Divorce...

Root causes: the couple has nothing in common besides their common children, they have nothing to say to each other but hurtful words, adultery, suspicion of adultery, cannot be in the same room without saying something hurtful or disrespectful, people have forgotten the real reason for marriage in the first place, to procreate with another person for mutual benefit, they have forgotten to put each others needs before their own and they have forgotten that God instituted marriage with the beginning of humankind and expects it to be undertaken with the understanding that it will be for life, but I don't think God condones any kind of abusive behavior and allows that as a reason to divorce. Does this answer your question of root causes? No, I don't think divorce is healthy for the children as they grow up not knowing the stability of a real bonded family and may not be able to sustain their marriages without knowing the basics of having and keeping a marriage. Marriage is work, anyone who says otherwise is foolish. Reduce divorces by requiring some form of counseling for both partners, together and apart.Make mediation the first resort after counseling, litigation as a last resort. Do not fight over the children's custody, and do not poison the children's mind against the absent parent, and do not interfere with the other parents right to be their children's parents and realize that without them in the first place, you would not have the children in the first place.

I'm not divorced but I am separated from my son's father, we never did marry, but their was to much abuse going on to me in front of the child, so it was the best option for the child because he should not be exposed to this. So it all depends on the situation. I do agree that it is too easy to get divorced and their is to much of it going on in society these days. I tried to work it out with my ex for over a year and he refused too, so that's what it led to.

It is too easy to get a divorce these days. That is the biggest problem. There is no incentive whatsoever to stay together and work things out. People get married with the attitude that if it doesn't work out they can simply get divorced. Unfortunately, way too many children are affected by this. If people would simply try just a little bit harder. I don't know, it's disheartening to say the least.