Im not Indian, should l wear Sari, when joining Indian wedding ceremony?
By myfb2009
@myfb2009 (8296)
Malaysia
April 19, 2009 1:58am CST
This Tuesday, l will be going to my ex-colleague's wedding ceremony. My ex-colleague is an Indian. She had asked me to wear Indian custom wear when attending her wedding. My problem is, l don't really know how to wear the sari, as l never wear it before. But, this is her special request, so l don't want to disappoint her. Can anyone give me some guide on how can l wear sari or other better idea?
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30 responses
@ahilanman (51)
• Canada
19 Apr 09
ya you should go with sari ? if go in sari they all will happy to see you ? inif go in yellow colour sari it will express a good mood as we are in good mood so? sari are good think because it simple and cover hole body so it not show any sexy so it good to were sari ?
@ahilanman (51)
• Canada
19 Apr 09
thanks send my messeage how others think about in the funcation ?
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
7 May 09
The wedding was wonderful and yes, i had a great few hours at the wedding ceremony.. Only i felt very tired the next day because i had been practising the earlier hours on how to wear and walk while wearing the saree. Because it was my first time experience wearing a saree...
@SViswan (12051)
• India
20 Apr 09
You don't need to wear a sari if you are not comfortable. It takes a little practice to drape the sari and also to walk in it. So, this wouldn't be the right time to try it out.
There are other Indian traditional wear. One is the salwar-kameez or churidar. It's like a pant and long shirt...and you can get various designs and colours...grand ones, simple ones...and you won't feel uncomfortable in it. You will also get a dupatta (something like a longer stole) with it that goes with the whole ensemble.
Another option is the gagra-choli....which is a long skirt and a short/long blouse with the dupatta. If you are not comfortable showing your midrif, you can opt for a longer blouse. This is closer to a sari than and salwar/kameez or churidar and easier to handle than a sari.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 09
Thanks for your suggestion. Yes, i ever thought of it but after my friend had requested me to wear saree, then i decided to give it a try..Maybe next time, i can try wearing some of those that you had mentioned here, during Deepavali celebration in my country..
@nee_raks (205)
• India
19 Apr 09
Hii Friend! Anyone could wear a sari and would look beautiful too as this is such a pretty dress. You are also setting a very good example of friendship and a good human by deciding to wear a dress which is not just difficult to wear but you might feel uncomfortable too. And all this for not to dissappoint your Indian friend. I am pleased being an Indian.
My suggestion is just ask her to help you or any woman you know from Indian community. They would certainly help you dear and wish You a Happy Enjoying at Wedding ceremony too.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
20 Apr 09
make it easy,, youtube shows you,, type how to wear a saree,, sari India,or phrase like that,u will see a lot
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
25 Apr 09
You are welcome MYFB, how as the occasion?,,and am sure you looked pretty in the saree
@SHEKHAR3009 (162)
• India
19 Apr 09
hi
its not necessary that u have to wear sari...u can wear indian cotton kurta or
khadi kurta with six packet jean....it will look dashing...people will watch u
from top they will feel indian...coz people in eyes....
bye
luv
shek
india
@SHEKHAR3009 (162)
• India
3 May 09
hi
ok no problem u can wear whenever and wherever u feel like...can i see ur pic...
are u married or single..i am still in search of soulmate.
bye
luv
shek
india
@opinder (420)
• India
21 Apr 09
hi there. seems like u have decided to wear a sari. well, what you have to do is:
1. tie the petticot tightly at the waist. its more like a skirt. it is there to support the sari.
2. take the farther end (pallu) of the sari ( the one that will come on the shoulder)and make folds holding the shorter end. the palu
3. place this end on the shoulder to see what lenth you wish to leave hanging loose. the pallu comes from front on the left shoulder.
4. then take the other end of the sari and tuck it into the petticot at the front covering almost the entire front. the loose part should be facing right.
5. bring the rest of the cloth around from behind while tucking in the petticot.
6. now u have to make pleates. once u have tucked the sari till middle ( in line with your navel) start folding the restt of sari into pleates (around 4inches wide)till u reach the point where it starts going over the shoulder. -the pleates should face left and the pallu should come around from behind.-
7. now tuck all the pleates together neatly into the petticot. pin up the pleates and the pallu on the shoulder using safety pins
It takes lot of practice to get it right. u could ask ur colleague or her cousins to help u.
Also....there is option of wearing a salwar suit. u can get readymade ones and get them fitted if needed. u can find plenty of variety in suits depending on where u live. i wish i could show you how to do it. maybe this will help. gud luck
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Nov 12
I think Indians are very generous and they will be happy to see you wear Sari even if you are not an Indian. Nothing can be much more joyful to see a foreigner wear our national dress. It is just like I will be glad if you wear "qi pao" If you don't know how to wear Sari, you can ask your ex-colleague to tell you. They will be happy to show you.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 12
Yes, i was wearing Sari to that special occasion and many people are surprised to see me in Sari. Because they never saw me wear Sari, while working in the office.
Sometimes, i do wear "Qi pao", during Chinese New Year time, to visit my relatives homes. It is much easier to wear "Qi pao" than wearing the Sari.
@MAHESH2008 (844)
• India
26 Apr 09
HI freind you should wear sari in this wedding ceremony. You will find yourself entirely different and very cute. Its better if you can ask some one who is present thier from india and know indian sari wearing nicely. I can assure you you will look more beautiful in sari than in normal dress and may be the eye catcher for everyone.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 09
Thanks for your opinion. Yes, i wear saree when i attended my ex-colleague's wedding ceremony that day. Im also quite surprised when i saw myself in the mirror. I had transformed into a different person after my coleague's sister had helped me to make-over..
@TenmaMetsuki (452)
• Bahrain
20 Apr 09
hmmm.. I tried it on once, to my sister's engagement party, Sari was quite the hype when it came to dressing up for engagement or marriage parties at that time around here. I didn't find it hard, not at all, it was quite easy, I even figured it out all on my own. But if you already tried and still didn't get it, you could ask this colleague of yours to help you, can't you? She might be busy with the wedding and all, but I'm sure she can find the time to properly teach you after she told you to wear it herself.
@sunfeienglish (4)
• China
20 Apr 09
As we all know that when you in rome do as the romans do!in my opinion,you should do according their's custom.their is no doubt that it's time for you to do something for your friend,without sacrifice for friendship,it can't be a good friendship,on the other way,learning is not a bad thing for everybody!as the way you learn how to wear sari,you wil learn a lot about the custom of indian.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
19 Sep 11
Well the occassion is over now, but one can wear a saree looking at 'saree wearing video' in you tube, it helps a lot, try it lol..
Thanks for sharing
Have a nice day ahead.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 11
Thanks for dropping by into my old discussion, Grandpa Professor. Hope you don't mind. That's is the only occasion that i ever wear saree in my life. It only lasted for a few hours. Although it is quite difficult to wear since it is my first time but i managed to let the saree stick to my body until i go home. I am glad that at least i don't have bad experience with wearing saree. One of my colleagues, who is an Indian, she wear her saree in a hurry and she had to re-fix them in the ladies room, every time she came to work in saree. Seems like, wearing saree needs time and patience to be able to wear it beautifully wrapped around our body. Hope you and Grandma are doing fine with both of you health now...
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
20 Sep 11
Welcome grandaughter, i have a god daughter in Kualalumpur (may be spelling is wrong), she is chinese-indian mixed, she wears saree most of the time..
Best of luck.
Professor
@muru1950 (963)
• India
20 Apr 09
Hi myfb2009
I am happy to know that you want to attend your friend's marriage in Saree.
Though I don't want to discourage you,I like to give you my suggestions.
In a marriage function,mostly ladies wear costly silk sarees.Do you want to spend so much money?Secondly,you have to stitch a fitting blouse.Above all,if you are wearing for the first time,you will find it very uncomfortable,even to walk.
Instead of that you can try a churidar dress,which is also a Indian dress.Photo enclosed.
I will be more happy to read your discussion,if you write your experience with a saree,if you attend the marriage in saree.
Happy mylotting
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
25 Apr 09
Thanks for responding. I am happy to receive your opinion but, i had decided to wear my saree, as i had already tailor-made a set, just for this special function. Yes, it's quite expensive, but luckily i only spend on buying the materials. My neighbor had helped me to sew the blouse until it was completed. But, i am happy because this was my first time being invited to join an indian wedding. It's worth remembering..
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
Well I guess they would understand if you wear a non traditional dress in their wedding being a non Indian yourself. But if you can wear the proper dress code for the occasion I think would be better for you to do it but you should maybe consult a fashion designer there to ask what is the appropriate attire for you to wear on that occasion.
@larrynicholas (404)
• India
20 Apr 09
Hi,
Though I am a Indian I dont feel that it is a must to wear a sari while attending an Indian wedding. The only thing that one should be aware of is you ought to look presentable. Wearing beach ware and such clothing is a big NO. So just look presentable as best as possible and that should do.
Larry
@amidala (31)
• China
20 Apr 09
HI,mybf2009,
You could ask one india woman for professional help.you could choose one fovorite color and certain style which is suit you.
Wearing a sari is sooooo graceful.
The elegance of a sari is mind boggling. When worn properly, it drapes, yards of yards of material make you look so pretty.
And i am actually thinking about wearing a thin sari in summer is a so sexy diea.
@Tuanshun (138)
• China
20 Apr 09
hi,there! I want to say something may help to you. have you ever seen the movie Bride and Prejudice. i saw it couple days ago. it is really an amazing film. In the movie, you can see very beautiful and interesting wedding in the town. so so many people in the town come to the wedding, singing and dancing, enmerged in the ocean of happiness. and, maybe you can dress just like them to your friend's wedding, futher the film is really worthy to enjoy!