Would you buy a house with your partner if you knew you would never get married?

Are you serious? It is hard enough to get things straightened out when married people split. I can just imagine what it is like when nonmarried folks split up. I hope you have an ironclad agreement that says you get your share of the house immediately on the split or at least get to live there until it sells. If I had not had a good lawyer, my kids and I would have been on the street when I was divorced and the house was mine! My ex's family went after everything I owned. They even tried to get my kids. Heaven only knows why they wanted my kids. They sure didn't know what to do with their own. Good luck on that! Shalom~Adoniah

I'll only do it if: I can pay for the house on my own and if the place has my name in it. I'm not going to contribute to something that doesn't have my name on it. I'm not going to be that crazy especially if the loan is going to be in my name. If the loan is in his name and I'm the one who's co-owning the house, then cool, but not the other way around. If there was a way we could share both the loan and the house, then cool. I don't want to be unfair to the one I love but at the same time I don't want him to be unfair to me either.

I think the only way I would is if it were wrote up ahead of time what would happen if one of us decided to call it quits. Would the house be sold and the money split, would one buy out the other, what about repairs? Also the furnishings and so forth. It's better to cover your backside then to have to battle it out in court. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

I would have to take a lot of things into considerationg. Mostly, the nature of the relationship and the dynamics of the relationship and the nature of my partner. Am I the type of person that could rationally seperate "business" from emotion. Is my partner the type that could do so? Is he the type that would try to "get back at me" if things didn't work out? Could I afford the loss of what I invested in to the home? I think a few people might be able to manage the type of arrangement, but it would probably be very rare. Personally, I probably WOULD NOT enter into this type of arrangment. There are too many variables to consider and too many things that could go wrong. If the relationship was a "marriage" in every sense, but the "piece of paper", then it might work. But I'd really have to explore the reasons as to why we would be buying a house together and NOT getting married.

I would not enter into any financial arrangements with someone I had no legal ties to. Without being married or in a legal business partnership, someone is going to get ripped off eventually and I just think it's too risky.

Hi jessp I must say it has to be according to the relationship. If my bf and i have a good understanding then i will consider it, if not well i won't even think about it.

Me and my bf are also in the same situation. We are living together but the house we are living right now is under his name and he bought it two years ago. He has a younger brother and hid gf are also living together lately, they bought a house together. I think I don't want to buy a house with my partner if we have no plans of getting married in the future. I think marriage is still important as a sense of belongingness.

I know of cases where couples bought houses and then when they did not get married they had a difficult time dealing with what to do with the house. I am not sure that I would do this... At present, I could not due to financial reasons. It is both an investment and a love nest.

I rather not buy a major purchase (house and car) with a partner (to whom I am nor married yet). I don't want a problem later on especially if things didn't go on smoothly.

Definitely not. I'm very particular about building a house and ofcourse it is my dream. And when I'm going to make my dream come true, I would not take a risk of having some encumberance in that. If you are sure you are not going to marry that person.... then why take risk. Anything could can happen at anytime... No joint ventures and especially when it going to be a huge project ;)

For me no, first reason, we're not sure if we will be together forever and it will be a lot of hassle if we separate. Either you buy his share or you sell your share. 2nd reason, for me, its the guy who should be providing you with everything. Its up to you to help him but sharing half of the prize is no to me.

You can buy a house with a lot of people. It´s an financial issue. It has nothing to do with getting or not getting matrried. When people mix up financial issues with love and partnership (in life) there is a problem that has to be solved.