Lovers end up to best friend is a joke
By doncruise21
@doncruise21 (394)
Philippines
April 20, 2009 5:13am CST
For me, I don't believe that your ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend can be your best friend especialy if she's the one asking it from you. Its such a joke that you end up that way because it make no sense at all. We are only hurting our selv'es if we allow this thing to occur in our life. Its so hard to accept and letting go a felings but it hurts you more if you let the one you love so deeply to be your best friend in the end. Its a hard feeling and it will only hurt you bit by bit. I have this experience that the girl i love so much ask me to be her best friend but i refuse. Because in the end, I know it will just hurt me each day.
"best friends can be lovers but never lovers to be best firnds"
7 responses
@fanxiangqian (185)
• China
20 Apr 09
My god! I am going through the same thing,My girl friend wants to say googbye,but she hopes to be my sister,what can i do?
@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
the best thing to do is to move-on bro, and part of it is leaving everything about her. Its hard because like me, i still struggle to do that but as what people say, time heals wounds. So go on with your life. It will just hurt you each day if you dont cut the relationship you have with her.
@Canteen (592)
• China
21 Apr 09
i can't agree you more. after i broke up with my first boyfriend, he wanted to be my friend, and i refused him and i know he didn't really love me, or at least he didn't love me that deeply. just imagine, i love one person very much, and he only wants to be my friend, so i have to hide my love and be affected by his emotion everyday. what a torture. i prefer no contact, anyway, time can heal any wounds.
@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
Thanks canteen,
yeah you made the right decision with that matter. We need to face the reality that it won't work because it will cause pain. Time can heal the wounds but it requires sacrifices and willingness to move-on. It wont heal if you keep that person still be a part of your life because it will only break your heart each day.
Thanks for the response =)
@xomgitskamax (937)
• United States
20 Apr 09
i totally agree
things just become awkward and then you get upset because you are not with them anymore. It defiantly does not work.
@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
hi there
and i think this will help us to maturity when loving. It will help us and develope the skills of letting go. period =)
@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
Yeah, even me, If im the one ending a relationship, I do not hesitate to still have communication to my ex because I know the felling. Its like playing the heart of that person. Your need to be considerate that this kind of ending will not help the person to move-on with their life. I think this kind of relationship only exist on showbiz hahaha....which i think they are only fooling their selves.
@janiceines (799)
• Singapore
20 Apr 09
i agree with you, don't say best friends, i think most of them cannot be friend
@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
yeah just say, "I can never be your bestfriend". Because I believe that it will just hurt you each day to see the person you love so much but she considers you as her as friend.
@shiwangipeswani (613)
• India
20 Apr 09
Hello freind
i agree completely with you no exlover can be our best freind,the feeling cant be changed .If some one is saying so it is utter nonsense.
@doncruise21 (394)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
thanks shiwangipeswani,
Haha yeah thats why, im starting to leave everything and every means of communication that my ex-girlfriend will have. It's her lost anyway not mine =)
