Friends... Are they good for you, or are they bad for you?
By misskrys21
@misskrys21 (9)
United States
April 15, 2009 11:42pm CST
I know almost everyone is going to say they are good for you... but are certain friends really all that good for you? I know we all have that one friend, who you have been friends with for a long amount of time... but they are the type that is all about me, me, me.
You go to that person with a problem, or just needing to talk... and they end up switching the conversation up on the. See, I am the type that I can't give up on people, but sometimes I wonder when is there going to be some me time. I am far from selfish, but everyone deserves to be selfish every once in a while.
We all go through our own problems all the time and we just need to lean upon someone, but is there actually anyone that we can trully lean upon?
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11 responses
@babshish (1387)
• India
16 Apr 09
Friens are always good for you to share your thoughts, feelings and ofcoure you have them with you when no one is there. But ofcourse such friends are very few who will be with you during your bad times to share your sorrows and in good thimes share you happiness. I personally feel that every one has at least one best friend with whom you can be yourself, who knows in and out of you.
@misskrys21 (9)
• United States
16 Apr 09
That is exactly how I feel. There is always that one good friend or multiple ones... but which one of us is so lucky as to get one like that. I have one, but she is my mother... and there is no better friend then your mother... but then also she IS your mother, she is going to be there for you whenever you may need here. I just wonder how there is some people out there that says they love you and that they are your best friends and then they always turn the story on theirselves.
@debshie (392)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
Well life is how you perceive it to be just like your friends. For me, friendship is something deep and personal. In life there are limitations as there are to friendships. You cannot always expect your friends, even your closest, to be there for you all the time. You have to be able to stand up and face the world on your own. Friends are there to support you but you still have to do things on your own. They also have their lives to live and you cannot take that against them. By not being there when you need them, it doesnt mean that they do not care. It is always nice to have a friend.
@Jenniferp (210)
• United States
17 Apr 09
It all depends on the person... I have become very bitter over the years because of my "friends". My best friend came over to my boyfriends (now hubby) and was flirting with him.. We had been friends since we were small (15+ years), she wanted to be noticed so badly that she totally forgot about loyalty. I have had "friends" lie to me about different things, oh and there was another girl that tried to kiss my BF while we were drinking... I have many friends that love to call when they need something, yep, good friends are hard to come by!
@misskrys21 (9)
• United States
17 Apr 09
That is exactly where I was going with this discussion. I know that friends are good... but who out there is actually going to be there in the end for you. No one that I know of... except God. So I was just wondering is it all worth the trouble to try and be there for everyone else, if no one is going to actually be there for you?
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Friends are always good for me. We can never expect to lean upon them everytime, however, their sympathie, their comforts or the joys they gave are more than enough. Up to this time I have not encountered bad friends. I treasure and love friends so much.
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Friends are always good, it is on how we treat them that differs every character. If we treat them good then we can reap good fruit of friendship also, but if we betray friends and treat them unfairly, then that's what we receive from them also.
I make it a point to treat my friends good all the time because they are my support in times of crisis in life.
@susiehappy (135)
• China
17 Apr 09
Friends,some are good for me,some are bad for me.But when I realized they are not good for me,I won't contact with them frequently.Because friends are all good for their friends.
Wish all of us could make good friends.
@thewarrior (36)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 09
friendship for a good time but not all of our friends will maintain friendship with us. many things that people can make changes including the change experienced by people in the nearest. not mean that we should have in choosing a friend. but how do we know if he really will be our friends? It is very difficult to judge the heart someone
@brandon22 (163)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I think it depends on the friend. Some friends are good for you and provide a positive influence, and some friends are bad for you and provide a negative influence. I have good friends that are good people and always seem to do what's right, and I have good friends that are good people, but but lots of times they do things even though they know they are wrong. one friend may have your best interest at heart, whereas another friend may not. That doesn't necessarily mean that they are not good friends, or good people.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 09
Friendship is the only cement that would hold the world together. My friends have always been there for me. Friends are such a big part in my life. I respect my friends as much as they respect. It is not everyday that we can find genuine friends and once I meet a friend regardless of male or female I will treasure the friendship for life. The friends that I consider true friends never betray and I treat them with the highest respect. They are not only there when am happy but also there during my saddest moment.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Well I believe its good to have a good friend around. and your right some times everyone is a little selfish, but a good friend will always know when to stop thinking of his or herself and think of you. Good friends or Bestfriends sometimes are clingy and needed, and act like babies but if they stopped doing that then you would feel like you lost a friend...I've always had a really good friend and even then their are set boundaries... I know sometimes I can get a little selfish and think of myself, thats normal but I try not to let that over power my love and concern for my good friend
@thatladiikatie (38)
• United States
16 Apr 09
everyone has a shady self absorbed friend. I myself have a few. which i keep those friends at a distant. A few of my friends are only friends bc they have known me for so long and we were close as children but now as we've grown i've realized how much i do no need them in my life. I have about 4 very close friends and i choose them over the self-absorbed friends all the time. I just enjoy their company much more. So yes there are some friends you can rely on, and trust. you just need to find those ppl. :)
@kbellafirenze (37)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I would say most of my friends benefit me in some way....but I have some that I have had to cut off all ties with because they just didn't have my best interest at heart.
Lately I've run into a handful of friends that are constantly canceling plans at the last minute. To me, that shows a huge disrespect to our friendship, ya know? So I've really been reflecting on it.
And I think you also need to take stock of what kind of a friend you are being as well.
