Too young to die
By Katlady2
@Katlady2 (9904)
United States
April 17, 2009 2:13pm CST
The last couple of weeks have been so very sad for me and my family. We've had to have newborn kittens put to sleep because their mama just wasn't the mothering type along with getting no milk and being sick on top of it all. Today I have a very sick kitty that might have to be put to sleep. But they aren't the reason for this post. Sunday night I found out that my best friend had a sudden heart attack on Saturday night and passed away. What with all the stress and drama she's had to endure the last few years because of her husband's abuse and irresponsible actions, I can't say that I'm truly surprised that it happened. She was dealing with more and more health problems and was to the point that she was on antidepressants along with several other types of medications. But even so, I'm still in shock that she's actually gone. I've been a wreck ever since I found out. I don't think I've gone a full day without crying yet. And to think that she was only 41 years old...a year and a half younger than me. She was too young to die, especially in the way that it happened. I miss her so very much...my heart hurts all the time right now. And trying to imagine life without her....it's just too much to handle.
Please everyone....don't take life or your loved ones for granted. You never know when it could all be gone. Much love and hugs to all my dear friends......Carryl
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@firstsite2008 (392)
• India
17 Apr 09
that's quite true I have been personally had a greater pain then you are having right now because I lost a very close and dear loved one a year ago and I regret it very much . but i can not discuss here(due to mylot guidelines). i was reminded of that day and I can understand how you must be feeling right now.
It is really true that the worth of a person is known only when he goes away from us. we must always love our dear and near ones and help them always. it is of no use to make them unhappy.
I also came the worth of the person i lost after he has left for heaven.
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@firstsite2008 (392)
• India
17 Apr 09
it is ok we are all here to help each other. it feels light when you share.
bad times are part and parcel of life. but as it is said time does not stop for anyone and we should keep on moving in life regardless the difficulties and sad moments that crop up .you are just left with memories to remember about.
It was nice talking to you and i hope that you will soon feel normal. time is the best cure of it.
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@firstsite2008 (392)
• India
17 Apr 09
it is ok we are all here to help each other. it feels light when you share.
bad times are part and parcel of life. but as it is said time does not stop for anyone and we should keep on moving in life regardless the difficulties and sad moments that crop up .you are just left with memories to remember about.
It was nice talking to you and i hope that you will soon feel normal. time is the best cure of it.
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Hi PPP..I am so sorry for your loss....I wish I was there to comfort you...I am so glad she had you to love her..It makes me angry to even think that her husband was cruel to her....
I know all about not taking anyone for granted.....Hugs and Lots of love to you...
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
17 Apr 09
The really bad part is that all the cruelty on his part was emotional and mental. He didn't get physical with her and hurt her that way, but with all the other garbage he pulled, she said she would rather he had hit her instead. It's so sad. Thank you PPP. I love you very very much.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
17 Apr 09
That is so sad. Women get a tough break when it comes to heart attacks. The doctors think it is just indigestion or they think it is all in their head. I had the same thing with my infertility. They thought it was my emotions and worry and all I had to do was to be calm and presto magic baby! It was sad about your friend. I bet she knew something was wrong but her mean husband would not let her go to the doctors for a check up and probably took the keys away from the car when she wanted to drive off.
The meanie.
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
17 Apr 09
Awwww Sweets I am so sorry you have been dealing with so much lately! I am sending lots of love and big hugs your way! I am also so sorry that your friend was treated so horribly by her own husband! I think having someone you love being cruel would be harder to deal with then anything! I am just a pm away if you need me sweetie!
Luv You Lots, PurpleTeddyBear xx
@whimsystoryteller (1743)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Carryl, I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. I know that is hard and 41 is definitely too young to die. You've just had a lot to deal with in a short time. Just hang in there. You are going to make it through.
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@ladybug565 (2216)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. I will keep you in my prayers.
@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. 41 is definitely too young to die. I am also sorry about your kitty problems. You really have had a bad time lately. I wish you all the best.
@Looben (15)
• China
18 Apr 09
It seem the world aroud us is controlled by someone, but it's hard for us and to late to do something to remedy.The only thing we can do is to enjoy everyday life together with our friends,families etc.Life need love and sunshine,it never help to regret when this kind of things happen.
@dreamweaverjan (3471)
• United States
18 Apr 09
OH dear Katlady2: I'm so sorry for your loss, it really is hard enough when we lose loved ones and friends from Cancer or other health problems but when they take their own life it just seems all the more hard to bear;
Her medication may not have been enough to help her "deal, cope" with what was going on in her life I just don't know;
I truly truly am sorry, and also sorry to hear about the wee kittens too!! Gosh!
Wish I could give you a big old {{hug}}, I know its not much but I am so so sorry
for your loss over your friend;
please take care of yourself ok?
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
18 Apr 09
You have been having a terrible time haven't you? I am so sorry for the loss of your friend; as you say 41 is way too young to die and it saddened me so much to read about her troubled life. One way to look at it is that she's at peace now, although I know that is probably very small consolation to you because you miss her.
I read your discussions about Fluffy and from one cat lover to another; my heart goes out to you.
What can say Katlady? I will send a few prayers your way and I sincerely hope that your pain will ease a little soon.
Try to focus on what you do have and the people who care about you now and turn to them whenever you need to. Keep sharing your thoughts with us here at MyLot too and here's hoping our words are of some comfort.
Hugs to you.
@AngryKittyMSV (4317)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Oh dear Lord, when it rains it pours. I just read two of you other very sad discussions. You have had so much sorrow in such a short time! I am so sorry for all your losses. I hope and pray that your heart finds healing and that God's kindness and mercy will shine down upon you.
@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
18 Apr 09
:'{ I'm sorry for your loss, and i guess we all tend to take for granted the the things that we already have in life...Maybe we're just too comfortable to realise that everything could just be gone if something had occurred differently...And the kittens...oh gosh, those poor kittens...:'{
