A fight with hubby, being in a relationship will never be complete without it..
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
Philippines
April 16, 2009 8:07am CST
Just another petty quarrel that started today. I prepared lunch so that we can eat. Actually yesterday we already had something cooking (fire in the hole), but wasn't able to talk much about it since he knows me when i feel angry, i don't usually talk and just be quiet. He just went to work without touching the food so i got upset.
I was angry most when i do spend time to prepare it, and yet you ignore what i did for you. So there you go, he has his reasons, i got mine. Then he said, he just didn't like to eat if i feel that i am doubting him. I just stopped him to browse the net because the food is getting cold. He thought i am angry and doubting him, and i am so distant because i thought he does not pay attention to what i am saying.
Well both of us have faults, he spoke harsh words (not curse ok, not verbal abuse) but something you guys know if i will decide to stay or leave. Nothing else to think of at that moment, so he went to work early. I stay on bed and try to catch some time alone to think. Then after an hour or so, he called me up to say sorry for all the things he said to me, as i did said my peace too. Sometimes in a relationship, life will never be complete without missing this... "fight", misunderstanding, etc. How's your relationship with your better half? is it just smooth sailing?
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
20 Apr 09
In all what you say...the most important word..is "sorry"...if he say that he sorry that he make a mistake, this is love...about fight..is not good in a relation, can step by step kill the true love. Belive me, to fight with your lover can kill all feelings step by step...can be nice first time, second time naybe...but to fight is something what can t be near to love..if he say "i am sorry"..he give you the magic words that he really loves you
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
yes, what is important is we learn from our mistakes, but to do the same mistake again and again is not good in a relationship, that's why your communication should be open to your spouse.
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@sunglasses (8)
• India
17 Apr 09
You are correct to an extent and with these fights relationships become more stronger if sometimes some gifts are given to patch up things.
What do others say on this?
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
wow, i like that idea, gifts can even be more justifying when you want to cool down one's head
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
17 Apr 09
Such small innocent fights are the spice of life…without them life would be too bland. And doesn’t it just feel so good when the other half says sorry and then we kiss and make up? Only thing to take care of is that we don’t stretch it for too long or don’t let our egos come in between. Hubby and me had plenty of fights alright…we even went down to fisticuffs
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
oh my, i have never ever thought of fisticuffs, I'm the opposite when we fight, no sounds, very quiet 
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
17 Apr 09
Hi strawberry
Fights, reasoning and petty quarrels make the relationship special and as long as we know that we are going to make it up at the end of the day, it's okay. My sister and bro-in-law fights a lot, a lot actually but the trust, love and bond is exemplary. They are the sweetest couple I have seen. Only one thing, make sure to end it up before going to the bed. Never drag it on over the next day's breakfast.
Happy loving[u][/u]
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
very true, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this matter. Happy mylotting!
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
17 Apr 09
And I was thinking that you are asking us to give a solution. It is always better to find one solution for your problem like you got.
We have to fight in our relationship to test its bonding. How tight or strong it is! My mom and dad use to fight very much but at the same time, I can see them talk with so much innocence that I love them very much. This fight makes their love more and more deep every time they have one.
In past I used to become scared when they starts fighting but Now I have understood that they can't get their food digested unless they fight once in a week or so!
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
yes you are right, fights also give some credits specially when two patched things up and this added spice to a relationship.
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@pink_lady (361)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Hi, in every relationship there is always this little misunderstanding. I think most of the relationship will not be complete without it. It doesn't mean that a relation to be complete we should fight. Sometimes fighting is important in a relationship, in order for the two to talked things out, to voice out their feelings and many more. But it still depends how you handle your relationship. I think communication is still the best for any relationship.
@psychotaz206 (2086)
• United States
16 Apr 09
my marridge has its rocky moments i dont forgive very easy so i can stay man at him for days and when we fight things go flying some times we both have bad tempers
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
sorry to hear that, but you need to talk more if that's the case..
@jajohn (31)
• India
17 Apr 09
If you love something let it go if it comes back to you its yours to keep forever but if you forget the trust and things could get messy and things could go very wrong. harsh words may not be required to break the relationship but if you could have said sorry even if it was not required, even if your reason is right if will not feel small cause your saving your relationship.
God bless
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
Trust should be there always... that is true, but the quote "If you love someone set her free, if she comes back she's really yours... is as good as a half cooked PRIDE. If the person would never come back, it will be because one way or the other someone has kept Pride and this is not considered as part of LOVE...
@chulasa (69)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
I could relate a lot with you. My husband and I argue,fight, had misunderstanding about almost anything. From clothes, food, phone calls etc. I accept it as part of the whole "marriage thing". I don't think any other couple who had never engage this things. Those little things if not handled properly could lead to bigger problems, we try to patch things up so that things can be resolved (but sometimes we argued about it again hehe). We things are OK, we laugh about it then tease each other how shallow those fights where.
