A Friend In Need
By kerriannc
@kerriannc (4279)
Jamaica
April 18, 2009 10:32pm CST
There is an old saying on my island that A Friend In Need Is A Friend Indeed. How many times we think that we indeed have a wonderful friendship with a person and when time comes for he/she to show the true meaning of friendship it left you hanging on a straw wondering what has just happen.
What do you do in situation such as this. Forget and move on or do you hold on to it. Forgiveness is divine but how do one just forgive and move on knowing that you treasure this friendship so much only to see it shattered.
I lost a friend today not because of anything that I did wrong but because I was there asking questions that I thought I should know the answers for me to be more convince only to have it backfired. But such is life isn't it you want to know this person more but that person just sees you as someone who has some information that you could assist with and mission accomplished and so moving on.
Whoever comes up with the saying that life is a struggle is indeed right because for one to overcome whether in friendship, marriage etc you have to struggle to fully enjoy the meaning of it.
Have A Nice Day
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5 responses
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
20 Apr 09
hi fwiddy, well we have thrashed out our misunderstanding and so we are friends again. I am glad that we are still friends because I will come to depend on it.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
19 Apr 09
It could be that the questions you asked this friend made him or her uncomfortable. No one knows the workings of the human minds or what experiences shaped it, so even the person has the head knowledge, that friend may have felt uncomfortable answering you.
Another thing is the way you asked, you may have made him or her feel as they were accusing him or her, or demanding that he or she give you the response you want.
It sounds like this friend did hurt you in the past and you wanted to know the reason why so you asked questions, and maybe did not expect the usual "I did not think about it at the time."
So let it go for now, it maybe in time, he or she will feel comfortable about answering your question.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
19 Apr 09
Hey suspenseful yes you are right. The way I asked the question is what brought up the reaction. He has never hurt me before but to tell you the truth I am thankful that this has happen because it allows me to realized that the way I ask questions sometimes it is not actually asking but more accusation. So we have talked over it and now our friendship has resumed.
Sometimes things happened for us to look inside ourselves and re-arrange the things that we are doing wrong. All the best.
@neerajpandey_13 (1765)
• India
19 Apr 09
Yes, you are completely right. But getting this type of friend is very difficult in itself. In these days when everybody is selfish how can you identify right person.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
19 Apr 09
Good friends are few and far between. We all have our flaws.. we all have our tough times and times of need where perhaps we don't reciprocate as much as we should... But in my life, I have no room for fair weathered friends... there is only so long that I will put up with the take but no give behavior before I remove them from my life, as I have done recently. It hurts, but I had to look after my own health and well being too.
@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
19 Apr 09
I have the blessing of having more than a handful of very good friends. It seems that all those other people that I thought once they were friends but weren´t moved on a long time ago and I don´t even remember them anymore. Now the best have decanted and some of them haveadopted me now that I´m alone.
With these friends, I don´t think I have ever had to forgive anything.
Take care
