What is the most selfish thing you've ever done?

I think that the most selfish thing I did was to tell someone I wasn't interested through a poem (precisely because he said he liked me through a poem). I shouldn't have been that mean to anyone. I could have just smiled and said no. So I guess that being mean is what I mean by being selfish - being inconsiderate, to be more precise :) I do respect myself, but I know that I also have to respect others. Thanks for the response on my discussion!

I think being selfish is ONLY thinking of yourself and your own gain and not caring about the consequences your actions might be. There is a fine line between this and being self centered. Those who are self centered think about themselves alot, they do care about others however and there is the difference. There action or inaction may effect others, but it is much more passive then those who are selfish and will hurt others to get what they want. I think I'm guilty of the latter - being self centered. When I moved to San Francisco for a change I soon had a boyfriend who was perfect in many ways. Smart, articulate, artsy. Practical too with a good work ethic. He knew how to hold up his end of the conversation, both by active listening and coming up with topics on his own. He was very loyal to me and his friends. And he was cute and had a great sense of humour to boot. It ws just a little crowded in the relationship with Mr Hyde in there along with Dr Jekyl. This side of him that was a horrible boyfriend. So I moved back to my then home state, I got a three bedroom townhouse with a friend and we soon found another friend for the smallest room. We could afford it easily with all of us renting. We even talked about buying a house together. Then he started calling. He was such a genuis, he knew exactly the right words to say. Very romantic and poetic. If it were a lifetime movie I'd be yelling at the heroine (me!) not to listen - to change my number. Anyway, he kept at it for quite a while and I finally decided to move back. Leaving my two roomates - especially my best friend high and dry. We paid the bulk of the rent as we had the big bedrooms. And really we needed all of us. It worked out okay for her as she did what we both planned to do - she found a really nice two bedroom to buy and the mortgage was less then our rent for a super nice place. The guy renting with us was her renter and offset her mortgage even more. Still and all I was very self centered by giving in, I was trying to lessen his pain and wanted the artificial reality he wove. The second time I moved back, I did give him my number but didn't listen and he soon stopped calling. Much to his relief and that of our mutual friends as he used to curl himself up in a ball on the living room floor and cry. But I couldn't give in to his pain - in this case I had to be selfish and think of myself.

I think this really makes sense, because if you do not even know how to love, you konw, how to love others? because for each individual, he is the most important, it can not be said to be selfish, this is a very realistic question.

I think being selfish is like taking a gift and not saying thank you or just being ungrateful, i would have to say the most selfish thing ive done is gone out to get myself something and didnt bring back anything for anyone else.