Is it true.. pls help...
By drdivu
@drdivu (1011)
India
April 17, 2009 4:14am CST
well, i m going thro a rough patch right now..i was in a relationship till march end but the guy would neither express nor say anything..he would make me feel that i m just waste and would keep scolding me..i had talked about this in part 1 and part 2 of my story too..he was orthodox totally..telling me that i wont work after marriage though i m a doctor..more so wil have to cook and serve food to his parents for which i readily agreed but he never respected my parents..!!
when i need him he is never there..i know he loves me but my parents wont agree for a junior who is 4years elder to me in age..!!
now trying to break free from him, after coming home, have apologised and begged him to set me free BUT
..he said that NO ONE CAN LOVE ME MORE THAN HIM AND WHEN I LEAVE HIM AND WHEN HE BECOMES RICH , I WIL CRY WHY I HAD LEFT HIM..???
MORE SO, HE SAID THAT IF I LEAVE HIM I CAN NEVER BE HAPPY IN LIFE AS HIS GIRLFRIEND AND FRIEND TOO, WHO DITCHED HIM , ARE NOT HAPPY NOW..??
IS IT TRUE..????
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6 responses
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
17 Apr 09
Oh my goodness. My heart goes out to you. I feel that he is trying to make you feel that you can't do anything for yourself. He sounds like he wants to be controlling over you.
Even though things may not be bright right at this moment, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel. To get there, you friends and family will be right at your side. If I could be right at your side, I would. But you will have to settle for words on your screen. Just remember, you don't have to feel that you are alone in the world.
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@ehffeihseven07 (2)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
My mother always tell me when i am in pain that: " the blister on your foot is a reminder that you should change your shoes." Its the same with pain and getting hurt... if you keep thinking about the hurt or how miserable your life would be as he said the more you would feel hurt and bad about it. And the more you force yourself on something or someone that hurts you the more you would be in pain. It is very hypocrite of me to say you can move on right this very moment because i know its very difficult to do especially when at one point of your life that person means so much to you. But you have too, you owe that to yourself. Do it slowly..
And always remember we dont get happiness from others, happiness is a personal choice. No person has the right to tell us we wont be happy without them because there is so many things to be happy about. Love isnt selfish and boastful...Love is also about giving you space to grow and loving and respecting the people you love including your parents. =) Cheer on... things happen for a reason and believe me there is always a lesson...if you think more positively it would even make you a stronger and a better person. Im certain that your world does not end on him...there will be a lot more guys deserving than him..
"if GOD asks you to drop something he wants you to pick up something greater"
Hugs and kisses from: ehffei, 22f, philippines
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@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
18 Apr 09
With a guy like that, i can just imagine how he had been treating you... And with any guy who wants you to quit working (and you're a doctor! you must treasure that!), it's clear that he's a waste of your time instead of the other way round. The threats that he said to you are OBVIOUSLY not true, he was just saying them just to make you feel guilty and to regret your actions...I assure you, with a guy like that, leaving him would be the most reasonable decisions you will ever have to make. Noone can love you more than he did?? *snorts
That's crap...I know that there's tons of guys out there who would be willing to shower their woman with love and care. You deserve better hun. take care~ ^_^
@kapil_poundarik (960)
• India
17 Apr 09
if i were u then suerly i would dith such a mean person . well im a boy too but i never talk to a lady as such , in such a rude language. well this person doesnt loves u at all , because if he really loved u he would always want u to lead a happy life . and no one can predict the future like he is predicting . and no one has got any rights to curse any one,like how he did to u . just ditch him now or cry for ur whole life.
@katsalot1 (1618)
•
17 Apr 09
He sounds like someone to keep away from - not nice at all. It sounds like he just wants a slave. A person who truly loves you would want you to be happy, and he certainly doesn't sound as if he cares for you at all. As for him saying you will never be happy, I would say that you have absolutely no chance of being happy with someone like him!
@allaboutworld (45)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
If you can start to divert your attention to other things such as your interst, you will start forgetting your feelings to the guy. I don;t think that guy loves you; it's not the language of love. For a start it's really difficult; but if you put your heart in it, you will move on without you knowing it. Been there..sigh...
@annabraham06 (166)
• India
17 Apr 09
thats never true. nobody can curse you like that. if u had really loved this guy, u will surely feel sad. but u can get over it by diverting your thoughts and get involved in other activities of your interest. might feel lonley for some days, but u need to adjust to it until you get a new love of your life. so, good luck!!
