Tell or not to tell?

I think talking is always a good mean to express ourselves. And we'd better learn hwo to talk to the others in a better way .As you said ,lack commitment maybe end a marriage or a relationship! Hwo terrible it is ! So I think ,keep talking to the others is required!

Hi, I think talking is important, yes, sometimes we find it difficult to talk, like you said different way of thinking, but talking still can make us know each others' opinion.

Talking is always better…it releases pent up feelings and resolves lot of misunderstanding. With all our daily work and personal work too, I know its difficult to make some time with our partners but that is what we need to do really, make an effort for that half an hour when both of you can sit with a cup of tea or coffee. Even if that is too much, I think both should mutually agree to a time on weekends when they can sit back and enjoy each other’s company and talk. Children in between are OK, you can include them in relaxation…personally I believe it increases the family bonding.

Don't prolong your agony, sooner or later you'll have to tell it to you partner. It is better for your partner to find out about it coming from you than someone else. It will benefit both of you. You'll not be stressed anymore by being honest and somehow your partner don't have to wonder about it. If you're keeping it for too long your partner might have an inkling about it and just waiting for you to disclose it. Remember the adage: Honesty is the best policy. Hope you find the right time and place to disclose it. Why not dine out or meet up in a placid place. Good luck to you.

I think the importance of the comunication can not be underestimated in a marriage. We need to talk about what is going on instead of making our parters to guess. It is hard for them to find out the reasons as different people have dierent fancy. And guess will solve the problem,sometimes it makes our marriage relationship worse and worse.

although im not married, i could see how lack of communication can ruin a marriage or relationship. You need to keep talking to keep interested.

I think talking to your partner and confiding in him/her is the better option, instead of keeping secrets with you. When you communicate with someone you establish a kind of relationship of give and take and it serves in the long run. Also, sharing something very personal with someone is matter of mutual trust and faith. You cannot distrust everyone and you cannot trust everyone, you will have to use your wisdom and experience to assess the other fellow. All the best. I share everything with my partner.

No matter how hard it is it is important to share the problems/burdens with our pardner. It is much easier to handle these things with someone who will help give you moral support. A person that knows you better than anyone else. That person can help you see another way to handle the problem/burden. Doesn't make any difference whether the person thinks differently than you. I would make a appropriate time to talk.

Share all what you think to your parter no matter how difficult to you.for the secret in heart will make you agnoy,go ahead!

Communication is everything. So many people's marriages fall apart because of lack of communication. In our marriage we make it a priority to talk about our feelings all of the time. It is important to remember that people are not mind readers. My husband and I made a promise to one another when we took our wedding vows that there would be no secrets. We set aside time every day to talk, so that there wont be any excuses. If something changes in our marriage I want to know why, and I will because we talk about it.

I think that the inability to communicate with your partenr has ended more marriages than anything else: as it lead to unhappiness, which can lead to dislike, mistrust, or even cheating. These are things you need to find out about someone before you enter a committed relationship. If it was harder to get married than to get divorced then there would not be as man of these problems and possibly people would start believing in Marriage again, simply because if you truly take the time and energy to really get to know someone before getting serious then the world would change for many adults and children alike. If you give up on finding a way to communicate then you give up the relationship. Men communicate different than women and each person is also different, but if you are going to make it work you have to find a way.

On my part I like to talk and voice out my feelings,it's my way of coping with thing.Sad to say it did not help to save my marriage,my partner does not think the way I am and that really made things unbearable for me.Talking helps a lot but if your partner is very uncooperative nothing will really happen.

I think that depends on the character of both.If I have something I want to tell the partener,I will tell him without any hesitates. Maybe sometimes it is not a good time to tell,but I can't wait any minutes.That make me feel better.Maybe it is a little selfish to do that.All in all, I don't think it is a problem,just say what you want to say and he know what is right or wrong.If he loves you,he will understand and support you.

I think talking is the better option. Just go ahead! Good luck to you

Hi, caesarin. I would keep trying to communicate with him. Then I would just get upset and eventually end the relationship. A marriage can end this way. It is very sad that two people whom supposedly love each other are not talking. It would hurt me if my husband was to ever do this to me. I don't know how long I could stand for all of this.

I guess so, you have a point there. Sometimes a relationship can be all good but the only thing it lacks is communication. I think it is very important to 'talk' with your partners because they aren't just your lovers, they're your friends too and if you would just 'talk' to your partners, you'll find that you guys weren't that different from each other or maybe you could find something in common with...^_^