I miss my family but........

You shouldn't feel guilty to be honest. While you moved with good intent and went out of your way with your lives, you simply can't keep your lives revolving around the lives that are ending. Your family members wouldn't want you to feel guilt for things that are relatively beyond your control. I've been in a very similar situation before and beating yourself up over it is NOT the way to go. Your family may miss the children, and it's good that they express this, but they should not be emphasizing the "move back" part. You have to be able to live your own life and you have the right and need to be able to do this without the added guilt trip, whether it's intentional or not. Your intuition and heart will tell you where you need to be and when if you listen carefully. Try to focus on where you are at the moment, because the very moment is the only guarantee that we have in life. Good luck!

I think thats the best choise that u make, your family should undertand the situation, you are doing the good for your husband father

Remember I too was in that same situation. I was away from all my friends and family for about 7 years. I know how it feels to be alone, famiy wise anyway. My family is indeed a rare breed to deal with but they accept you which is something that doesn't come easily for them.

I never have had to move but one time in my life. My parents and I didn't move out of town. We just moved into a new house out in the country. Michigan is a long way from Florida and I can understand why you would miss your family so, being that far away from home. However, it sounds like to me that your family is trying to make you feel guilty. I'm sure they miss you, too, but they'll just have to deal with it. I hope that didn't sound cold. If it does, I don't mean for it to. What I mean to say is, they'll get used to it.

I went through a very similar situation a few years ago. My husband and I decided to move to VA for better oportunites. My husbands best friend lives down their with his family and owned a business so it would allow my husband and I to get right into a job. We had our son then and he was only about two then. All of our family lived back in PA and after a few months of living there my mom started calling and asking when we were coming back and how much she missed me and her grandson. Well I found out that I was pregnant after a few months of being down there. We did fairly well money wise while we were there but we also had to work long hours...it got very strenuous after awhile while being pregnant and then having my mom on my back all the time saying how much she missed me..it really got to me. I had all of these hormones racing through me at the time and was so homesick. I had lived out of my town before and being we didn't know anyone other than my husbands best friend and his family it was hard. Long story short..we ended up moving back to our hometown and honestly there are a lot of times that I regret it. I mean I really did miss my family but the opportunities were way better there. We have adjusted really well to being back here again and have been back here for almost nine years. I would do what is best your family(husband and kids) and even though it is really hard at times there reaches a point where you have to take care of yourself. Your family should understand that this is a better way for you. Everyones grows up and moves on and will always miss each other. But trust me if that is what is really best for you and your are happy there besides missing your family you should stay. I would rather miss my family and stay out there then come back to please someone else and regret it in the long run. It may be hard but you should tell your family that this is what is best for you and even though it is hard that they should be happy that you are happy and doing well with your life. There are always ways to visit one another to make it a bit easier but you can't please everyone~ No matter what you do someone will be upset. You need to do what you think it best. Good Luck!!!

im too far to my family,because im working right now... its hard for me to be far away from them but can i do? i have to be strong here,coz im working for them,...

Always do what your heart tells you. Peace