have you tried long distance relationship?

Hi russvy. I am afraid of having distance relationship. I have a bad experience on that. My ex broke with me because it was just too hard to maintain the relationship. He was a guy from a different religion and was find with religous difference between us. However when he wanted to break up he gave me the excuse that we are from different religion and we cant move on. I was extremely depressed cause I love him truely from the bottom of my heart. I was studying in a different state. However the real reason he broke off with me was because it was hard to keep in touch. He felt I was a burden where he had to call me and it cost him alot. He told me the truth when I am back in town and wanted to get back into relationship. I agree my love for him is still there but I cant accept him. I am not angry with him but dissapointed. Why didnt he mention to me he cants spent much on calls. I would have accepted his excuse and adapt without his calls. The relationship would not have broke off. Breaking up was not the solution. If I were to accept him and suddently he has some financial difficulties is he going to break up with me again. I would say we have to make it clear if we want a distance relationship. Regards Thanusha

I was in a long distance relationship and honestly it did not work for me, but that doesn't mean it won't work for others. I think they take a lot of work and time to make it work.

You know what, when you fall in love, you fall in love. You can't really decide to stop your heart if it decides to fall in love with someone near or far. I have gone through this 2 times and it's really tough, the first one was pure friendship because we both were afraid to try it out (we're still friends now, he's married - I have never even met him in person - the 'love' lasted for 8years), the second one (met him several times) is sadly about to end. All I can say is, people say it's tough, but it's not really tough all the time, there are advantages to long distance relationships because you grow fonder of the person, I think the main thing that makes the distance really tough is the fact that you can't do mostly what others in a close-distance relationship can do. Your mind would be wandering about and if you are an idle person, you'll go mad. Now, if you ask me if I ever want to do that again, I'd pretty say I'll try not to. But still, only time can tell.

I agree with that statement!!! distance is nothing if you really love the person. distance is not a hindrance if you are really sincere. My hubby and I are in a long distance relationship, half way around the world but we have daily communication through emails and weekly phone calls. I could say, if you are really sincere and truly love each other, distance doesn't matter.

i've been in long distance relationship, and i felt it hard to adjust ist very difficult to be far from someone very dear to you,even how much you love to each other but sometimes love will never works,and i gave it up.

I ever tried long distance relationship and I never disturbed by this situation. all I need is communication, and trust from my partner, just like what i give to her. Communication is the most important when you have a distance relationship, because just by that me and my girl know what is the current condition of each other. Not like now, a few past year when I do this relation, communication is hard to do, but we do, just by SMS or by phone. Now technology make all thing is easier. Mylot, Facebook, tweeter, and all networking website can make us know what is the update of our partner or our friend.

It's very hard to maintain an long distance relationship....and very wearing...I did it once....it was hard to handle being so far apart and finally we just gave up on it....

I have tried a long distance relationship in the past and it didn't work out. i know now that i can't have a long distance relationship. at least not one were you don't get to see each very often... but in most long distance relationships that is the case... but i can't do it. i need someone here. i want to be able to hold her, see her, smell her, all that stuff.. just talking on the phone or online doesn't cut it.. web cams and stuff. i still talk to her and am great friends.. could even be with her again if she didn't live in another state lol so i don't do them anymore. don't even try it.. because i know me and i know what i want. i know being in a relationship like that would just make me depressed.

Hi, russy! Welcome to myLot! I have been in a relationship that was long distance before. It was a couple of times. It happened when I was in the same state as the guy. He lived in another city, and I lived in another city. He lived about 30 to 35 minutes from me, I think. It was okay, but there were times where he could not make it to see me in time. I would be mad. It did not work out between us, he kept slacking off at coming to see me. And there was a transportation issue at times. It was okay at first, but I think that his lack of time, caused our relationship to suffer. For your friend, if she and the guy can work at it, and give it their best shot. I would say, go on to her. But, it has to be a great amount of communication and trust in this type of relationship. I hope that they both can work at it. But as for me, I am just sticking with being in a relationship with the guy that lives in the same city and state as I. Good luck to your friend's relationship!

yes!but unfortunately for me,it's a total failure...this type of relationship will never work for someone like me because i'm a 'touch person'...i can't live on a relationship that depends on technology all the time...no offense..but maybe for others it's fine..but not for me...

I had a long distance relationship with a guy. We lived about 3 hours apart, but when your young that's far. I worked full time, but i got my boss to give me my 2 days off in a row so i could go see him for the 2 days i was off. He never traveled home to see me. He used to live her, but he never came back. We made it work for a couple of months after he moved out there, but then he was acting different, and i realized he was cheating on me. A couple months later he called & told me he was going to be a father, and he missed me, and he screwed up. Well too little too late buddy. He cheated on me & got the girl pregnant so if he thought i was going to take him back, there really was something wrong with him. Long distance relationships suck & they are way too hard on your relationship. I dont recommend them. I guess we never really loved each other like we thought we did because maybe if we did, it would have worked. I dont know. I really dont care anymore.

it hard for to have a long distance relationship so i'd rather not to do it but of course i know i cannot stop the beats of our heart but it's depends to the person

About love,about long distance relationship.It is a difficult problem.It is hard to say.I suffer the similar situation.But in that time we didn"t break up.Now we are in the same city,but our feeling is not better.I don"t know what the problem is.Maybe we are tired of each other.We have become lovers since 2005.So I think love depends on our feeling.

HI,RUSSVY God is who you never touch,never see and never hear,but you can feel it. So the emotion and the love. Distance is not a so terrible problem. People can live togother,because people are living on the earth. By plane,car and ship,people can go to one place. It is not a problem about one man and an E.T. get married. The core point is do people want and the degree of their desire.