What's is your feeling when you are parent?
By yyc4220
@yyc4220 (43)
China
April 16, 2009 3:33am CST
Two weeks ago, my wife gave birth and our family added a pretty girl. I was a father, from then on. When I told this news to my friends, most of them asked me what my feeling was as a father. They said, men are always delighted with their feet up. I almost don't know how to answer. So, please give some advice.
What is your feeling, if you are parent now?
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2 responses
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
16 Apr 09
Well for me it's been 23 years as a father of one. When our son was born I was right there, wouldn't have missed it, unlike my older brother who didn't see either of his daughters born.
It was the best experience of my entire 55 years to see my son being born and to be there with my wife instead of sitting in the waiting room. I feel so sad for people that miss the birth.
To this day it's still the best thing that ever happened to me, even though we went through about 7 or 8 years of not getting along. We do better now that he is grown up and NOT a teen any longer. It was a run go through those years.
It was a pleasure watching him grow from something so little to someone who is so big now.
I don't think anything will happen in my life that will top that.
@yyc4220 (43)
• China
16 Apr 09
I have been together with my wife all the time when my daughter came to the world. At first, I have thought it was a boy. I wished to have a boy all the time. But girl is also OK. As you said, the sight will be in my mind all my life. Because of the policy in China, I think it will be the only one that I can experience. I'm very glad that I haven't missed it.
Thanks for responding.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Apr 09
Congratulations yyc, finally you have been upgraded to being a father for the first time. I am sure it is something you cherish for the rest of your life. When I had my first child, I couldn't believe myself that I have become a mother, the joy is too great to describe and tears flow from my eyes when I cuddle my baby for the first time. All the labour pain was forgotten when I hold my son close to my chest. I am sure you will enjoy the sleepless nights nursing your baby. She is a diamond to your life now but of course not forgetting the important person who helped you to make up for a complete family. Cheers to you!
@yyc4220 (43)
• China
16 Apr 09
In fact, I didn't feel as glad as someone who become a father for the first time. I feel it is very normal. But I was glad that all the process was going very well.
I have seen how hard it is as a women. Because I was beside my wife when she was giving birth. The cry is still circling in my mind. The pain is still wandering in my heart. Why gladness always comes with pain? They always said that pleasure comes with pain while making love. But giving birth is not.
As a women is not easy. I'll make my best to love my wife and family.
Thanks very much, Zandi
