Ex in Prison
By roxannekight
@roxannekight (67)
United States
April 20, 2009 3:42pm CST
Ok, so just this month my ex husband who is the father of two of my children got sentenced to at least 4 months in prison. My kids are extremely upset that they wont get to see their dad for that long. I keep biting my tongue, but the SOB needs to be in prison for a lot longer than that. He is not a good influence on the kids, he is a drug abuser, not to mention a total loser. I have not had the heart to take them away from him, he only gets to see them periodically, and I have been a nosey mom and when things are going really bad for him, I try to keep them with me to shelter them from all the drama and problems in his life. Sometimes it isnt so easy to do though. Anyway, he is in prison and I have 4 great months to spend with my kids without their stupid fathers influence in their lives. Is this wrong of me?
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@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
20 Apr 09
No, it's not wrong at all. It would seem that your exhusband with some of his behavior is being quite selfish and probably setting a bad example for them. Younger children by nature generally love their parents.. Their parents are their god, sun, moon, and universe, and it's difficult for them to see properly what is going on around them. If they're young, they've also had limited experiences to see the outcomes of other people who have been living and raised in similar situations.
@roxannekight (67)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Well with my ex things have gotten so bad in his life that my soon to be 15 year old daughter doesnt even want to see him. He doesnt even try to bridge the gap between them. It is horrible.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
20 Apr 09
Hmm in your shoes, based from only what you've said it sounds like if there were to be any visiting, I would highly insist it be supervised and if he still chose to act like that, to either force it into court and take the gamble, or if he has no rights.. tough love for him!
@roxannekight (67)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Well that could cause a problem in itself. Then he could play the victim and my kids wont like me for keeping them away from their father. I try to make him be responsible, and even though we have joint custody, I make ALL the decisions, even whether the get to go to his house or not. So Im not worried about the custody issue really. Im just glad to have him out of my life for awhile.
