My Niece Is A Total Pain!!!!!

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My friends know that I am temporarily living with my sister. I plan to move out on the first of next month. It has been a rough ride. It is so true that you really don't know someone until you have lived with them. My sister is married and has a 21 year old daughter, a set of sixteen year old triplets, and a three year old grandson. We all live in a two bedroom apartment and the 21 year old, runs everyone, except me. Therefore, she and I do not get along and she can not stand me. When she got pregnant at 17, my sister had no idea that she was going to fall so in love with her first grandchild. Sincwe then, her daughter has been using him to control everyone. My oldest niece has the same mental disorder as I do. The difference is, I am constantly working to better myself and she is acting like everyone else has a problem but her. When she was still a teenager, she was put into a psych. hospitla for cutting herself with knieves and razors. This scared my sister so bad that she does everything that she can to avoid this happening again. In the meantime, my niece uses this to try to control eveeryone in the house. For one thing, she only does what she feels like for her baby and the triplets are forced to do everything else. If they don't, they get in trouble. Everyone pitches in to help and my niece has no problem with sitting around watching. I have even had to take care of him at times. One may think, well just don't do it and then she will have to do it. No, no, no, if we do not do it, it will not get done. If she needs to go somewhere and my sister does not want to take her, she will have a screaming fit. My sister has learned to just do it to keep the peace. I have asked the triplets if they get mad when they have to wash her and the babies clothes. They say that they never get mad. Everyone gets mad. The truth of the matter is, they are not allowed to get mad. When I inquired further, I could hear the anger in their voices. The triplets work so hard all the time. They are excellent students. Both girls have a 3.7 GPA and the boy has a 3.0. Their fathers hast to force them to stop working and go to bed. When I tried to speak to my sister about it, she said that maybe this is just something that they have to go through. I left it at that. My niece and I had got into it before I moved in, but we were speaking again and I assume we had buried the hachet and everything was fine between us. But the very first time that she did not get her way, we were at it again. She was my first niece and my favorite out of the eleven. So I will admit that I did a lot to spoil her. I wanted her to feel good about herself and be a happy person. She was born when I was eighteen years old and she was the first to be the closest thing to a child of my own. Now, I can hardly sttand her. I love her dearly, but I do not like her at all. I am very disappointed in the way that she turned out. Although, it is no ones fought, she needs to work to let go of the past. Her problems started when she was five years old and the triplets were born. Her mom and stepfather did not have the time to spoil and indulge her as they once had. Now they had, not one or two, but three babies to tend to and if I know my sister, her oldest did her share of pitching in and helping out. When they were younger, I would come over to visit and the oldest would abuse the triplets and it would upset me when my sister would say that she was only doing that because I was there. She wanted me all to herself and whenever I would give them any kind of attention, she would start abusing them. I would always let her know that I was not happy at all about her behavior. They were as much my family as she was. This made her even more mad. So now she is acting as if the triplets owe her something and my sister and her husband are playing her game, and making the triplets do ust about everything for them, because this is what keeps the peace. But it has never and will never work for me.