How long should one be hopeful?

Hey we've had our fights too but you know what, love isn't about giving up at all... Love is about fighting to get what is yours. Of course you can't just run around and fight but when you truly love some one and you see that the battle is being lost then (I think) you must not think of anything than concentrating on maintaining the relationship... I'm the one who's the listener in our relationship. If she says come here, I go there. If she says I want this, I give her that. If she says she wants to go out, I take her out. If she says breakoff... this is the place where I don't listen to her. No matter how much I do for her, I won't ever listen that last request of hers, I know fights do happen in love but I truly love her and its only me or her who's gonna understand each other in such situations... I hope u got my point... Best of luck.

your words show that you love him a lot, so y not try overcome your drawbacks or faults for a man whom you love so much, jealously is the feeling which is very temporary and if you know your boyfriend well you must be knowing that all your doubts about him failed and thatz y u loved him...so instead of just plainly waiting for him, try and do some efforts and you will see that he and u both always loved each other...there's no time to wait, this life is too short for love.

I find myself sortof in the opposite situation. My ex is super hopeful that we'll end up back together (the sooner, the better in his opinion)...but I just don't know. I tend to try to gently nudge him into being aware that I'm not all there is, that he's free in case someone else comes along, but I think he's kinda blinded by me, even without my lack action to make this be true. I'm not honestly sure how long is reasonable for a person to wait in hoping for someone they love. In my situation, it's been years since we were actually together. Only recently did we begin talking and socializing again and trying to stay on good terms. I'd already moved on...and he apparently never did, even though he was the one to end our relationship in the first place (by misguided, stupid reasons mostly, which he admits and often feels depressed over...though it had everything to do with his life and how it affected his mind at the time, and less to do with himself as a person, but I digress). Sometimes I reckon it would be better if he gave up. It's been almost four years. I think, perhaps we'd both be happier without this between us. But meh. I can't sort myself out and he struggles with himself...hopefully things'll work out for the best and in the near future. It's not really something I can put a time estimate on. I waited about five months, and didn't date for a year and a half after that. *shrugs*

Well, just recently you have told me in one of your post that you are no longer connected with you ex and now you are saying that you are hopeful. Okay, hope is the best thing you can do but if you want him to be in your life then you have to do something more than just sitting and hoping. For me, I can hope for my life time that my love would come to my life and resue me from the lonliness but it will not mean that I will not be living my own life. Yes, I will be living, I might get married but will still be hope full

Since both of you initiated the breakup then I don't see the point of you hoping that you will reunite. ofcourse the love is there and that's sweet but if you agreed to separate then stick to the agreement. Let go of him and let him let go of you as that is what you both decided. It's painful to break up but if there are valid reasons (in this case, such as your jealousy) then what makes you think that if you reuinte you wont face similiar problems that broke you up in the first place? so the answer is dont try to be hopeful in this situation.. move on and make room for the next available candidate... (sorry hun but sometimes tough advice is necessary to get you up and moving..) All the best for you though...

Stop hoping.Live your own life.It is up to him to realize how lost he is w/o you

Hi, laydee. I am sorry to hear about your break up with your boyfriend. Maybe you can talk to him and ask him, would he consider to try again with you and your relationship. You could start anew. And it could mend many things. When and if you get back together again, it will be more better. Don't give up just yet, you may still have a chance together to cool off. Let some time past and see how it all goes. But, don't think about being on the rebound with anyone else. It could cause more friction between the two of you. I hope that everything works out for you both.

Hi dear.. No one can break real love.If you both really love each other then there is nothing wrong if you are waiting for him to come back.It takes some to time to realize your absence and your love.Your love will become stronger in these days of separation.But you approach him if he delays so that its not too late. I never loved anyone.But my sincere suggestion to you is never give up your love.You'll never get back it once you lost it. Keep Loving!!! Keep Smiling!!!

"If you love someone set him free, if he comes back hes yours. If he doesn't, he's never been yours". Just move on, if you are really meant for each other, time will find a way.

as long as it takes... if i do love him still ill fight for my love until that time that ill just give up...

be honest and tell him now before it is too late how you really feel.if you love him like you say you love him tell him exactly what you feel and why.ask him to tell you how he really feels.that way it will either make you or break you for good,but dont leave it for much longer.id give it a few weeks.

I think you should talk to him about how you feel now and see if he still wants to be with you. If he still feels the way you do then ya'll should try and work it out. If he does not want to work things out, I think you should move on with your life. Life is to short and precious to waste it hopeing that he will come to his senses. Beleive me I know I wasted alot of my life hoping for things to eventually workout with me and a past relationship. It did not ever happen and I just wasted precious time. There is always someone else around the corner. :)