Love Vs. Hate
@rhilovesnathan (39)
United States
April 19, 2009 9:42pm CST
Ok so for those of you who havent read my other discussions long story short im in love with this guy we were together about a year, then out of no where he asked for a break, says he still loves me, and we're going to get back together sometime down the road he's just not sure when. We still talk alot and we still see each other sometimes and he still tells me he loves me everytime we talk. But anyways umm.. he stopped by today, out of nowhere he just like started making out with me. (not that i didnt like it) but it just caught be by surprise. he was only over about 15 mins but when he was here as soon as he got here he came into my room layed next to me and just started holding me. im not sure what to think about this. i mean yea when we see each other he kisses me and gives me a hug but usually its only a normal kiss and a hug right before he leaves and sometimes we'll sorta cuddle. but it hasnt been like this since the break up. so what does this mean?
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
I don't want to sound rude hon or anything, but stop giving him benefits because he'll only think that he don't need to commit to you and can just use you anytime he wants to without strings since you're not really together.
Let him work for your worth. After all, it was he who broke up with you!
Stop talking to him, stop letting him kiss you and cuddle etc. Let him know that you were hurt for him breaking up with you and that you are not some girl who he can just leave and act as if nothing happened.
If he really does love you, he'd be begging for you to stay or to be with him again.
If not, he'll remain a J*RK forever.
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@rsa101 (38194)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
I think you're right about that. Allowing him without anything declared is something like he is playing on with her. I think the girl should show that he is only welcome to do that if he can commit and not just stay there and once he is satisfied then he'll go again. I really think he is playing around with this non commitment thingy since the guy already knows she has a soft spot for him that she cannot deny.
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@rhilovesnathan (39)
• United States
20 Apr 09
thank you all for the advice. I get what your saying. but it is hard to just stop talking to him and stuff. he was such a big part of my life. and its hard for me to just push him out like that. I really do love him.
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