bestfriend or girlfriend/boyfriend?
By russvy
@russvy (22)
Philippines
April 17, 2009 6:20am CST
I have this friend that had a big problem regarding his girlfriend and bestfriend. His girlfriend told him to choose between her and his bestfriend, by the way his bestfriend is a girl. They are having problem with their relationship because he was sandwich between his bestfriend and his girlfriend. His bestfriend does not like his girlfriend because the girl is very bossy, moody, and she thinks that the girl didn't love that much his bestfriend. Also his girlfriend doesn't feel his bestfriend. So right now he was in sandwich between the two, he is very confious where he will place himself. I talk to him and said that he must talk to both of them and tell them that he doesn't want to choose between them and he wants that his bestfriend and his girlfriend became friends. It is really a problem if you are having a bestfriend with your opposite gender.
3 responses
@sapphire_b (231)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
Well, i think it is really kinda complicated situation. I think that your friend should really confront the two important person in his life. He better tell his girl friend and secure her that the other girl is just really his best friend and nothing more. But, i do understand the girl friends feelings here. Though it is still possible for men and women to be just as friend, but in most cases one or both may fall in love within friendship. Making the girl friend feel secure about his love for her is always important in this case. On the other hand, he should tell his best friend that if she couldn't stand his girl friend, better yet just respect her decisions. I think that what friends do anyway, unless the girl is not just after for friendship. If the condition worsen, better yet, choose your girl friend, because she is the one you love and can also be your best friend for life and if the relationship didn't succeeded, i am sure your best friend will welcome you back with open arms, because that was friends do. hehehe...=)
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
17 Apr 09
Your friend is in a very difficult possition.
I can tell you from experience that your friend should not introduce the best friend and the girlfriend. Your friend will need to keep them appart. It will not work.
The reason why I am saying all this is because I was the best friend of a guy who met a girl. I wanted to be friends with her. Well at least friendly if I couldn't build a friendship with her. I had a feeling that she wasn't true to herself and didn't like what she was doing to my friend. But I was going to try and give her the benefit of the doubt.
To keep it all short, I was suppose to meet her but cancelled because my husband was home sick. I wanted to spend time with my husband. Tried to contact her to reschedule but got nothing. I got in contact with my friend, but he lied to me about why I haven't seen either of them online.
Eventually I found out the truth from him. She lied to him and he believes her. Our friendship was damaged.
I would like to know why she did it. But I think she did it because she is a jealous type. I get that feeling about her. I think she didn't like me from the time she heard about me.
I really feel for my friend. He had been caught in the middle of her lies. I would like for him to see the truth but I have no way of showing him that I am speaking the truth. I really don't know what to do.
So really from speaking from the experience, don't mixed best friend with girl friend. Keep them apart.
@cathy78513 (283)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
I think the guy should weigh who is more important for him, his girlfriend or his best friend.
