another person.
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@applebeez (22)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Hi there,same here,since i arrived in America so far Applebees and Chili's resto is my fave.. anyways, i wasn't in the situation but my friend is.. and i keep telling her to stop it as soon as she can before it adds up into a big pile of heartaches and problems. Im not in control of the situation so i realize that if you are into it its hard to back out especially if you love that person. I know its wrong but who am i to judge her.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Sometimes this happens because the person doesn't know that he/she is married. Because it is not uncommon for the people to leave the rings off their fingers. A person starts going out with a married man not knowing that the person is married. They go out for some time and than it is found out that the person is married. By that time there are deep feelings involved. At the point that it is found out that the person is married it is time to leave. But it is not as easy because now the feelings of love are here.
@jellymonty (2352)
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16 Apr 09
Yes you are right about running as fast as I can. I have just recently, finally managed to let go of a married man I dated for four years. Its not worth it as i eventually found out. I ended up being big the loser. Not only that I hurt the whole family so that makes it even worse. Lucky enough his wife doesnt know about me and she never will... well unless he blabbs it out!!
But for anyone in this kind of position.. its not worth it so just abandon and search for a mate who isnt attached to someone else...
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@gbeny007 (14)
• Jamaica
16 Apr 09
To fall in love with married man or woman is not a new or uncommon events this days but it's a means or the realization of the scriptures .Whether we like it or not scientist has always come to conclusion that there are mysteries in the world that their sources will remain unknown .The scriptures make me to understand that immorality will be on the rampage or there 'll be an upsurge in the rate of criminal and offences.Moreover ladies of nowadays like to fall in love with responsible men.
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@gbeny007 (14)
• Jamaica
16 Apr 09
To fall in love with married man or woman is not a new or uncommon events this days but it's a means or the realization of the scriptures .Whether we like it or not scientist has always come to conclusion that there are mysteries in the world that their sources will remain unknown .The scriptures make me to understand that immorality will be on the rampage or there 'll be an upsurge in the rate of criminal and offences.Moreover ladies of nowadays like to fall in love with responsible men.
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@dufresne (137)
• China
16 Apr 09
In essence,marriage is only a game of time and space. It's easy to imagine how many people get married purely for love---a few, if not few. Most cases are people get married simply because they have reached the right age!But our law and institution and ethics forbid the "third party thing". Theses institutions, however, is directed toward societal stability, rather than true love.
My conclusion here is if two of you are brave enough to testify to the true meaning of love, go ahead without regard to your critics. On the other hand, if your love is simply limited to body attraction, do it as secretly as possible, if you don't want to cut off the relationship immediately.
Hope this would help!
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