Why would a doctor get mad because we no longer came to appointments anymore?
By cream97
@cream97 (29085)
United States
April 20, 2009 4:47am CST
My son went to the dentist in February. And the receptionist asked me when we would be moving to another city. I told her in July of this year. It seemed like his dentist got mad about this. When it was time for my son to be seen in the room. He was telling the dentist that he wanted me to come in the examination room to watch him get his teeth cleaned, the dentist told him, let mommy stay in there with your sisters. She told him that he was a big boy. Any other time, this dentist had no problem with me coming in the examination room. I was wondering about her attitude. I believe that she got mad because she found out that we would be moving to another city. But, my son will still have her as his dentist, that will never change. She must have thought that she would lose my son as her patient. But that was not the case here. I told the receptionist that we still would travel from our new location to this dentist office. He only goes here every six months anyway.
The next story is about my Chiropractic. I had to go his office last week to pick my medical records up, and his wife, which was the receptionist was talking to me. And, the doctor was just finsished seeing a patient. So, he was wrapping up a conversation and telling him that he hopes that he feels better and that for him to have a great weekend. The doctor sees me and he did not even speak. The last time that I went to this doctor was in December of 2008. My doctor visits ran out. I am only allowed to have 12 visits per year. My insurance will only cover this time length. Anything after that, I would have to pay out of my pocket. The receptionist said that I would have to pay up to $30.00, I believe. I got the feeling that my doctor was mad at me because I no longer have appointments with him.
I understand that they are about making money. They are not losing us as patients, why can't they see that? Now, if I came into the office and said that I no longer want him/her to treat me, then it is a problem then! If I am still their patient, why the attitude? Why do doctors do this? Have you had a similar experience, please share. Thanks!



7 responses
@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
20 Apr 09
Haha, i guess doctors too can have their practice go bankrupt if there are no patients yea? Haha, but i still think they shouldn't get mad at us for that....If they're good, they will definately attract patients and have their old ones staying loyal to them...=] Yea i had, with a dentist of mine...Totally gave me the cold shoulders...There were like question marks hovering above my head when they did that to me...haha, thinking back i thought it was funny...Because he found out that i was still coming back as a patient..^_^
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
maybe because they care for us??? or that they still need our cash??? lol
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
20 Apr 09
I guess I have different doctors than you do. I have never had one treat me this way. I'm very careful about the doctors I choose for my family to see. Many of them, we have been seeing for many years, and our primary care doctro we have returned to after living in another city for several years and then moving back.
I'm thinking you might need to just make a clean break from them all and start over.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
20 Apr 09
Hi cream97,
I don't think it is like that here in the uk as we don't have insurance, we have National Health Services or private. I have never had a doctor behaving like that towards me.
Tamara
@stagewhisper (901)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Sometimes doctors have a bad day, and changing up appointments or moving away can upset them when, normally, it wouldn't bother them nearly as much.
I work at a chiropractor's office, and honestly, the doctors try to be as friendly as they can to each and every person who comes in. However, these two people treat a total of 5000 or more patients these days, and that's quite a lot to cover! Normally they recognize the ones who come in the most often more, and will remember more about that person... which will lead to them chatting a bit more often.
It's probably nothing personal, at least not on the chiropractor's end. He likely either had trouble remembering you and didn't want to make any mistakes when he spoke, or was having a bad day. Please, give doctors a little credit; they have a tough job, and sometimes we tend to make things tougher on them- whether we mean to or not.
@chesaid (104)
• Philippines
20 Apr 09
i do believe that doctors are really concern with their patient. missing an appointment will actually ruin the treatment or therapy flow. doctors have their time table of each patient, for them to check if the treatment of therapy is effective to their patient. if ever not, they will extend the appointment.
But there are really doctors who are for "money" only. aside from being a doctor they have other career, "business man."
better next time, ask your doctors how long the treatment course will be. because i really see this reaction from patients. at first, they leave everything to their doctors but they won't really comply to the doctors treatment course...
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@cream97 (29085)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Hi, chesaid, I do agree with you to a certain extent, but it still gives the doctor no reason to act like he don't want to speak to his patient. He should still display a friendly attitude, regardless.
His wife did tell me that he is worried about me, because she can tell. I respect that. And being that I am not working, I am unable to just afford his visits every two weeks at the moment. If I don't go as scheduled, I will still have the Herniated Disc in my lower back. This condition is permanent, not ending anytime soon. And it is expected to last at least a year. Which it already has. I am not leaving everything to my doctor, but if I can't afford to go to him then I just can't. When I get the money, I will go.


@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Hey cream! Unfortunately, I have had this very same problem!
Some doctors are only about the money! And if that is the
case and their attitude changes like that then I would not
continue to see them at all! I would go find myself another
doctor! They are aware that some people can only have a certain
amount of visits per year. What difference does it make to
them? The are still getting paid! They have other patients
that will either pay them the out of pocket costs or have
better insurance! I wouldn't tolerate that type of behavior
from a doctor or his staff!
