How has your life changed in the past few months? How do you keep your head up?

@34momma (13882)
United States
April 16, 2009 9:22am CST
With all that is going with the housing market, wall street, and the banks, how has this very big Crush changed your life and the lives of your family? I was just thinking that i know it has touched my life and my family. I know that my paycheck that use to last me, now doesn't last more then two days after pay day. I know that looking for a second job is almost not easy, there's nothing out there. I know for me i stick the the fact that nothing last forever, and not matter what goes on the love for myself and my family stays strong. We keep our heads up because we contiue to laugh and love each other. So how has this crash changed your life and what are you doing to keep your spirits up?
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13 responses
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
17 Apr 09
We were not doing too bad until my son's surgeries. My husband is back to work, finally. Hopefully we can catch up, and my son has no more setbacks.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
11 May 09
I just pray and tell God to give me strength to deal with life.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
17 Apr 09
I do know how they are, but having 3 surgeries within a couple of weeks has to take a toll on any body. It just seems like that is all I can worry about right now. The rest will have to wait.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
17 Apr 09
sorry to hear about your son honey. you know how strong children are. they never give up on themselves, so their will to live and keep going is amazing!! pull from his strength and know this too shall pass...
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
16 Apr 09
its been rough these months hubby got laid off but now he got a job with law enforcement so hopefully things will look up all we are doing now is playing catch up on our bills that we couldnt pay while he wasn't working an the late fees are killing us
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
17 Apr 09
i am so blessed that i have a job. i am looking for a second job right now to get me where i want to be with my bills and savings. i know how things are and i just want all of use to know that things are going to get better. Good luck
• Hong Kong
17 Apr 09
Sometimes I find the late fees are so unfair and not reasonable(incredibly high), yes, the late fees are really killing me too.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
27 Apr 09
It is really just hard times right now. We have to look for a New house well, another House, I have to get car fixed or by another one, yes now ma days you do have to have two Jobs, for a minute I had three jobs, I don't have any now. but I will start looking first i have to get me another Car. the Economy is bad right now. people are losing there jobs, and House and it is just bad for everyone right now.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
27 Apr 09
i know what you mean. I need to find a second job just to be able to keep my head and the heads of my children above water! but ia m not going to stress. cause i know in my heart we are all going to make it. that's what we do, we stick together, love it each, take care of each other, and make it!! so you will too
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
honestly speaking, not so much for us here on the other side of the world, in asia. We are use to this kind of crises , we have been experiencing these economic reality since the 80's , so i guess we are use to keep on tightening our belt and learn how to make use of what we have. We, Filipinos ,are very resilient people. We take things on a stride. would you believe that we still can afford to have night outs every week! You know the difference between your economic structure and ours? most of you use credit , most of us here use cash. You invest your money on speculations (stocks and money market), we invest it on what we need for the moment and save some on a bank for emergency. we still stick to the basics, we save to buy what we need and want, we make use with what we have which is to purchase things in cash. in spite of adversities, which we are use to, we still find the time for what really matters.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
16 Apr 09
you know what tigerdragon, you are so right! here in america we live for our credit cards. I personally only have one card and that card only has a $300 limit. because i don't ever want to spend beyond what i can pay back. i am like you, if i don't have the cash then i am not going to buy it
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
good for you! ...that is the only way to go. everything should be practical nowadays and the days to come.more power to ya.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Hey momma! You have the right attitude! That is about all that we can have at this point and time! I am helping my bf find another job too! He works in a college cafeteria cleaning up and they close for the summer. He gets a few hours a week and we just can't live on that. I am disabled right now so I am trying to find ways to make money too. It is not easy for us to manage either. We try to work together. That's about all we can do! It is very stressful!
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Opal, you keep your head up girl! you never give up and allow the love you two have for each other get you both through this rough time
@frygirl (382)
• United States
17 Apr 09
well my life took a turn for the worst in november when i came home form town and my house was on fire and they couldnt save it i also lost my beloved black lab in the house she was old yeah but we raised her from a puppy then in december my car tore up well come to find out i need a motor for it and i live on a fixed income and it is now april still no car and no money to fix it $1200 total for it and there are things going on in my personal life i would rather not talk about. so i ts very hard for me to kleep my head and eyes off the ground.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Frygirl, don't you ever ever keep up. Don't lose faith in the fact that things will get better. they always get better. you know that. have faith and hold on to the fact that you are a strong person who is not defined by things, but by all that you are inside
@Savvynlady (3684)
• United States
21 Apr 09
When I got fired in September, I figured I'll get unemployment and get back on the saddle again; WRONG. I was denied it; I lost faith in folks, I tried to get another job but the recession was hitting us then; I still havent until now. I got a parttime one coming up hopefully. And at this time I am grateful for it; What kept me going? well, I am not one to lose my head; I was hurt, crushed that folks would sit and let folks be destitute but its not them; whats it to them? I would have to say that God kept me until now; He really did.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Hi Savorylady I wish you luck in finding employment. Just keep praying and God will answer your prayer.
• United States
27 Apr 09
Just to let you know that I got a parttime job now and feel a bit better thanks again.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Honestly speaking, I don't know how I'm doing it. Simply by putting one foot in front of the other I guess. It seems like I'm always behind on everything and most days I feel like I'm losing the war. There isn't much I can do about it though, except keep going, no matter what and so that is what I do. I get pretty depressed and often think its just me, but then I read posts such as yours and know its not. I'm not happy anyone is going through hard times, but its a little easier knowing I'm not alone.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
17 Apr 09
we have been struggling financially like so many others but i cashed in my small retirement account and i am going to pay off 3 credit cards today and then transfer a balance on another to a 0% interest card and just keep on keeping on. i already work 3 part time jobs from home and my husband is self employed so we do all we can to help ourselves. i no longer food shop weekly. we use up what we have and do without the rest. we buy nothing unecessary and no longer use our credit cards. i get stuff from freecyle whenever possible and i am having a garage sale the end of the month. you do what you have to do.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I think it's affected most people that I know in the same way. We spend twice as much on groceries then we used to and get half the food. It's crazy. I just try to stay positive and hope for the best.
@HelloMickey (1655)
• Hong Kong
17 Apr 09
My life has changed dramatically since the finanical crisis started in Sep last year. My hubby is a finanical planner and his career was suddenly affected by the crisis. All my hubby and I can do is to keep working, and think positively. I was worried a lot at the beginning, but later I found that I was suffering if I was only worried but not thinking positively. I think it keeps my spirit up when I keep working hard and don't have time to think badly.
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
I've been living on my own for a few years now and I've been working mostly for myself. However, for the past couple of months, everything has changed. My parents lost their jobs, and so did my younger brother, and my aunt who lives with us along with her two toddlers and one other high schooler cousin of mine who I'm helping out with his education. So, at the moment, I'm the only one with a job. But the transition from working-for-yourself to working-for-your-family was really challenging. It's kinda hard to make both ends meet for all of us. I believe I've become more matured and more responsible when it comes to almost everything because of my situation. I've lessened spending for my 'wants', instead, I've started thinking about my family's 'needs'. Even my mom had a hard time changing status in life: from being 'well-off' to becoming 'dependent' on me.. and somehow, the added pressure is too much to handle. I'm just glad that God's with us. ^_^
• United States
16 Apr 09
It is has been so very hard to maintain. We have to really make a little bit of money last a long time. What helps me though is that I was living in a homeless shelter about this time last year. With my husband and four children. Just knowing that I was able to make it through that gives me hope that I can make it through this. It is hard, but I know it could be worse. And talking to others who are going through similar situations helps because we encourage each other.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Ashley, I so know where you are coming from. when i was about 19-20 i too was homeless. i first went from place to place and then i was just without a home. and i had my son who was about 2 1/2. i know about not having anything. I am blessed to say that i now have a wonderful home for me and my children and have had it for almost 20 years now. you keep your head up and look into the eyes of your family for love and support.