Discipline for Special Children
By kayebee
@kayebee (55)
Philippines
April 17, 2009 11:55pm CST
Hi. I would like to ask tips from Moms on how they discipline their special kids. I am a mother of an autistic child. He is turning 3y.o. this June. He is so hyperactive, he looks very normal, in fact he is a goodlooking little boy. He speaks in jargon. He likes puzzles, drawing, coloring books and videos. He understands a little but does not obey everything you say.He has tantrums when he doesn't get what he wants. He used to bang his head on the wall or floor when he was a lot younger. We enrolled him to a special school 2x a week for an hour and he goes into therapy 3x a week for an hour, too. He has improved a lot after 6months of therapy. His behavior has improved but he doesnt always follow instructions. i want to hear opinions from Moms myself who has special kids if its ok to spank the child or not.What could be the best way to make him follow instructions. Any idea will be greatly appreciated.Thanks.
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3 responses
@veronicalodge12 (160)
• Philippines
19 Apr 09
Hi, I'm not a mom, but having a special child is such blessing isn't it? Austistic children really look good, but that with tantrums, I guess can really test your patience. But anyway I think it's not okay to spank a special child, maybe very light indication of you being disagreeing to what he's doin and most of the time "Time out" facing a wall etc. However I really think that they don't have any idea what they're doing, I think proper maintenance could lower down the symptoms. And love has always been tested in through time, hehe.
I think you know much about your child's condition, and I think that learning doesn't stop there, there are a lot of resources on the web, the more we understand their nature the more we endure their behavior. I Pray for your endurance in taking good care of such beautiful child! Ciao!
@kayebee (55)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
Hi1 Thank you for responding. And yes, love has always been tested in through time. We give him more love and he responds with love, too. A child truly lives what they learn. I was afraid that he would become destructive to himself and others but not the child who is nurtured with love. :)
@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
18 Apr 09
Well... I have a 3 year old Autistic son myself & its hard to discipline.
We have to work harder with our kids... I think they do understand to a point, just don't ever give up...
I think we as parents to autistic kids need to take baby steps... a day at a time...
We tell our son no, like when he tries to climb on the tv... he laughs at us... we always have to get up and down, up and down... but i rather do that then have a tv fall on his head.... and the tv did fall on his head once... and he still tries to climb... so we just have our eyes on him alll the time... cant even blink my eye for a second...
Just do what you can do... therapy will help... takes time... somewhere inside, they understand, just not in the same way..
@kayebee (55)
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
Hi! Thank you for responding. Sorry it took me a long while to respond as i gave birth to another child with multiple congenital birth defects that got my hands too tied up..I am happy to say that he has improved a lot..Therapy has played an important role in his condition..Patience and more patience, it is. :)
@irenebelle (116)
• Philippines
18 Apr 09
Special children needs to be treated patiently. At the utmost tolerable patience u would have. Since they are in such stage they really are that hyperactive. Treat them as to what they deserve. Since still growing they would change a little. And be matured enough.
